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Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Apparently, one of past brides biggest regrets is not hiring a videographer so they can relive their wedding day over and over again. If you think this might be you…read on to make sure you get one that is right for you.

Start by researching wedding videographers in your area and reading reviews to find potential suppliers that match your wedding vision and budget. When you’re ready to reach out and possibly negotiate a contract with a videographer, there are several questions to ask them that you should keep top of mind.

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Here are the top 10 questions to ask a videographer before your wedding day.

 

1. What is your videography style?

There are many styles of videography. Whether it is documentary or cinematic, it is important to discuss the type of video style you want and make sure they offer it.

2. How do you choose the music for the film?

Discussing music is a great idea because it plays such an important part of your wedding film. You will be able to let your videographer know the types of genres you like and you can provide a list of songs for them to choose from.

3. Have you worked with my photographer before?

Your photographer and videographer will be working side by side, so you should make sure they know how to work as a team while capturing your big day. If they haven’t, make sure they are amenable to meeting them beforehand.

4. When will I receive my wedding video?

Editing can take a while, especially during wedding season. Therefore, it is always a good idea to ask when you will receive your final video so you will know when to expect it.

5. How long have you been filming weddings?

This will give you a better understanding of how long your videographer has been in the industry. You should also ask to see their previous work whether they are new to the industry or old. Checking out previous work will also help make sure you don’t fall foul to wedding scammers as a legitimate videographer will be happy to share their work.

6. What equipment will you use?

There are always new methods as well as technology, so it is a good idea to make sure your videographer is up-to-date with the most reliable equipment. If they are using drones, for example, do they have a licence to fly them?

7. Have you shot at my venue before?

This is a great question to see if the videographer is familiar with your venue. If they have shot there before, they will know the ins and outs of the area. If they have not shot at your venue before, then you may want to ask if they will visit before the day of your wedding.

8. What is your editing process?

Editing can be done in many ways and some types of editing can change the quality of your video film. Asking how your videographer edits their videos will let you know what kind of videos they produce.

9. What packages do you offer?

Videographers usually offer a variety of different packages and deals. You should discuss what package you want such as, having both a trailer video and your wedding highlight film. Or even see if they will do a same-day edit too!

10. Do you have a second shooter?

Having a second shooter is like having another set of eyes at your wedding. This ensures that nothing will be missed during the getting ready process, ceremony, reception, and all the good stuff in between.

That’s a wrap! I hope you found that useful.

 

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How To Celebrate Your Cancelled Wedding Day

How To Celebrate Your Cancelled Wedding Day

This is a blog I never in my wildest dreams expected to write. Ending up with a postponed wedding is never in anyone’s wedding plans. But sometimes life throws you a major curveball and the best you can do as a couple is to navigate it together. In the time of COVID-19, in the wake of a close one’s diagnosis or encountering financial hardship, there are a number of reasons that couples can find themselves having to change the date of their wedding day.

Whilst all manner of emotions and grief are completely normal in making this decision, just know that a postponement is just that, a postponement. Your wedding day will arrive. And it will be all the more joyous and sweet because of what you and your partner have been through. Love isn’t cancelled!

So what do you do when the day your wedding should have been on finally rolls around? Cancel the world and stay under your duvet? Maybe. Or use it as a way to extend the celebration of your love and commitment to each other? Even if that does mean cancelling everything and staying under your duvet together. But if you want to get creative and make it even more memorable, here are some ideas (feel free to choose as many as you like)…

Get Dressed Up

Let’s face it, it’s been a while since we all slung on a dress or smart shirt. So why not let this be your occasion to don your fancy things and get dressed up for each other? Wear what makes you feel the most beautiful, for yourself and that partner of yours.

Get Dressed Down

Love lazing about in your joggies/PJs? Then invest in a new set specially for the day and get cosy together. Or have a naked Saturday instead. No one’s watching. Except maybe your other half… Which ain’t no bad thing 😉

Wearing White

You know those chic registry weddings or elopements, where the bride wears something really understated and stylish in white? Channel that vibe. Or slink around your house in your partner’s white shirt. If it’s white and makes you feel great, it’s fair game.

Wear Your Veil / Tie / Shoes

Have a piece of your wedding day outfit that you’d like to get more than one wear out of? Then fasten that veil or knot that tie for a bit of extra luxe. Or you could use this as an excellent excuse to break in your wedding shoes for the big day’s final arrival.

Have A Fancy Dinner

Have a favourite meal? Something fancy or spendy? Maybe you have a penchant for truffles or great seafood? Source some and treat yourselves to a rich, extravagant meal. Many restaurants are still offering takeaway if you don’t fancy eating out just yet.

Have A Picnic

Love a picnic spread? Why not buy in all of your favourite snacky foods, cheeses, grapes, antipasto etc. Spread out a rug in your garden or on your living room floor and have at it.

Bake A Wedding Cake

Love whipping out the mixing bowl? Then use this excuse to bake (and of course later, eat) a cake of your choice. It could be that red velvet you’d ordered for your original date,  or you could go all traditional and bake a fruit cake. Anything goes. And yes, you do get to lick the spoon.

Open Your Wedding Wine

Have you been stocking up on wine and fizz for your wedding day? Well lucky you, because you now have a bit more time to replenish those supplies, so pop that cork and enjoy the fruits of your wine collecting labour today.

Bucks Fizz In Bed

Pop some fizz, toast each other and have a luxurious breakfast in bed. There is no reason you can’t stay there for the rest of the day, snoozing, reading, watching TV and… Enjoying each other’s company.

Toast Each Other

You two are incredible. And the fact that together you can jump this hurdle and come back strong for your postponed wedding day is worthy of a toast. A toast to teamwork, to your support network, to each other.

Cut A Cake, Any Cake

Don’t feel like Mary Berry-ing your way to a wedding cake, then don’t. That’s what M&S is for. Or Tesco, or Aldi. Pick up your supermarket cake of choice and cut it / eat it together.

Creme De la Cake

Want cake to celebrate your original date, but want the best of the best? Then ask your cake maker if there is a way for them to bake a small single tier version of your postponed wedding cake and have it safely delivered. You’re helping support your supplier and getting to eat fancy cake. Win-win.

