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Wedding Invites – What to Include in the Information Insert

Things to include in your Information Insert.

The guest list is sorted and you’re ready to start inviting – HURRAH! In addition to the wedding stationery, which traditionally holds the invitation itself and the RSVP card, it’s a good idea to include an information card for your guests.

What is this information card for? Well, if you’re having a location wedding or most of your guests don’t know the area where your nuptials are taking place, then it’s pretty handy to have one, and it avoids last-minute queries on the day itself (no bride or groom wants their phone ringing off the hook by lost relatives!)

There is no set etiquette for what details you should write on the information sheet, so here are some useful pointers you might think about including (these can be placed in your invitation envelope or mentioned on your wedding website).

Directions

Include directions to your ceremony and/or reception venue, as well as maps of the local area, for all those who are not familiar with the location.

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Nearby Transport

It is considerate to include the nearest transport links, like a nearby railway station or the closest airport.

Also, if your guests are treating your wedding as a little getaway, provide them with tourist information and a list of local attractions!

Taxi Companies

Another good idea is to provide your guests with contact numbers for the local taxi firms, or with nearby car park details. This way, they will be able to enjoy your reception without worrying about how to get home or designating a driver.

Accommodation

This is the perfect place to jot down all the sleeping options. Try reserving some rooms in local hotels, bed and breakfasts, or friend’s houses, so they don’t get booked out by strangers, and get your guests to mention your name. It’s a good idea to provide a variety of options here across all price ranges.

Tip: You can also ask your wedding venue where your guests can find accommodation near the wedding!

Dress Code

An information sheet will also often feature the required dress code, especially if it is in an unfamiliar climate (sun hats against the heat and mittens for the cold!) or if you need “lawn-friendly” shoes!

Kids

Are you excluding children from your wedding? Or do you have special arrangements made for them already? Put this on the information sheet. Try to be as polite as possible when excluding children from the festivities.

Gifts!

Most couples have qualms about where to mention their gift list, as traditionalists still say that it is rude for the engaged couple to mention presents. I think it’s completely acceptable to put gift list details on the information sheet (otherwise all the guests will just ask!) If this is still too obvious for you, a number of stores provide helpful cards with your gift list details on them, that you can slip into your invitation envelope.

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Bring Cash

An information sheet is also a good place to let your guests know whether you’re having a cash bar or which cards the bar will accept. Then they will know what to expect and be prepared.

The Day After

If you are planning any activities for the day after, like a catch-up brunch, or golfing. The information sheet is the perfect place to put all the details.

Carriages?

If you have a set a “Carriages” time (the time everyone needs to leave the venue). You should let your guests know on the information card so that they can make arrangements for getting home in advance.

Hashtags

Having a social media savvy wedding? Get guests posting early by providing the wedding hashtag on the info sheet. Or having an unplugged wedding? Let guests know you don’t want to share pictures on social media here.

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Environmentally Friendly

If you are an environmentally friendly couple, why not send out a simple business card with the URL of your wedding website, on which all of the above information can be found! Supplement this with your phone number and that of the Best Man or the Maid of Honour, so that your guests can ask any additional questions!

Final Tip

You don’t have to splurge out on expensive quality paper for the information sheet. You can just print them at home on nice paper and save some pennies!

How to pick the right veil for your wedding dress.

Picking the right veil for your wedding dress.

Where does the tradition of wearing a wedding veil come from?

Although the veil’s history varies based on who you ask, most experts agree that you can trace its roots back to Rome, where a bride used to walk down the aisle with a veil over her face in order to disguise herself from any evil spirits who wanted to thwart her happiness.

Still today a veil means different things to different faiths. Despite their current popularity, the experts note that veils did go out style for some time, and only became a fashionable accessory again after Queen Victoria’s wedding.

So which veil goes best with which dress?

First and foremost, amid all of the choices you have available, finding a veil that compliments your dress should be top priority! Don’t just choose a veil because you like it. You want your dress to be the star of the show so it is important to find a veil that enhances that gown rather than competes with it.

Think about the shape of your dress.

When choosing your veil length you will want to figure out what shape or silhouette your dress is. Certain lengths go better with certain shapes. And certain lengths should be avoided for particular shapes.

After you have decided which shape best resembles your dress you can decide on your length. The basic rule of thumb for long dresses is that you want the veil to flow with the dress. This helps move the eye gracefully down the dress rather than creating an abrupt interruption. The most flattering and universal length is the fingertip length veil because it flows into the skirt or ends at a natural curve point on the body.

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This veil was the bride’s mums. Her something old.

Here are a few suggestions for your dress style that are commonly the most flattering:

Ballgown:

Almost any length works with this dress but avoid a ballet or waltz length. The ballet length will look fine from the front but from the back, it will end at an unnatural point and cut off the flow of your dress.

A-line or Modified A-line:

Basically the same length suggestions for the ball gown work for the A-line as well.

Trumpet or Mermaid:

The best lengths for these are either a fingertip length or a longer veil that has a train such as a chapel length or a cathedral length. Birdcage veils also look beautiful with these styles. Avoid the elbow length. It’s too short and creates more disruptions in an already curvy style.

Column/Sheath:

The best lengths for this style are fingertip, ballet/waltz, or a floor-length. And elbow-length will work as well. Just make sure its not too short. It should end at least at the waist. If you would like a train I would choose a length that barely drags on the floor. Avoid anything longer as it is just too much veil for this simple shape.