Cook Your Wedding Menu

Enjoy cooking together? Or fancy giving it a go for a laugh? Pour your favourite tipple and have a go at cooking your wedding menu. Then have a moment to marvel at the caterers who manage to do this for 100+ people all at one time!

Order Your Fave Takeaway

Or ditch the thought of lifting a pot lid and order in your fave takeaway if they’re available. Order those sides and starters too!

Share Your Day

Zoom in your guests / bridal party / nearest and dearest so you can all have a laugh and lift each other’s spirits. And recognise that one day in the not too distant future, you’ll all be together celebrating your wedding. And what a party that day will be!

Quiz Night

You could spend the day with your love, then at night get on a group call with a twist. Ask family to get dressed up fancy, or to fancy dress. Choose someone like the best man or maid of honour to create a Mr & Mrs Quiz.

Dance Your First Dance

Your speaker is your band and your kitchen is your dancefloor. Press play, get close and dance to your song. It may be the most tender and intimate dance you have in your life.

Decorate Your House

Have decor set aside for your wedding day? Pop it around your house and get double duty out of your investment. Alternatively order some white streamers and paper decs online and make your home feel all wedding day festive.

Fairy Lights

If in doubt, fairy lights. A sure-fire way to make things feel more intimate, cosy and special. Use the ones you have set aside for your wedding day or dig some out of the Christmas box in the loft. A little something to make your home feel special for a day.

Indulgent Netflix Day

Why not shut out the world and turn your living room into the perfect binge-watching haven? Tilt the blinds, get the duvets down, load up on snacks and pick a show to get lost in… all. day. long.

Say Your Vows

You may feel this is something you’d rather keep for standing at the top of the aisle. Or you may love the idea of vows spoken privately to mark the day you were due to be wed. Fair Warning: You will cry and that’s okay.

A Reminisce Playlist

The fact that you’re getting married likely means that you and your partner have a history and memories. More often than not there are songs that conjure up memories for you both. Take turns to choose and play songs that make you think of each other.

Wear Your Wedding Night Lingerie

Don’t let that racy lacey number lie in a box any longer. You could always treat yourself (and your other half) to another set for when the big day finally arrives.

Have A Gift List Shopping Spree

Have you planned a wedding gift list? You could use this time to map out what married life will look like together and add all of your wants to your gift list. Or you could add something special to the list as a treat to your future self for getting through this.

Write Each Other A Love Letter

You could either write that love letter to be opened on this, your original wedding date, or you could save it for the morning of your future wedding day. Just make sure you open it before you have your make up done.

 

A Couples Massage

You can’t exactly nip off for a spa day together, but if you and your partner love a bit of pampering, why not set the scene? Light some candles, burn aromatherapy oils and take turns giving each other a relaxing massage.

Ask For A Blessing

If you’ve got a religious ceremony planned and that aspect is important to you, you could always contact your celebrant and ask for a special blessing to be performed over video to mark the day.

Order A Floral Arrangement From Your Florist

You could pick up a supermarket bouquet along with your other essentials or you could treat yourself to a beautiful arrangement of your chosen wedding flowers for your home from your florist. Just contact them to see if they can arrange this and deliver in a way that is safe for both them and you.

Do Some Wedding Prep

Have a few DIY elements to your wedding day such as favours or a table plan? Now maybe the time to get cracking on as much of that as you can. It might be a good idea to leave names until closer to your new wedding date though to confirm RSVPs.

Plan your Honeymoon

It looks like we won’t be going anywhere for a while. But, that does mean that you can spend extra time saving for your honeymoon and plan ways to make it even more memorable. Take this time to do your research and plan out what you will do with your time to really make the most of it.

Treat Each Other To A Wedding Gift

You were probably thinking about buying each other a little something for your wedding day, so why not agree to treat this like an anniversary or the special occasion it is and get each other a pressie to open in the morning.

 

I’m well aware that because of keyworker requirements, caring for vulnerable relatives or just plain logistics, some of you may not even be able to be physically together on your original wedding date. Don’t let that stop you celebrating each other. Many of the treats above can be done virtually – except maybe that massage. So celebrate in your own way or bookmark the celebrations for the next day you’re together.

And for the rest of us who are lucky enough to spend this lockdown period with our loves, let’s celebrate that. Marriage is about love and commitment, but it is also about learning to endure and navigate problems together. Use this day to celebrate the love you have for each other and how amazingly your little team of two is navigating this hurdle. Your wedding day may be postponed, but on this day you have each other. And that is always worth celebrating.

How to downsize your wedding guest list

How to downsize your wedding guest list

Covid-19 has thrown up all kinds of questions you never thought you’d have to answer about your Wedding Day, from how to store your dress to how to mark your original wedding date from home. But for many of you downsizing or adjusting your wedding plans means looking at your guest list in a new way. So today, I’m sharing tips for how to make your guest list smaller, where to start with downsizing, and who should still make the cut.

 

How Many People Can We Invite To Our Wedding Post-COVID-19?

Alas, this isn’t a question I can answer just yet. What we have been told, however, is that the process of ‘getting back to normal’ will be a slow one. So we can assume, that given that mass gatherings were one of the first things to be curtailed, it will be some time before they are re-introduced. The Scottish Government has produced a route map that is being updated regularly.

We may see small weddings return sooner and permission for larger gatherings scaled up slowly, so depending on when your wedding is, it’s worth making lists for several different scenarios, eg: An immediate family guest list, a 50 person guest list and a 100 person guest list.

So the question to start with, is, “Who can we not get married without?”. These are the friends and family who, if you were getting married in the morning, you’d need to have there. Once you start with those people, every additional guest will feel like a bonus!

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Wedding at Culzean Castle with just 4 day guests

Who Should You Cut From Your Guest List?

The C and D List

Anyone who was late to be added to your guest list in the first place, will likely to be the first to go. We’re talking the C and D list, people who you’d love to have on the dance floor, but are not vitally important to your experience of the day.

  • These will be different for every couple but may include guests like work colleagues, friends of your parents, extended cousins, friends’ children, or old school pals, particularly any ‘obligatory’ invites.
  • Plus ones that you have never met or new relationship plus ones.

Vulnerable and Elderly Guests

I know the idea of cutting your granny from your guest list seems extremely harsh. But in the coming months, even as restrictions lift, we’re all going to have to play a role in safeguarding the most vulnerable in our society.

  • If you have vulnerable guests among your non-negotiables (like parents or siblings), it might be worth keeping some element of your wedding to immediate family members so you can accommodate and protect them.
  • Any elderly and vulnerable guests you can no longer invite will understand the situation. They may even be relieved that they aren’t expected to attend.
  • If it’s someone you’re close to (like a grandparent or close relative) think about visiting them in your wedding day attire, or sending them a bouquet of flowers to they know they are missed on the day.

Guests Travelling from Overseas

Again, I’m not suggesting you have to uninvite your best friend who lives in Australia. After all, most guests who planned on travelling for your big day are likely to be close pals or relatives. But if we’re realistic, it will be some time before international travel resumes with any regularity and may still require quarantine on either side. Letting your international guests know that you don’t expect them to attend your wedding will likely relieve the pressure on them, and certainly, lighten your guest list.

How To ‘Uninvite’ Guests To Your Wedding

If postponing your wedding isn’t an option. Try not to be disheartened, you can always have a big celebration down the line. Keep perspective that you’re getting to marry your other half, and the most important people will be there.

Don’t worry about offending guests by ‘uninviting’ them to your wedding. Everyone knows and understands the situation, so being clear and upfront is a good rule of thumb.

  • There is no hard and fast etiquette for this unprecedented time, but sending a personalised message rather than a blanket email is always the most polite thing to do.
  • That could be in the form of a phone call, a text, an email or a card in the post.
  • If you had yet to send invitations or save the dates, you don’t need to do any formal uninviting, though there may be some would-be guests you want to reach out to individuals to explain your change of plans.
  • To soften the blow, you can always come up with ways to virtually include your friends and family from afar let them know that you look forward to celebrating with them in another way once it’s safe to do so. I’m all about throwing a big first-anniversary bash.
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Intimate wedding at Loch Morlich in Aviemore

Top Tips to Save Money on your Wedding Day

Ways to save money on your Wedding

Chances are, there’s something you’re dreaming about for your wedding day that might be just a wee bit over-the-top: a statement flower wall that rivals Kim and Kanye’s crazy wall of blooms; not one, not two, but three stunning wedding gowns, à la Chrissy Teigen or Serena Williams; or, maybe just a diamond tiara worthy of a princess (I see you, Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle). But here’s the thing: All that style is really, really expensive.

Here are some top tips and ideas to help the two of you save money! So you can afford the things that are really important to you for your big day.

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Consider other days of the week

A Friday wedding will save you thousands on your wedding venue. Even better: A Sunday wedding. Often food and beverage minimums are lower, which is great for smaller parties.

Stationery Savings

Love the look of letterpress for your wedding invitation suite, but not the price? Splurge on it for the main invitation but choose less-expensive flat printing for insert cards.

If you like the look and feel of thicker paper stock, use two-ply for your invitations and make the rest of the insert cards one-ply only.

Skip the envelope liner. Using a colourful or otherwise untraditional outer envelope in lieu of an interior envelope liner means you could pay less per invitation—plus it’s a fun surprise when it shows up in your wedding guests’ mailboxes.

When it comes to your wedding invitation inserts, you can save a lot by having a single insert directing guests to your wedding website instead of multiple cards for your details & logistics, like transportation and details about the hotel room block you’ve set up for your guests.

One more way to save on your printing costs? Print just one ceremony program per couple, instead of one per guest.

Flowers for less

Florists can get discounts by ordering just three to five types of flowers in bulk. Create a chic, uniform centrepiece by grouping together monochromatic blooms in individual vases—for example, one of white hydrangeas, another of white tulips and another of white calla lilies.

Don’t underestimate the beauty of greenery in your bridal bouquet. It’s inexpensive and adds a lot of size and texture to arrangements.

You need only two or three large blooms with a little bit of filler to create bridesmaids’ bouquets that are minimalist cool—and cheaper apiece.

Skip the buttonholes, which can set you back £££. Encourage your partner and the gents in the bridal party to sport pocket squares instead.

Photography bills

Consider booking your photographer for six to eight hours instead of a full day, which is typically 10 to 12 hours. They’ll still capture all the important moments, but you’ll pay less. Many photographers (like myself 😉 ) offer half-day or smaller packages that offer savings.

To save on your wedding photography, you can always choose a less-expensive package that doesn’t include hard-copy prints and albums. Those can always be bought and/or printed later.

Instead of renting a photo booth for hundreds of pounds, create a Polaroid station with a few cameras, props and tons of film. It’s just as fun!

Transport costs

If you can plan your wedding day so that your ceremony and reception are at the same venue—or at two locations that are within walking distance of each other—you can save cash by eliminating the need for guest and wedding party transportation.

Cake cash

If you don’t really want a custom tiered cake with all the bells and whistles, choose a smaller display size and supplement with a statement-making dessert bar, or serve tray cake, which is much cheaper per slice. Some bakers will decorate ‘faux’ cakes for you and can serve cheaper tray cake after you’ve done the obligatory cutting!

Want the look of expensive sugar flowers, gold leaf or hand-painted accents? Ask your baker to decorate just the edges of the tiers to reduce the cost.

Or choose a simple buttercream or fondant cake, which is less per serving, and provide your own decorations. Fresh flowers, a personalized topper, colourful fruit… the possibilities are endless!

Money for munchies

Order late-night snacks or evening buffet for only 70 per cent of your headcount. Some guests may leave early, and others won’t want to eat.

Last but not least

Consider wedding insurance. Despite even the best-laid plans, sometimes events beyond your control can cause things to go wrong on your big day.

Illness, weather and business liquidations are all factors that could scupper your wedding day, so having the right affordable insurance policy could save you hundreds or even thousands of pounds if something unexpected did happen.

Wedding insurance policies are relatively inexpensive and can be tailored to fit your wedding plans so they are worth considering if you are spending a significant amount.