Tea Length:

The best lengths are shoulder length or birdcage veils. You could also go with an elbow-length veil if you want something a little longer.

Short Dress/Cocktail Length:

The birdcage veils work best with short styles but some brides pull off longer lengths. If you go longer just make sure the veil will feel balanced with the dress shape.

Train or no train?

Now that you have narrowed down your options it’s time to ask yourself if you want a long veil with a train/no train or a shorter veil.

Longer veils are beautiful, dramatic, and more formal but will typically need to be removed after the ceremony. However, you can leave the veil on it will just be more maintenance during the reception.

Shorter veils are a little less formal feeling and low maintenance.

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Bling or no bling?

If your dress is busy and features lots of pretty details, find a simple veil with a clean raw edge. If your dress is simple, choose a veil with intricate details such as a lace embellishment or floral accents to add dimension to your gown.

Your hairstyle

If you choose to wear a veil, your veil may need a supportive base such as a bridal bun, messy updo, or half up/half down hairstyle. The longer or heavier your veil, the more supportive your bun or hairstyle will need to be.

The great thing about bridal hairstyles is your wedding veil can be made to frame your bridal hairstyle from behind. Instead of a metal bridal comb, your veil can be customised with cotton loops instead of a comb which means that your hairstylist can pin the veil to the natural curve of your bun.

Your hairstyle will affect how your veil sits and where the end of the veil will fall. If you’re planning on a big bridal bun, the veil may need to sit above the bun. As a result, your veil may appear slightly shorter.

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What if I don’t want to wear a veil?

Then don’t! There is no ‘rule’ that says you have to. You could choose to wear nothing in place of a veil or you could pick one of these show-stopping alternatives:

Headpieces and Hair Accessories

A pretty headpiece or hair accessory gives your look a fuss-free flourish. Try a slim headband, a floral comb, or a sleek barrette for a touch of sparkle. Bridal chains, hair vines, or halos are pretty ways to spruce up your locks, too!

Tiaras

Feeling a little regal? Amp up the drama with a dazzling tiara. Whether you wear your hair up or down, it’s sure to captivate the crowd—cue the “oohs” and “aaahs.”

Flower Crowns

The more flowers the better! Add fresh blooms to your day for a romantic look! Try Baby’s Breath, roses, greenery, or an assortment of wildflowers that complement your day.

Capes

You don’t have to forgo the pleasure of a flowy finishing touch just because you’re not wearing a veil! Slip on a sheer chiffon or lace cape to complete your look.

Good Photo Op!

One things for certain, veils make for wonderful photo opportunities 😉

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Top Tips for choosing you Wedding Day Jewellery

Top Tips for choosing your Wedding Day Jewellery

After weeks of scouring wedding dress shops and hours of fitting room dramas, I know that ‘the dress’ is important. But choosing your wedding jewellery is just as crucial to give you the perfect look as you walk down the aisle. So before you start your search, have a look at these tips for picking your accessories.

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Compliment Your Dress

First off, the colour of your jewellery needs to stay in theme with your dress/outfit. If you’ve gone for an ivory or champagne shade of gown, gold metal will really set off this style and make you glow. If you’ve chosen a bright white gown, platinum or silver jewellery will enhance your look – or try rose gold metal to compliment a dress with soft pink or blush tones.

Find a Skin Match

The same goes for jewellery working with your skin colour. If you are dark-skinned or have an olive complexion, try and find a lighter hue of jewellery that will stand out, perhaps a silver metal. On the other hand, a pale colouring can be complemented by tones of warm golds – but remember to adjust this if you’re planning on getting a tan for your big day!

Think about the Future

Though your wedding dress may not get another chance to shine, your bridal jewellery should be something you can return to again and again.

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Less Is More

Don’t go crazy with massive statement pieces that will detract from the look of the dress. When you walk down the aisle, you still want the dress to be remembered – not the massive bling hanging around your neck! If in doubt, go for something really simple and stick to only a few accessories – your dress will do the talking anyway!

Hair Accessories

Remember what you’re putting in your hair before you choose what jewellery you’re going to wear on your big day. Think about whether you’re going to sport the veil look, a glitzy tiara, or just using a simple accessory to finish off your hairstyle. When jewellery shopping, take your hair items with you so you can match metals if need be.

Dare to be Colourful

There’s no need to keep everything a shade of ivory, silver or gold. “Adding a pop of colour with jewellery is a subtle way to liven up a classic neutral colour palette. Matching your gemstone to details in the wedding, such as a shade in the bridesmaid bouquets or the table pieces, is a sophisticated way of tying your theme together. Or make some of your jewellery your something blue.

Mix Old, Borrowed and New

Not everything has to match. Of course, you don’t want to clash eras and colours, but a beautiful heirloom piece, borrowed or gifted from a relative, could look wonderful alongside a contemporary classic. And if you have a favourite pair of pearl earrings that always make you feel your best, by all means, wear them. Even better if they complement the beading in your gown; consider choosing a modern tiara which also has pearl beading detail to really make the most of them and create a cohesive overall look.

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Be Comfortable

On your wedding day, you still need to do ‘you’. So if you don’t normally wear extravagant necklaces and heavy earrings, why do it on the best day of your life? You need to feel confident and comfortable in what you’re wearing, so let it emulate your personality and be yourself!

Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

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You’re engaged to your best friend, your partner in crime, your ride or die. Now it’s time to start planning the big party! The first thing on your mind will likely be: “How much is all of this going to cost?” and “How are we going to pay for it??”. But don’t panic. Apps like BrideBook have super helpful budget planners which estimate the costs of your wedding and breaks them down, so you have a good idea of what each part will cost.

Some families may offer to help the newlyweds-to-be celebrate the most magical day in their lives, and for that, I’ve put together the lowdown on (traditionally) who pays for what. This way you can look at your budget, see how much each part costs, and let your families know how much they can help with! At the end of the day, it’s whatever works for you and your family, but this is a good place to start!

Who pays for the engagement party?

This expense is traditionally covered by the bride’s family, as they will often host the engagement party at their house, as a way to welcome and bring together the two families (usually for the first time!). However, whichever family is feeling the most generous can host or offer to throw the party.

Who pays for the wedding rings?

The wedding rings are a split cost between the bride and groom’s families. The groom’s family will pay for the bride’s ring and vice versa.

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Who pays for the wedding flowers?

The bouquet should be a gift from the groom to the bride, as she is his date. The bride’s side of the family will traditionally pay for the flower decorations

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Who pays for the bridesmaid dresses and usher suits?

The bride’s side of the family traditionally pays for the bride’s and bridesmaid’s dresses. Although more and more, bridesmaids are paying for their own dress. It really depends on your budget, the type of dresses you want them to wear and whether or not it’s within their price range! This is something which you should definitely discuss early on with your bride squad, to avoid any confusion later.

As for the best man and usher suits? Unless they are matching and require special suits, the ushers should pay for them themselves. If the suits need to be tailor-made, it’s an expense that the groom’s side should kindly cover. 

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Who pays for guest’s accommodation?

Traditionally each side of the family will pay for their own guest’s accommodation. However, this will really depend on what the families are comfortable with. Nowadays, most guests will pay for their own accommodation – just make sure you mention this on your invites.

Who pays for the honeymoon?

Traditionally, it is the groom who pays for the honeymoon. However, most couples today are splitting the cost, and many are asking for donations towards their honeymoon, instead of wedding gifts! This is a new tradition, that stems from the fact that people are getting married later and already living together when they tie the knot. This means they probably don’t need a new toaster or a 24-piece dinnerware set!

A cheat sheet of what each family traditionally pays for…

Bride and Bride’s family:

 

• Wedding dress and the accessories that come with it

• Bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories (although nowadays more and more bridesmaids pay for their own attire)

• Bride’s accompanying outfits (going away and honeymoon)

• Hair and make-up, along with other beauty treatments

• Transportation for the bridal party to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the ceremony to the reception venue

• Photography and/or videography

• Flowers

• Venue hire and decorations

• Wedding cake

• Catering

• Favours

• Drinks

• Entertainment

• Wedding stationery

• Groom’s wedding ring

• Engagement party

• Wedding insurance

• Overnight accommodation for close family

• Presents for the groom’s family

 

Groom and Groom’s family:

 

• Groom’s outfit

• Best man’s and usher’s outfits (like bridesmaids, however, these now tend to be bought by the groomsmen themselves)

• Groom’s going-away outfit

• Transportation for the groom and best man to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the reception

• Buttonholes for all the groomsmen

• Civil or religious ceremony fees

• Church fees, plus extras like church music and bell ringing

• Registration office and other venue fees

• Passports and visas for the honeymoon

• Travel and accommodation for the honeymoon

• Spending money for the honeymoon

• Travel insurance for the honeymoon

• Bride’s engagement and wedding rings

• Presents for the bridesmaids, ushers and best man

• Presents for the bride’s parents

• Press announcement for the wedding

• Wedding night hotel
So, that’s how it’s been broken down historically, but the winds of time are changing and there’s nothing to say that this is how yours will or should be broken down. Couples are getting married later in life now than they used to, so financial situations are likely to be somewhat different.

Gift ideas for your Wedding Party

Gift Ideas for your Wedding Party

Your parents, their parents, the bridesmaids and the best man and ushers, they all (hopefully) help you have the most amazing day ever. So you want to say thank you either when you’re getting ready, during the speeches or at some other time. There are traditional gifts like flowers for the mums but for those of you that want to gift something different…read on, I have collected some ideas 🙂

Gifts

Mums

For as long as you have been dreaming about your wedding day there’s a good chance your mum has been too. If her help has been invaluable why not treat her to one of these gifts as a thank you? Same goes for your future mum-in-law or any other maternal figure that has been a big part of your day.

  • Overnight bag – If your mum played an integral part in helping you plan your wedding, encourage her to take a much-needed postnuptial holiday with a roomy canvas bag, perfect for a quick weekend getaway.
  • A cosy dressing gown – Is there a more perfect way to say, “Thanks for all you do—now go relax!”? I think not.
  • A custom illustration –  Custom gifts are the way to go for brides seeking something that says a heartfelt “thank you.” Memorialise your special bond with a personalised illustration of your likenesses. (check out The Ricketty Desk for a truly bespoke experience)
  • Engraved beauty compact – Pair this sweet little handbag accessory with her favourite lipstick or nail polish for a thoughtful beauty gift she’ll use for years to come.
  • Personalised hankie – On your wedding day, waterworks are practically guaranteed—especially from your mother. Give her a pretty crocheted hankie and, for maximum sentimentality, have the gift customised with embroidered names, dates or a monogram.
  • Spa experience – Relieve your mum from her mother of the bride/groom duties by giving her the gift of relaxation.