How to Virtually include Guests at your Wedding

Virtually including Wedding Guests

 

Life as we knew it has come to a screaming halt, with Covid-19 and government-enforced lockdown.  There are hopeful signs that we have reached the peak and that lockdown measures will soon start to be relaxed. But this will be phased and large gatherings will be the last to be allowed. The “new normal” still won’t be quite normal, and we have no idea how long this could last.

While of course, we would love for all of our nearest and dearest to be in attendance, it is unlikely that overseas guests are going to be able to travel for a while. You may also still want old and vulnerable guests to be self-isolating.

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Technology is going to be your best friend during these days of social distancing, and especially when it comes to planning a virtual wedding attendance. Below I’ll outline the steps you’ll need to take to plan a wedding on the internet, plus share the resources that will help you execute everything as simply as possible. Let’s dive in!

Step 1: Choose Your Platform

ZOOMING IN

Video conference software Zoom offers free and paid subscriptions. For free you can ‘meet’ for up to 40 minutes. For £11.99 per month, you can “meet” for up to 24 hours. That’s more than enough time for a ceremony and reception! With Zoom, attendees can set up Speaker View (probably ideal for your guests to view your ceremony) or Gallery View (you, as the couple, could have this displayed so you can see all of your guests’ reactions).

You can designate one guest to take screenshots of your attendees’ reactions throughout the ceremony to include in your wedding album. Your designated readings can still be made by your virtual guests of honour.

With Zoom, you can continue the party into the reception, allowing the virtual wedding party and parents to give speeches, having your first dance and even doing the cake cutting.

GOING LIVE! WITH FACEBOOK

Another free option is to utilise Facebook Live for your ceremony. Invite your guests to a private group, and create a private event for them to RSVP to. At the designated time, your guests can hop on to watch you say your “I do”s! Facebook can act as a virtual guest book, too, with guests posting their well-wishes in the days and weeks leading up to the ceremony. They can introduce themselves and “mingle” prior to the ceremony and continue with the sentiments well after. The video will live on in the group as long as the group continues to exist.

Not everyone is going to have Facebook, and you won’t be able to have the same “face to face” interaction as you may with video conferencing software, but the same basic ideas apply.

SKYPE

To include absent guests through Skype, you will need to ask someone who will be sitting in the front row to hold a laptop, iPad, or another device that has Skype on it. Make sure the ceremony location has wifi, and that you know the password. Test out the connection beforehand. Then, stream the ceremony live so that those connected through Skype can watch in real-time.

GOOGLE HANGOUTS

Google Hangouts is another option for live-streaming your ceremony to those who can not be physically present. As an alternative to streaming the ceremony, you could also set up a Google Hangout during the reception, so that the call can be a two-way conversation. Instead of having absent guests silently watching, as though they’re seeing a live video, they can actually talk and connect with other wedding guests, as well as the bride and groom.

Step 2: Organize the Necessary Tech Gear

Tech is super key in planning your virtual wedding guests. At a minimum, you need a laptop, tablet or phone with a camera. If using a phone or tablet, you may also want to get a tripod to mount the mobile device to for steady, even viewing. Take your tech for a test run on whichever platform you intend to use so you can ensure quality will be up to the job.

Step 3: Coordinate with Any Suppliers

Make sure the venue is aware of your plans so they can help with set up. Also, make sure your photographer/videographer is in the loop so they don’t stand directly in front of the feed!

Step 4: Inform Your Guests

Include the meeting link to your scheduled Zoom or to your Facebook group, as well as the date and time. Now, because this is a little outside the box, you may also want to include instructions for your guests on how to turn on their video and ask them to remain muted during the ceremony.

Step 5: Get Prepared

You’ll definitely want to do a test run or two before the big day, to ensure your backdrop is even, you have the right angle for recording and all of the tech is running smoothly.

Can’t go live on the day?

If the location of your ceremony doesn’t have wifi and won’t support a hot spot, you could also ask a guest or a professional to film the ceremony, and upload it to Youtubeor Vimeo shortly after, once wifi is available!  This is a last resort option because you want your guests to enjoy themselves, not be worrying about uploading videos!

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Wedding Plans – Postpone don’t Cancel

Postponing your Wedding due to C-19

This is the article I hoped I’d never have to write…but then someone ate something nasty in a live market in China and BAM here we are in full UK lockdown.

Couples I have spoken to that have already postponed feel that after the initial disappointment of the day they had been planning for not happening. The overwhelming emotion is a relief. Relief that they have taken back control and are no longer watching the news and wondering what if…

I have researched the heck out of the internet to bring you advice on all sorts of different scenarios so buckle up and keep reading.

Should I Postpone My Hen Do or Stag Do?

For the last three weeks, and possibly even for a month or two more. Boris Johnson has announced that we must only go out for essential items and limit all social contact outdoors to groups of two people or people from the same household only. This extreme measure is likely to be extended beyond the 3-week point. Even when these heavy restrictions have been lifted, we may still need to be following social distancing rules, which unfortunately rules out hen and stag dos.

If your hen or stag do is booked within the next two months and is taking place in the UK, Europe, the USA or any of the other countries currently on lockdown or with closed borders, I would recommend looking into postponing if possible. Even if borders are reopened and lockdown is lifted, restaurants and bars may still be restricted within the next couple of months.

While it’s best to try and postpone the trip, check your travel insurance policy to see if you are covered in the event of needing to cancel due to government restrictions to give yourself peace of mind.

If you’re determined to party (and let’s face it, we could all do with something to look forward to right now!) why not arrange a virtual celebration using the Houseparty app in the interim? You can play games, dance to the same music and catch-up over a gin, all from the comfort of your own home. Winning.

What is your best advice for couples thinking about cancelling or postponing their wedding?

Firstly, don’t be too hasty. The current climate is changing quickly so take some time and give yourself the space to make educated decisions. If your wedding is in the next couple of months, then you may feel the pressure is on to change your date and plans. If your wedding is towards the end of the summer into the autumn, then carry on enjoying wedding planning with one eye on the current situation.

What should couples consider before postponing their wedding?