Spa break

  • Special locket or charm – Tuck in a little note or vintage photos of loved ones for a sentimental gift she’ll treasure forever.
  • Meaningful Figurine – Like the Willow Tree carved ones are the epitome of sweet sentiment.
  • Monthly subscription box – Gin tasting, wine of the month, chocolate tasting…the choices are endless.( check out Bottle in a Box for a wide range of alcoholic gifts)
  • Glass or crystal vase – up the ante by giving her flowers already arranged in a beautiful vase, that will last long after the flowers do.
  • House Plant – or for the green-fingered mums a house plant or garden plant would be a thoughtful gift.
  • Perfume set – her favourite perfume or the one you’ve chosen for your wedding day.

 

Dads

Whether he is walking you down the aisle or providing much needed moral support, here some gift ideas for the main man in your life.

  • Overnight bag – Perhaps he and mum can go away for a wee break?
  • Personalised handkerchief – give it to him during prep and he can carry it with him all day.
  • A decanter – wine or spirits his thing? Help him to show them off in style.
  • Wallet – personalise by having his initials monogrammed onto it.
  • Monogrammed glasses – for his whisky or other tipples.
  • Personalised cufflinks – there are loads of great styles to choose from
  • Personalised golf ball set – if your dad is a golfer this could be perfect.

 

Bridesmaids

Your bridesmaids have been there for you every step of the way throughout your wedding planning journey. From celebrating your engagement to planning the best hen party ever, you can’t imagine a better group of gals to have by your side for your walk down the aisle. Whether you met them in school, university, or at work—you’ve undoubtedly shared some amazing memories together, and your wedding is no exception!

  • Personalised clutch bags – It’s a gift they’ll use for years to come—and they’ll always think of you.
  • Anything monogrammed – from coasters to make up bags – who doesn’t like something with their initial(s) on it?
  • Jewellery – from tie the knot stud earrings to necklaces to wear with their bridesmaid dresses you can’t go wrong with a bit of bling.
  • Pashmina – If your wedding is outdoors or taking place in the evening, a super-soft pashmina is the perfect gift way to say thank you to your bridesmaids.
  • Personalised candles – Available in a variety of delicious scents such as lavender peppermint and lemongrass verbena, these modern, budget-friendly candles are the perfect custom gift for your girls. Search on Etsy.

Candles

  • A personalised mobile phone case – Personalised phone cases offer a modern pop of colour to your bridesmaid’s clutch. They’re the perfect accessory for those impromptu mirror selfies on the big day.
  • Engraved beauty compact – see mum’s list above.

 

Best Man and Ushers

These guys will be there to help the groom during every step of his wedding planning process.

From trying on wedding suits and organising an awesome stag do to giving a hilarious best man speech, there are a whole load of best man and usher duties which might go unnoticed by the other guests.

  • Personalised tankard -The glass or metal can be personalised with the groomsman’s role, your wedding date and location. You could also go for pint glasses or rocks glasses.
  • Personalised collar stiffeners. They can be engraved with your choice of a message in a selection of fonts, making them truly unique to the recipient. What a lovely idea!
  • Wedding socks – a practical gift that can be personalised.
  • Beers of the world gift set – What best man wouldn’t be over the moon with a hamper full of beer? This set contains six speciality craft beers which have each been paired with a savoury treat. Once your groomsmen’s wedding day hangovers have subsided, they’ll love tucking into this thank you treat!

Beer

  • Personalised leather keyring – sites like Not on the High Street have lots of lovely options.
  • Personalised cufflinks – See dad’s list above
  • Other monogrammed gifts – from hip flasks to belts there is something to suit your guys.
  • Beard care kits – no self-respecting hipster would be upset at this gift!

 

I hope that these ideas give you some inspiration.

Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Apparently, one of past brides biggest regrets is not hiring a videographer so they can relive their wedding day over and over again. If you think this might be you…read on to make sure you get one that is right for you.

Start by researching wedding videographers in your area and reading reviews to find potential suppliers that match your wedding vision and budget. When you’re ready to reach out and possibly negotiate a contract with a videographer, there are several questions to ask them that you should keep top of mind.

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Here are the top 10 questions to ask a videographer before your wedding day.

 

1. What is your videography style?

There are many styles of videography. Whether it is documentary or cinematic, it is important to discuss the type of video style you want and make sure they offer it.

2. How do you choose the music for the film?

Discussing music is a great idea because it plays such an important part of your wedding film. You will be able to let your videographer know the types of genres you like and you can provide a list of songs for them to choose from.

3. Have you worked with my photographer before?

Your photographer and videographer will be working side by side, so you should make sure they know how to work as a team while capturing your big day. If they haven’t, make sure they are amenable to meeting them beforehand.

4. When will I receive my wedding video?

Editing can take a while, especially during wedding season. Therefore, it is always a good idea to ask when you will receive your final video so you will know when to expect it.

5. How long have you been filming weddings?

This will give you a better understanding of how long your videographer has been in the industry. You should also ask to see their previous work whether they are new to the industry or old. Checking out previous work will also help make sure you don’t fall foul to wedding scammers as a legitimate videographer will be happy to share their work.

6. What equipment will you use?

There are always new methods as well as technology, so it is a good idea to make sure your videographer is up-to-date with the most reliable equipment. If they are using drones, for example, do they have a licence to fly them?

7. Have you shot at my venue before?

This is a great question to see if the videographer is familiar with your venue. If they have shot there before, they will know the ins and outs of the area. If they have not shot at your venue before, then you may want to ask if they will visit before the day of your wedding.

8. What is your editing process?

Editing can be done in many ways and some types of editing can change the quality of your video film. Asking how your videographer edits their videos will let you know what kind of videos they produce.

9. What packages do you offer?

Videographers usually offer a variety of different packages and deals. You should discuss what package you want such as, having both a trailer video and your wedding highlight film. Or even see if they will do a same-day edit too!

10. Do you have a second shooter?

Having a second shooter is like having another set of eyes at your wedding. This ensures that nothing will be missed during the getting ready process, ceremony, reception, and all the good stuff in between.

That’s a wrap! I hope you found that useful.

 

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How To Celebrate Your Cancelled Wedding Day

How To Celebrate Your Cancelled Wedding Day

This is a blog I never in my wildest dreams expected to write. Ending up with a postponed wedding is never in anyone’s wedding plans. But sometimes life throws you a major curveball and the best you can do as a couple is to navigate it together. In the time of COVID-19, in the wake of a close one’s diagnosis or encountering financial hardship, there are a number of reasons that couples can find themselves having to change the date of their wedding day.

Whilst all manner of emotions and grief are completely normal in making this decision, just know that a postponement is just that, a postponement. Your wedding day will arrive. And it will be all the more joyous and sweet because of what you and your partner have been through. Love isn’t cancelled!

So what do you do when the day your wedding should have been on finally rolls around? Cancel the world and stay under your duvet? Maybe. Or use it as a way to extend the celebration of your love and commitment to each other? Even if that does mean cancelling everything and staying under your duvet together. But if you want to get creative and make it even more memorable, here are some ideas (feel free to choose as many as you like)…

Get Dressed Up

Let’s face it, it’s been a while since we all slung on a dress or smart shirt. So why not let this be your occasion to don your fancy things and get dressed up for each other? Wear what makes you feel the most beautiful, for yourself and that partner of yours.

Get Dressed Down

Love lazing about in your joggies/PJs? Then invest in a new set specially for the day and get cosy together. Or have a naked Saturday instead. No one’s watching. Except maybe your other half… Which ain’t no bad thing 😉

Wearing White

You know those chic registry weddings or elopements, where the bride wears something really understated and stylish in white? Channel that vibe. Or slink around your house in your partner’s white shirt. If it’s white and makes you feel great, it’s fair game.

Wear Your Veil / Tie / Shoes

Have a piece of your wedding day outfit that you’d like to get more than one wear out of? Then fasten that veil or knot that tie for a bit of extra luxe. Or you could use this as an excellent excuse to break in your wedding shoes for the big day’s final arrival.

Have A Fancy Dinner

Have a favourite meal? Something fancy or spendy? Maybe you have a penchant for truffles or great seafood? Source some and treat yourselves to a rich, extravagant meal. Many restaurants are still offering takeaway if you don’t fancy eating out just yet.

Have A Picnic

Love a picnic spread? Why not buy in all of your favourite snacky foods, cheeses, grapes, antipasto etc. Spread out a rug in your garden or on your living room floor and have at it.

Bake A Wedding Cake

Love whipping out the mixing bowl? Then use this excuse to bake (and of course later, eat) a cake of your choice. It could be that red velvet you’d ordered for your original date,  or you could go all traditional and bake a fruit cake. Anything goes. And yes, you do get to lick the spoon.

Open Your Wedding Wine

Have you been stocking up on wine and fizz for your wedding day? Well lucky you, because you now have a bit more time to replenish those supplies, so pop that cork and enjoy the fruits of your wine collecting labour today.

Bucks Fizz In Bed

Pop some fizz, toast each other and have a luxurious breakfast in bed. There is no reason you can’t stay there for the rest of the day, snoozing, reading, watching TV and… Enjoying each other’s company.

Toast Each Other

You two are incredible. And the fact that together you can jump this hurdle and come back strong for your postponed wedding day is worthy of a toast. A toast to teamwork, to your support network, to each other.

Cut A Cake, Any Cake

Don’t feel like Mary Berry-ing your way to a wedding cake, then don’t. That’s what M&S is for. Or Tesco, or Aldi. Pick up your supermarket cake of choice and cut it / eat it together.

Creme De la Cake

Want cake to celebrate your original date, but want the best of the best? Then ask your cake maker if there is a way for them to bake a small single tier version of your postponed wedding cake and have it safely delivered. You’re helping support your supplier and getting to eat fancy cake. Win-win.

Cook Your Wedding Menu

Enjoy cooking together? Or fancy giving it a go for a laugh? Pour your favourite tipple and have a go at cooking your wedding menu. Then have a moment to marvel at the caterers who manage to do this for 100+ people all at one time!

Order Your Fave Takeaway

Or ditch the thought of lifting a pot lid and order in your fave takeaway if they’re available. Order those sides and starters too!