If your wedding is fairly soon but falls outside of the current lockdown period, the below action plan is the best way to decide if you need to postpone.

Work out from your guest list the ‘must-have’ VIPs, whose attendance is essential to you on your big day. Out of those VIPs, how many are over 70, fall into the vulnerable categories or are having to travel from afar and therefore might not be able to come?

Would you need to postpone the wedding to have everyone there from that list? Contact your venue, what is their current policy on postponement and how much time do you have to make that decision?

Contact your wedding insurance company and see what the situation is if either you or your immediate family get ill or if the Government’s ban on social gatherings is extended.

Check all the terms and conditions and contracts that you have with all your suppliers and write a summary of each of their postponement and/or cancellation policies in one document.

What should the first step be when it comes to postponing?

Contact all your suppliers and make them aware that you will come back to them with a new date as soon as you can.

Think about your options

If your wedding falls outside of the lockdown period, you may have the choice to get legally married on your original date and then have a big party with all your loved ones on your first anniversary, next year.

If you can’t get married legally with your loved ones there, don’t worry. Celebrants are an amazing alternative and create beautiful meaningful ceremonies that they can involve everyone. They can be outside, there are no restrictions on what you say or sing and the service is completely personal to you both.

Did you know that you do not have to exchange rings in your legal civil ceremony? You could always save that for the ceremony with your celebrant later on.

Will all venues have the same policies and how should couples work with their venue?

All venues are working to different policies set by the powers that be. You may find that a family-run venue is more lenient than a large chain, or a venue that is used to dealing with corporate bookings may not change their stance for weddings even though the mental and financial cost has larger implications. They also have much larger overheads so they need to make sure this is still covered if a large number of their wedding bookings are postponed. Everyone is learning as they go and policies are changing each day, hour by hour.

If you are struggling to reach a compromise at all, reach out for extra support from a mediator or seek legal advice.

Look at your minimum numbers with your venue (or caterer) and make sure that is in line with your new guest list if you have had to change that at all.

Once you do have a potential new date with your venue, go back to your suppliers and start to look at which of those are available and happy to change the date. Wedding suppliers are all coming together to support each other and you, they are invested in your day and will be as fair as they can be to accommodate this forever changing and uncertain situation.

Don’t forget, once you have a new date, inform your wedding insurance company and check when you gave legal notice to get married as you may need to do it again.

What can couples do to make the process easier?

Check back on any orders you have made online – has everyone got the materials they need to deliver your product and on time? Have they needed materials from China or are they self-isolating and can’t get to the post office? Find out what the alternatives are.

Go back to your stationer and ask them to design (or do it yourself) a picture that you blast out to everyone on WhatsApp/social media/email with regular updates. One may say ‘We are looking to postpone our wedding, and will come back to you soon with a new date’ or ‘Our wedding will now be on 14th October 2020, more information to come soon’. Many suppliers are offering free designs for “Our plans have changed’ or ‘Save the New Dates’ (myself included so contact me if you’d like one).

Get a wedding website, if you don’t have one already. It makes it easy to create FAQs that all your guests can look at rather than have them keep asking you.

Look at ways to involve guests that can’t be there. Live stream your ceremony to relatives and friends who are at home. Ask your photographer and/or videographer to do a very quick edit on a small part of your day that you can send to non-attendees quickly.

Get an illustrator to come and capture the day, creating beautiful pieces of art that you can share with friends and family who can’t be there.

Should I Postpone My Destination Wedding?

Like honeymoons, this depends entirely on where and when your wedding is taking place. If you’re planning on getting married in Europe, including destinations such as Italy, Spain or France, in the next couple of months you will need to contact your venue, suppliers and/or wedding planner to figure out next steps. A wedding booked for the next month or so will likely need to be postponed as these countries are on lockdown.

Likewise, if you were planning to get hitched in the USA within the next month or so you will likely need to postpone as the country is currently on lockdown and the end date for these measures is unclear

If you’re getting married elsewhere, you will need to check the current FCO  (Foreign & Commonwealth Office) for UK nationals travelling to your destination and discuss whether or not you will need to postpone with your wedding planner or venue. It’s also key that you check in with your suppliers and ensure that they are able to make the new date once you have it approved by your venue.

Even if you postpone until later in the summer, some social distancing measures may still be in place and the elderly or more vulnerable may still need to limit travel and social contact. If that is the case, read up on how to live stream your wedding so that they can still feel involved from afar.

Finally, as soon as you have a postponement confirmed, you need to get in touch with your guests and inform them of your decision. Your guests will need plenty of notice so that they can get in touch with their own travel providers and accommodation and postpone or cancel their bookings. An announcement on a group email is the ideal way to do this or consider setting up a wedding website to keep guests informed.

Should I Postpone My Honeymoon?

This depends on where and when your honeymoon is taking place. The FCO  advises against all but essential travel. This is because of the fast progression of the situation with Coronavirus throughout the world and the short notice countries often give before closing borders. As the situation currently stands, if you leave the country you run the risk of not being able to return or having your trip severely disrupted.

Airlines have dramatically reduced the number of daily routes on offer and some countries have closed their borders altogether, making it impossible to travel there. Many countries across Europe are now on lockdown, meaning travel to and enjoying a holiday there will be impossible for the time being. The USA has also closed its borders to travellers from the UK and the rest of Europe for a temporary period of 30 days that may be reviewed and extended.

If your honeymoon falls within the next two months, I would strongly suggest that you get in touch with the company you booked through or your hotel and airline directly and find out the situation at your destination. If travel restrictions are in place, you will need to cancel or postpone the trip. If your trip has been cancelled due to a government decision to close borders or put the country into lockdown, your travel insurance should cover this but it’s always best to double-check your individual policy.

If your honeymoon is booked for the summer, you may still be able to go as planned but it will depend on the rules and restrictions still in place at your destination. I recommend keeping up to date with the daily updates from the International Air Transport Association and the FCO, and contacting your honeymoon provider for advice.

If you do need to postpone your honeymoon, many airlines such as BA and Virgin are offering date changes, often at no extra cost. Hotels should also be keen to help you change the date in case of a lockdown or closed borders rather than cancelling altogether. If you can postpone, you shouldn’t need to claim anything on your insurance as your trip will still be going ahead, just at a later date.