Share Your Day

Zoom in your guests / bridal party / nearest and dearest so you can all have a laugh and lift each other’s spirits. And recognise that one day in the not too distant future, you’ll all be together celebrating your wedding. And what a party that day will be!

Quiz Night

You could spend the day with your love, then at night get on a group call with a twist. Ask family to get dressed up fancy, or to fancy dress. Choose someone like the best man or maid of honour to create a Mr & Mrs Quiz.

Dance Your First Dance

Your speaker is your band and your kitchen is your dancefloor. Press play, get close and dance to your song. It may be the most tender and intimate dance you have in your life.

Decorate Your House

Have decor set aside for your wedding day? Pop it around your house and get double duty out of your investment. Alternatively order some white streamers and paper decs online and make your home feel all wedding day festive.

Fairy Lights

If in doubt, fairy lights. A sure-fire way to make things feel more intimate, cosy and special. Use the ones you have set aside for your wedding day or dig some out of the Christmas box in the loft. A little something to make your home feel special for a day.

Indulgent Netflix Day

Why not shut out the world and turn your living room into the perfect binge-watching haven? Tilt the blinds, get the duvets down, load up on snacks and pick a show to get lost in… all. day. long.

Say Your Vows

You may feel this is something you’d rather keep for standing at the top of the aisle. Or you may love the idea of vows spoken privately to mark the day you were due to be wed. Fair Warning: You will cry and that’s okay.

A Reminisce Playlist

The fact that you’re getting married likely means that you and your partner have a history and memories. More often than not there are songs that conjure up memories for you both. Take turns to choose and play songs that make you think of each other.

Wear Your Wedding Night Lingerie

Don’t let that racy lacey number lie in a box any longer. You could always treat yourself (and your other half) to another set for when the big day finally arrives.

Have A Gift List Shopping Spree

Have you planned a wedding gift list? You could use this time to map out what married life will look like together and add all of your wants to your gift list. Or you could add something special to the list as a treat to your future self for getting through this.

Write Each Other A Love Letter

You could either write that love letter to be opened on this, your original wedding date, or you could save it for the morning of your future wedding day. Just make sure you open it before you have your make up done.

 

A Couples Massage

You can’t exactly nip off for a spa day together, but if you and your partner love a bit of pampering, why not set the scene? Light some candles, burn aromatherapy oils and take turns giving each other a relaxing massage.

Ask For A Blessing

If you’ve got a religious ceremony planned and that aspect is important to you, you could always contact your celebrant and ask for a special blessing to be performed over video to mark the day.

Order A Floral Arrangement From Your Florist

You could pick up a supermarket bouquet along with your other essentials or you could treat yourself to a beautiful arrangement of your chosen wedding flowers for your home from your florist. Just contact them to see if they can arrange this and deliver in a way that is safe for both them and you.

Do Some Wedding Prep

Have a few DIY elements to your wedding day such as favours or a table plan? Now maybe the time to get cracking on as much of that as you can. It might be a good idea to leave names until closer to your new wedding date though to confirm RSVPs.

Plan your Honeymoon

It looks like we won’t be going anywhere for a while. But, that does mean that you can spend extra time saving for your honeymoon and plan ways to make it even more memorable. Take this time to do your research and plan out what you will do with your time to really make the most of it.

Treat Each Other To A Wedding Gift

You were probably thinking about buying each other a little something for your wedding day, so why not agree to treat this like an anniversary or the special occasion it is and get each other a pressie to open in the morning.

 

I’m well aware that because of keyworker requirements, caring for vulnerable relatives or just plain logistics, some of you may not even be able to be physically together on your original wedding date. Don’t let that stop you celebrating each other. Many of the treats above can be done virtually – except maybe that massage. So celebrate in your own way or bookmark the celebrations for the next day you’re together.

And for the rest of us who are lucky enough to spend this lockdown period with our loves, let’s celebrate that. Marriage is about love and commitment, but it is also about learning to endure and navigate problems together. Use this day to celebrate the love you have for each other and how amazingly your little team of two is navigating this hurdle. Your wedding day may be postponed, but on this day you have each other. And that is always worth celebrating.

How to downsize your wedding guest list

How to downsize your wedding guest list

Covid-19 has thrown up all kinds of questions you never thought you’d have to answer about your Wedding Day, from how to store your dress to how to mark your original wedding date from home. But for many of you downsizing or adjusting your wedding plans means looking at your guest list in a new way. So today, I’m sharing tips for how to make your guest list smaller, where to start with downsizing, and who should still make the cut.

 

How Many People Can We Invite To Our Wedding Post-COVID-19?

Alas, this isn’t a question I can answer just yet. What we have been told, however, is that the process of ‘getting back to normal’ will be a slow one. So we can assume, that given that mass gatherings were one of the first things to be curtailed, it will be some time before they are re-introduced. The Scottish Government has produced a route map that is being updated regularly.

We may see small weddings return sooner and permission for larger gatherings scaled up slowly, so depending on when your wedding is, it’s worth making lists for several different scenarios, eg: An immediate family guest list, a 50 person guest list and a 100 person guest list.

So the question to start with, is, “Who can we not get married without?”. These are the friends and family who, if you were getting married in the morning, you’d need to have there. Once you start with those people, every additional guest will feel like a bonus!

JB Moments Photography at Culzean Castle
Wedding at Culzean Castle with just 4 day guests

Who Should You Cut From Your Guest List?

The C and D List

Anyone who was late to be added to your guest list in the first place, will likely to be the first to go. We’re talking the C and D list, people who you’d love to have on the dance floor, but are not vitally important to your experience of the day.

  • These will be different for every couple but may include guests like work colleagues, friends of your parents, extended cousins, friends’ children, or old school pals, particularly any ‘obligatory’ invites.
  • Plus ones that you have never met or new relationship plus ones.

Vulnerable and Elderly Guests

I know the idea of cutting your granny from your guest list seems extremely harsh. But in the coming months, even as restrictions lift, we’re all going to have to play a role in safeguarding the most vulnerable in our society.

  • If you have vulnerable guests among your non-negotiables (like parents or siblings), it might be worth keeping some element of your wedding to immediate family members so you can accommodate and protect them.
  • Any elderly and vulnerable guests you can no longer invite will understand the situation. They may even be relieved that they aren’t expected to attend.
  • If it’s someone you’re close to (like a grandparent or close relative) think about visiting them in your wedding day attire, or sending them a bouquet of flowers to they know they are missed on the day.

Guests Travelling from Overseas

Again, I’m not suggesting you have to uninvite your best friend who lives in Australia. After all, most guests who planned on travelling for your big day are likely to be close pals or relatives. But if we’re realistic, it will be some time before international travel resumes with any regularity and may still require quarantine on either side. Letting your international guests know that you don’t expect them to attend your wedding will likely relieve the pressure on them, and certainly, lighten your guest list.

How To ‘Uninvite’ Guests To Your Wedding

If postponing your wedding isn’t an option. Try not to be disheartened, you can always have a big celebration down the line. Keep perspective that you’re getting to marry your other half, and the most important people will be there.

Don’t worry about offending guests by ‘uninviting’ them to your wedding. Everyone knows and understands the situation, so being clear and upfront is a good rule of thumb.

  • There is no hard and fast etiquette for this unprecedented time, but sending a personalised message rather than a blanket email is always the most polite thing to do.
  • That could be in the form of a phone call, a text, an email or a card in the post.
  • If you had yet to send invitations or save the dates, you don’t need to do any formal uninviting, though there may be some would-be guests you want to reach out to individuals to explain your change of plans.
  • To soften the blow, you can always come up with ways to virtually include your friends and family from afar let them know that you look forward to celebrating with them in another way once it’s safe to do so. I’m all about throwing a big first-anniversary bash.
JB Moments Photography at Loch Morlich Wedding
Intimate wedding at Loch Morlich in Aviemore

Top Tips to Save Money on your Wedding Day

Ways to save money on your Wedding

Chances are, there’s something you’re dreaming about for your wedding day that might be just a wee bit over-the-top: a statement flower wall that rivals Kim and Kanye’s crazy wall of blooms; not one, not two, but three stunning wedding gowns, à la Chrissy Teigen or Serena Williams; or, maybe just a diamond tiara worthy of a princess (I see you, Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle). But here’s the thing: All that style is really, really expensive.

Here are some top tips and ideas to help the two of you save money! So you can afford the things that are really important to you for your big day.

Top wedding money saving tips by JB Moments Photography

Consider other days of the week

A Friday wedding will save you thousands on your wedding venue. Even better: A Sunday wedding. Often food and beverage minimums are lower, which is great for smaller parties.

Stationery Savings

Love the look of letterpress for your wedding invitation suite, but not the price? Splurge on it for the main invitation but choose less-expensive flat printing for insert cards.

If you like the look and feel of thicker paper stock, use two-ply for your invitations and make the rest of the insert cards one-ply only.

Skip the envelope liner. Using a colourful or otherwise untraditional outer envelope in lieu of an interior envelope liner means you could pay less per invitation—plus it’s a fun surprise when it shows up in your wedding guests’ mailboxes.

When it comes to your wedding invitation inserts, you can save a lot by having a single insert directing guests to your wedding website instead of multiple cards for your details & logistics, like transportation and details about the hotel room block you’ve set up for your guests.

One more way to save on your printing costs? Print just one ceremony program per couple, instead of one per guest.

Flowers for less

Florists can get discounts by ordering just three to five types of flowers in bulk. Create a chic, uniform centrepiece by grouping together monochromatic blooms in individual vases—for example, one of white hydrangeas, another of white tulips and another of white calla lilies.

Don’t underestimate the beauty of greenery in your bridal bouquet. It’s inexpensive and adds a lot of size and texture to arrangements.

You need only two or three large blooms with a little bit of filler to create bridesmaids’ bouquets that are minimalist cool—and cheaper apiece.

Skip the buttonholes, which can set you back £££. Encourage your partner and the gents in the bridal party to sport pocket squares instead.

Photography bills

Consider booking your photographer for six to eight hours instead of a full day, which is typically 10 to 12 hours. They’ll still capture all the important moments, but you’ll pay less. Many photographers (like myself 😉 ) offer half-day or smaller packages that offer savings.

To save on your wedding photography, you can always choose a less-expensive package that doesn’t include hard-copy prints and albums. Those can always be bought and/or printed later.

Instead of renting a photo booth for hundreds of pounds, create a Polaroid station with a few cameras, props and tons of film. It’s just as fun!

Transport costs

If you can plan your wedding day so that your ceremony and reception are at the same venue—or at two locations that are within walking distance of each other—you can save cash by eliminating the need for guest and wedding party transportation.