When Should I Postpone my Honeymoon Until?

Unfortunately, it’s difficult to say. The European Union agreed to shut the borders of its states with immediate effect on 17th March for a period of 30 days, after which they will review the situation again. Iceland, Liechtenstein, Norway and Switzerland joined the EU in closing their borders during this period. So, if your honeymoon is taking place shortly after the lockdown period in one of these countries, the best thing you can do is closely follow announcements from the European Commission. It may be that lockdown periods will be extended or social distancing measures will still be in place, making it difficult to enjoy a honeymoon in one of these countries.

If you’re travelling to the USA, the situation is very similar and the country is currently prohibiting travel from the UK and Europe for a minimum period of 30 days. Updates can be found on the US Homeland Security website and I suggest following this closely to find out when you may be able to travel again.

If you’re honeymooning in Indonesia, you will need to follow the updates on the Indonesia Travel website as they’re currently restricting travellers from the UK and there is no clear suggestion of when this will end. The Guardian reported on 24th March that many Britons are stranded in Bali as many stopover destinations are not allowing travellers from Indonesia through and airlines have informed travellers that they may be stuck for a period of up to three months. So, if you’re planning on honeymooning in Indonesia, I recommend postponing any trips for at least three months or until travel restrictions at all stopover destinations have lifted.

The Maldivian government have banned all cruise ships from entering and docking in the Maldives for the foreseeable future. If you’re planning a cruise you will need to get in touch with your provider and find out when the restrictions are likely to be lifted and when they plan to reschedule the postponed trip. There have been cases of COVID-19 in the Maldives and the situation is likely to change quickly, so we recommend getting in touch with your airline or tour operator for the latest local advice. As it stands, you may still be able to travel to the Maldives within the next month and beyond but it will depend entirely on your honeymoon provider, airline and hotel. It’s also worth noting that the UK Government are currently recommending all but essential travel.

For all other countries, we recommend checking the latest individual updates from the FCO.

I know it’s frustrating not having a clear answer but hopefully, by following the advice of both the UK Government and the local authority at your destination closely, you will soon be able to select a new date for your honeymoon with confidence.

Could I Book a Mini-Moon in the UK Instead?

A UK-based mini-moon could be a solution for couples looking for a getaway in the interim, but it all depends on the UK Government’s restrictions changing over the next few weeks.

The UK is currently limiting all but essential travel and has closed all non-essential shops and facilities, including hotels and spas. This measure was put in place on 23rd March for a minimum period of three weeks, meaning that mini-moons cannot be booked for this period as we are all being advised to stay in our homes.

As it stands, we can’t be certain that even if the lockdown ends in three weeks that social distancing rules may still be in place, making it difficult for places like hotels, restaurants and spas to reopen. However, resources such as Airbnb could prove useful in providing a safe hideaway for couples wishing to escape together for a few days – it’s currently at the host’s discretion and properties are still available to book during the spring.

If you fancy a hotel stay or spa break, you’ll probably be best waiting until June onwards. Prime Minister Boris Johnson stated on 19th March that he hoped we would be able to “turn the tide” on the situation with COVID-19 in the UK after 12 weeks of social distancing measures.

If you’re unsure and would like more guidance, get in touch with the hotels or resorts you wish to mini-moon at and ask them for their advice on booking a trip.

But whatever happens, remember that this is all temporary and eventually you will get to marry the person you are in love with. It may not be on the day, month or even year you thought, but it will happen – and that is what is truly important.

To Have or to Have Not: Children at your Wedding

Adult only or Child-friendly wedding?

For every couple who coo over kids at weddings, there’s another couple that’s nervous kids might disrupt things. Neither group is wrong exactly. Asking children to be a part of your celebration (as participants, attendees, or both)—can definitely impact the big day. That’s why, before you finalise your guest list, you should consider whether or not you want to invite them.

Kids make having a flower girl and ring bearer possible. Involving them also means taking the weight off of parents to find a babysitter for their little ones on the day. Plus, there may be important children in your life—like nieces and nephews—that you want to share the occasion with. On the other hand, toddlers are known for tantrums, teens may grouch around with their “too-cool” attitudes, or your friends and family members might prefer a break from their younger entourage. As you can see, there’s a lot to think about!

No matter where you are on the love ’em to leave ’em spectrum, my latest blog below offers guidelines on how to stand by your intentions and avoid confusion and hurt feelings.

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Decide Early

Unlike decisions about menus or music, those related to children should be handled quickly to avoid awkward questions from parents who need to make plans.
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Is It Appropriate Not to Invite Kids?

Yes—especially if the wedding is in the evening or is very formal.  The no-kids rule works best when the majority of the families are local. As it means that parents can leave their children with familiar babysitters for the entire day or drop them off between the ceremony and reception. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, it’s harder to not invite kids.

Be Explicit on your Invites

Address your invites properly. The traditional way to indicate whether a child is invited is to include his or her name on the invitation. If your card will have both an outer and inner envelope, the child’s parents’ names should appear on the outer envelope, but on the inner, the name should be written beneath the parents’ names. (If you’re using just an outer envelope, of course, the child’s name should also be on it.) Even if the child is over age 18, he or she should receive a separate invitation, even if he or she’s still living at home. Resist the temptation to write Mr & Mrs Smith and Family as that can be vague and lead to confusion.
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Call All Guests with Children

After your invitation is sent (or better yet, before), make a call to your friends and family who have children to explain that your wedding is or isn’t child-friendly. If you’re willing to invite this person to your wedding, you should be willing to pick up the phone and have a conversation with him or her. This is an especially effective approach if you’re worried about a stubborn friend or flaky relative bringing children against your wishes.

Will, It Look Bad If You Invite Some Children and Not Others?

Opinions vary, so it’s best to choose a clear rule and stick to it. I suggest drawing the line at immediate family.  Most children who have wedding duties are close relatives, such as a niece or stepchild (but even these children don’t necessarily need to stay for the reception).