Cake cash

If you don’t really want a custom tiered cake with all the bells and whistles, choose a smaller display size and supplement with a statement-making dessert bar, or serve tray cake, which is much cheaper per slice. Some bakers will decorate ‘faux’ cakes for you and can serve cheaper tray cake after you’ve done the obligatory cutting!

Want the look of expensive sugar flowers, gold leaf or hand-painted accents? Ask your baker to decorate just the edges of the tiers to reduce the cost.

Or choose a simple buttercream or fondant cake, which is less per serving, and provide your own decorations. Fresh flowers, a personalized topper, colourful fruit… the possibilities are endless!

Money for munchies

Order late-night snacks or evening buffet for only 70 per cent of your headcount. Some guests may leave early, and others won’t want to eat.

Last but not least

Consider wedding insurance. Despite even the best-laid plans, sometimes events beyond your control can cause things to go wrong on your big day.

Illness, weather and business liquidations are all factors that could scupper your wedding day, so having the right affordable insurance policy could save you hundreds or even thousands of pounds if something unexpected did happen.

Wedding insurance policies are relatively inexpensive and can be tailored to fit your wedding plans so they are worth considering if you are spending a significant amount.

How to Virtually include Guests at your Wedding

Virtually including Wedding Guests

 

Life as we knew it has come to a screaming halt, with Covid-19 and government-enforced lockdown.  There are hopeful signs that we have reached the peak and that lockdown measures will soon start to be relaxed. But this will be phased and large gatherings will be the last to be allowed. The “new normal” still won’t be quite normal, and we have no idea how long this could last.

While of course, we would love for all of our nearest and dearest to be in attendance, it is unlikely that overseas guests are going to be able to travel for a while. You may also still want old and vulnerable guests to be self-isolating.

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Technology is going to be your best friend during these days of social distancing, and especially when it comes to planning a virtual wedding attendance. Below I’ll outline the steps you’ll need to take to plan a wedding on the internet, plus share the resources that will help you execute everything as simply as possible. Let’s dive in!

Step 1: Choose Your Platform

ZOOMING IN

Video conference software Zoom offers free and paid subscriptions. For free you can ‘meet’ for up to 40 minutes. For £11.99 per month, you can “meet” for up to 24 hours. That’s more than enough time for a ceremony and reception! With Zoom, attendees can set up Speaker View (probably ideal for your guests to view your ceremony) or Gallery View (you, as the couple, could have this displayed so you can see all of your guests’ reactions).

You can designate one guest to take screenshots of your attendees’ reactions throughout the ceremony to include in your wedding album. Your designated readings can still be made by your virtual guests of honour.

With Zoom, you can continue the party into the reception, allowing the virtual wedding party and parents to give speeches, having your first dance and even doing the cake cutting.

GOING LIVE! WITH FACEBOOK

Another free option is to utilise Facebook Live for your ceremony. Invite your guests to a private group, and create a private event for them to RSVP to. At the designated time, your guests can hop on to watch you say your “I do”s! Facebook can act as a virtual guest book, too, with guests posting their well-wishes in the days and weeks leading up to the ceremony. They can introduce themselves and “mingle” prior to the ceremony and continue with the sentiments well after. The video will live on in the group as long as the group continues to exist.

Not everyone is going to have Facebook, and you won’t be able to have the same “face to face” interaction as you may with video conferencing software, but the same basic ideas apply.

SKYPE

To include absent guests through Skype, you will need to ask someone who will be sitting in the front row to hold a laptop, iPad, or another device that has Skype on it. Make sure the ceremony location has wifi, and that you know the password. Test out the connection beforehand. Then, stream the ceremony live so that those connected through Skype can watch in real-time.

GOOGLE HANGOUTS

Google Hangouts is another option for live-streaming your ceremony to those who can not be physically present. As an alternative to streaming the ceremony, you could also set up a Google Hangout during the reception, so that the call can be a two-way conversation. Instead of having absent guests silently watching, as though they’re seeing a live video, they can actually talk and connect with other wedding guests, as well as the bride and groom.

Step 2: Organize the Necessary Tech Gear

Tech is super key in planning your virtual wedding guests. At a minimum, you need a laptop, tablet or phone with a camera. If using a phone or tablet, you may also want to get a tripod to mount the mobile device to for steady, even viewing. Take your tech for a test run on whichever platform you intend to use so you can ensure quality will be up to the job.

Step 3: Coordinate with Any Suppliers

Make sure the venue is aware of your plans so they can help with set up. Also, make sure your photographer/videographer is in the loop so they don’t stand directly in front of the feed!

Step 4: Inform Your Guests

Include the meeting link to your scheduled Zoom or to your Facebook group, as well as the date and time. Now, because this is a little outside the box, you may also want to include instructions for your guests on how to turn on their video and ask them to remain muted during the ceremony.

Step 5: Get Prepared

You’ll definitely want to do a test run or two before the big day, to ensure your backdrop is even, you have the right angle for recording and all of the tech is running smoothly.

Can’t go live on the day?

If the location of your ceremony doesn’t have wifi and won’t support a hot spot, you could also ask a guest or a professional to film the ceremony, and upload it to Youtubeor Vimeo shortly after, once wifi is available!  This is a last resort option because you want your guests to enjoy themselves, not be worrying about uploading videos!

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