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If there are just a few children from different families, an age cut-off can work because older kids are more likely to behave. The more youngsters you have, the more their behaviour will change. If you’re inviting 150 guests, and you have only two little girls that are 10 and 6, it’s cute. But if you have 20 children that are 10 and older, you could end up with a playing field—and that might not be ideal

Considerations for a kid-friendly wedding day

Of course, if the two of you are ready to welcome families and children of all ages to join in your wedding day celebrations, you’ll need to take your youngest guests’ needs into consideration. Here are a few potential additions to plan for in advance:

  • Possibly hiring a children’s entertainer
    When it comes to entertainment options, you may want to think about the littlest wedding guests who will be present. For example, you could hire a children’s entertainer for an opening act before your wedding band kicks off. Doing so will help to wear out the little ones early on.
  • Tabletop activities during the reception
    Small children have notoriously short attention spans, which means that you need to give them something to do during the reception. One quick and easy solution is to give them some activities, such as puzzles or colouring sheets. You could put these out on the children’s place settings ahead of the event.
  • Options for a children’s menu
    You may have the fanciest, five-course menu planned for your wedding guests. But what about the kids at your wedding? Chances are that they’re not going to be fans of fine dining. Work with your catering team to create a plain and simple kid-friendly menu they can choose from.
  • Organised childcare
    One of the best ways to ensure that your youngest wedding guests are kept busy is to hire childcare to watch over the group of children, collectively. While this is an additional out-of-pocket cost, it’s also your best bet to ensure your wedding day is as stress-free as possible. Shop around to find the best local service for your needs.

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Dalmeny Kirk – Mary & John’s Wedding

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Rain on your wedding day is good luck because it signifies that your marriage will last. As you know, a knot that becomes wet is extremely hard to untie – therefore, when you ‘tie the knot’ on a rainy day, your marriage is supposedly just as hard to unravel!

Storm Dennis

So rain on your wedding day is good luck, what about Storm Dennis? Yup the day that Mary and John tied the knot we were treated to a months worth of rain in one day and gale force winds! Not that Mary and John need any luck. They got together over 30 years ago and had always talked about marriage but just hadn’t gotten around to it. Then at Christmas, they surprised their families by announcing they had been secretly organising a February wedding for 6 months!

 Solid foundations

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The wedding ceremony was held at Dalmeny Kirk Scotlands oldest Norman Kirk. I nipped outside to grab a quick image before the bride arrived. Not my best composition but speed was of the essence to get back inside from the weather.

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On my way back inside I also spotted some snowdrops to capture, then I really had to get back inside!

Family affair

Mary and John’s wedding was an intimate affair involving their nearest and dearest.

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John’s brother Frank was his best man.

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One of Mary’s sons drove her to church and the other gave her away. Doesn’t she look beautiful? I love how she used John’s tartan for her shawl and she made her bouquet and that of her bridesmaid herself. Oh and her bridesmaid, John’s daughter. 🙂

A most romantic setting

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With Storm Dennis rattling all the doors and lashing down outside, the kirk really was a beautiful setting for John and Mary to exchange their vows and rings. The warm stone softly illuminated by candlelight added to the atmosphere.

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Outside for group photos?

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Hahahahahaha I don’t think so. We took all the group photos and bride and groom portraits inside. I always have an inside Plan B as being a wedding photographer in Scotland means that good weather is never guaranteed. Nobody wanted to go outside in that Storm!

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I always carry wedding umbrellas as well, as sometimes bride and groom portraits in the rain, can look stunning. But not in gale-force winds. I did cajole Mary and John to the entrance of the kirk so we could document the weather on their wedding day.

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I got a broken umbrella for my troubles!

On the shore

Mary and John held their wedding reception at The Boathouse in South Queensferry. Originally I had planned to get some images on the shore with the iconic bridges in the background but when I got to the venue I got this.

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What you don’t get from this image is a sense of the howling wind and horizontal rain! Everyone was far better off inside the cosy restaurant, where they could still enjoy the beautiful views.

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Mary and John were a super chilled, laid back couple who just wanted to enjoy the celebration with their family and close friends. And regardless of Storm Dennis, they did just that!

Congratulations Mr and Mrs Strachan.

 

Tips for choosing your Wedding Colour Scheme

Wedding Colour Schemes

Picking your wedding colours is sometimes easier said than done, but it’s an important step in your planning process. In addition to being an extension of your personal styles as a couple, a carefully chosen colour palette can make all the difference when creating a cohesive wedding look. It’s a good idea to start thinking about your wedding colours shortly after you’ve set a date and chosen a venue, but how should you begin? By considering your basic wedding details, such as season, location, and theme, you can start to narrow down the colours that will play into the look you want. Once you’ve decided on your colours, all of the other details will fall into place, from flowers and stationery to wedding party attire, table linens, and more.

Choose a base colour

Your base colour will be the one that’s used most prominently throughout your wedding. The base colour can be anything from soft blush pink or peach to elegant navy blue, punchy yellow, or even dramatic jade green, depending on the overall vibe you want to create. Most importantly, it should be a colour you genuinely love! Once you have your base colour, the next step is to choose a handful of complementary “accent” colours — generally two or three of them. These accents will round out your wedding palette, adding dimension and variation to prevent the colours from being over-the-top matchy-matchy or kitschy. Your accents can be anything from bold, contrasting hues on the opposite side of the colour wheel, to neutral tones like grey, white, black, or beige. No base colour yet? Keep reading for more advice on how to pick your wedding colours from scratch.
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Think about your wedding season

While there’s nothing written in stone that says your wedding colours should match up with your wedding season, we can’t argue that some colours lend themselves naturally to certain times of the year. If you’re feeling stuck when choosing a colour palette, look to your wedding season for a bit of inspiration. Dark jewel tones, such as emerald green, plum purple, navy blue, and marsala red, for example, tend fit in better with cold weather surroundings, like changing foliage in the autumn or white snow in the winter. Bold and bright colours are generally more appropriate for a summer celebration, while pastel hues are traditionally associated with springtime weddings.

What about your Venue

Consider the colours of your chosen venue. Are there any particularly distinctive tones on any of the walls, carpets or furniture? If so, it’s worth working with that colour rather than against it, either incorporating it into your scheme or choosing complementary shades – there’s nothing worse than a room full of décor that clashes with the carpet!

If your venue offers more of a blank canvas – a barn, for example – then consider the amount of light and the size of the space available. Opt for light colours in a smaller venue to make it feel brighter. Darker colours can still be used, but be aware that they will create an intimate feel that might not suit every couple’s tastes.

Flowers

If your heart is set on a specific bloom and you really don’t want to swap, you might want to base your wedding colour scheme around the shades of your chosen flowers. So if blue hydrangeas or bold sunflowers are on your must-have list, make blue your accent colour throughout, paired with a complementary tone.

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Clothing

Likewise, if you’re desperate to choose a grey, gold, blush or pale blue gown or your partner only wants to wear hunter green, it’s probably worth adapting your colour palette to fit. Make sure your bridesmaids and groomsmen’s outfits work well with the scheme, too. After all, they all need to look good together for the photos!

Accessories

If you’re still struggling to pin down a wedding colour scheme, look to your accessories for inspiration. Have you chosen a statement handbag or pair of shoes? Gemstone jewellery? Take the colour of your accessory and let it influence the rest of your décor decisions, using it as your accent colour for a pretty palette.

Play up your palette with gradient

Can’t decide on a collection of colours that look good together? Keep it simple by sticking with one colour and opting for an ombré-inspired palette instead. You don’t need an assortment of different colours to create a gorgeous palette. For example, a wedding with three or four shades of blue (or whichever colour you like best!) can look just as beautiful as one with a rainbow of colours. This option is also excellent for creating a more modern, monochromatic look with your wedding decor.

 

What will your wedding colour scheme be?

Airth Castle – Audrey and Johnny’s Wedding

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I Love Ewe

My sheep puns are so baaaaaaa-d (sorry, not sorry!) but I couldn’t resist. You see when Audrey Lamb and her Clydesdale Horses met Johnny and his sheep at the Royal Highland Show it was a match made in farming community heaven. So much so that Johnny proposed at the Highland Show a few years later. Audrey said, ‘Baby don’t herd me’. No, she didn’t – I’m going to stop horsing around now. Okay, I really am finished now!

Last wedding of the year

On the 30th December 2019, literally with one day of the year left to spare this wonderful couple tied the knot in the beautiful opulence of Airth Castle. I was delighted to have been chosen to capture the day for them as it was a day full of love and laughter with all their friends and family around them.

What an old romantic

The night before the wedding Johnny presented Audrey with a gift to wear on the day. A stunning pair of diamond earrings.

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They were a lovely ‘something new’. Her something ‘old’ was her mum’s amazing veil.

An Irishman

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Johnny and his family are from Ireland and opted for waistcoats and tails as their wedding attire. His brother and his nephew were his best men whilst his other brother and friend were ushers. The one Scot did his bit and wore a kilt! Don’t they all look handsome?

The weather miraculously stayed dry when we needed it to. Whilst it threatened to rain most of the day it didn’t and stayed uncharacteristically mild for the time of year. Whilst I would have loved to take wedding images in the crisp white snow. the reality would have been more slushy and bad weather may have stopped guests from getting there.

 A lovely ceremony

The ceremony was held in the old castle in a gorgeous high ceilinged room in front of a stunning fireplace and ornate mirror.

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As  Audrey’s brother walked the beautiful bride down the aisle I think it all became very real and emotional for her.

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The minister soon helped to calm any nerves and had the couple (and the congregation) laughing and singing during the service.

Due to that big and beautiful mirror above the fireplace, I spent most of the service on my knees in order to make sure I wasn’t captured in the reflection! I did like the perspective it gave the images though.

Whilst the new Mr and Mrs Aiken signed the register with the bridal party Audrey’s cousin sang for the wedding guests. A very talented family (more on that later).

A full house

There were c. 100 guests during the day to celebrate the union between Audrey and Johnny. Sometimes this sort of group size brings me out in a cold sweat as the venue doesn’t always have a great space to capture the group photos in a pleasing way. For this wedding, I had no such issues. The steps outside the old castle are just perfect.

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Despite being mild for the time of year it was still too cold to keep everybody outside for long. When I had met Audrey at the venue for our pre-wedding consultation I had decided that one of the formal reception rooms would be perfect. Once I did a little rearranging of the furniture and lugged the wing-backed chairs over to the fireplace!

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I think the images have a slight royal wedding vibe! Love it 🙂

A new version of a classic

Also at the pre-wedding consultation, Audrey’s mum mentioned an image from her own wedding that she would love Audrey to recreate. She was stood at the top of the staircase and her beautiful veil was the star of the show. As Audrey was using her veil it would be nice to do it again.  We found a suitable staircase in the castle and I hope I’ve done it justice.

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Whilst we were wrangling the stairs we also made use of the top balcony for some bride and groom portraits.

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As I am mean I still got the bride and groom outside for some natural portraits and I just love the results.

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The speeches

Ohhh emmm geee the speeches! Full kudos has to go to Johhny’s brother for his best man speech. So much planning had gone into it. Shortly after he started his speech he claimed he couldn’t find his remaining notes. He dashed out of the room and a pre-made video started of him ‘allegedly’ running out of the venue into his car back to his house and various other places to the tune of the Benny Hill theme tune!!! I can’t share what he got up to in the video here (keeping it PG, folks) but everybody was in absolute stitches.

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The video ended with him running back into the room and then his son and daughter (who was also a bridesmaid) read out a poem they had written. Everyone was laughing so hard, including me – it was difficult to stop my camera shaking!

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It was also during the speeches that I learned that Audrey had come 2nd in the world sheep handling trials. Told you it was a talented family!

Let them eat cake and dance

With the evening guests arrived it was time to cut the stunning three-tier cake decorated with thistles.

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Then Audrey and Johnny’s first dance as husband and wife.

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This wedding was an absolute joy to capture. So much love, laughter and well wishes emanated from all their family and friends as well as the couple themselves. It was time for me to take my leave but the party looked set to run well into the small hours.

Congratulations Mr and Mrs Aiken.

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