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Callendar House & Park – Kelly & Darren’s Wedding

Callendar House & Park – Kelly & Darren’s Wedding

“People love dogs. You can never go wrong adding a dog to the story.” – Jim Butcher

Young Love

Childhood sweethearts are a very rare and precious thing to behold, especially those that go the distance. Kelly and Darren met at school when they were just fifteen.

Ten years and one dog later they went out for a meal to celebrate their anniversary. Afterward whilst walking Belle the dog around Linlithgow Palace, Darren got down on one knee and asked Kelly to marry him.

That was in February last year and this July I had the absolute honour of capturing their wedding.

Quickest Wedding

I have never witnessed such a quick ceremony! My couple were keen to be married with minimal fuss and attention.

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It was an absolutely glorious day and they couldn’t wait to be outside at one of their favourite spots.

Favourite Tree

Callendar Park is a favourite place for Kelly and Darren to walk Belle and the wooded areas make for some great images. When I met my couple for their pre-wedding consultation we had a good traipse around all their favourite spots including Kelly’s favourite tree.

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Guest of Honour

After a slightly delayed arrival due to a very bad ‘shortcut’ Kelly and Darren’s best girl arrived. Once Belle appeared you could see them visibly relax and start enjoying themselves along with their immediate family and friend.

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Belle was such a good girl and was delighted to be amongst all her family.

#TeamEdward

If you know, you know! The second spot we agreed on during the pre-meet was a part of the woods that gave me serious Twilight vibes. Luckily Kelly was a big fan too 🙂

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I had this image in mind from the moment we went there and I’m happy to say it executed even better than I imagined. Plus this lot don’t even need to sparkle to look good! (again if you know, you know.)

Belle of the Ball

Can I request a dog at every wedding? Capturing these images was so much fun.

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My hoomans are married!
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They are totally kissing behind me, aren’t they?

Honestly, she was such a model and better behaved than some guests I’ve witnessed over the years!

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I wuff you too.

Park Life

We met back up with Kelly and Darren’s guests for some pictures outside Callendar House, well it would be rude not to really!

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Then everyone was off for a meal to celebrate.

Congratulations to the new Mr & Mrs Wilson and Belle xoxo

Sensible Advice for a Long Lasting Marriage

Sensible Advice for a Long-Lasting Marriage

Bit of a change of pace from my usual wedding tips and guides this month. Usually, I talk about topics for the day itself but with my own 22 year wedding anniversary just happily celebrated I wanted to share some tips from therapists, relationship experts, and other professionals about making a marriage work long after the confetti has been swept away.

What are the rules for a truly happy marriage? There aren’t any, really. More like guidelines. Why? Because what works for one couple might be laughed off by another. It all depends. One thing remains, however: couples must know what works for them and be intentional about weeding out the bad habits that can sink their relationship. Because the happiest marriages aren’t happy all the time. They require fluidity, communication, evolution, curiosity, and an agreement from both partners to constantly do the work to help it adapt and flourish. That said, there are things that all couples should pay attention to — guidelines about arguments, bad habits, staying flexible, and more that every couple should understand. Taking note of these 23 pieces of marriage advice — culled from therapists, relationship experts, and more professionals — is a good start.

Remember your Commitment

Life can get blooming messy. You both signed up to stay together during whatever comes your way. And the foundation you’ve built along the way needs to always be top of mind — and sustained. “When there is a foundation of caring and love, then you can trust at all times that you will get through whatever difficulties you are facing,” Janet Zinn, a New York-based LCSW and couples therapist shared. “Commitment means you can gently lay your head on your partner’s shoulder because you know he or she is there for you when you’re vulnerable or simply tired. It’s a basic shared intimacy, and a necessary ingredient to a healthy, happy marriage.”

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Assume the Best of One Another

Whatever happens, it’s important to understand that your partner probably means the best. Even if they pee you off something awful, their intentions were likely pure. W “If you assume your partner is doing their best, it is less likely there will be blaming and disappointment,” says Zinn. “And there will be an active engagement to resolve issues as they arise since you know you both have each other’s best interests in mind.” Remember “your best” doesn’t mean perfection – it means you’re giving the situation everything you can at that moment in time.

Don’t Ever Stop Trying

Happiness can be a kind of trap because it comes in short bursts. It’s like watching your favourite comedy. It’s great for a few episodes, then it becomes boring. You have to strive for contentedness, which is a continuous state of mind, and one that feels doable. “Being happy comes with pressure. It makes it sound like it’s the partner’s job,” Dr. Pat Love, relationship expert and co-author of How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, said. The unavoidable piece is just the commitment to trying. It’s doing things like being generous, showing appreciation, and saying thank you more than you probably are.

Stop Stonewalling

One of therapist John Gottman’s traits that doom a marriage — “stonewalling” is as common as it is incredibly corrosive. It’s the act of shutting down during an argument. The person stonewalling stops responding and maintains a calm exterior, which tells their partner that they don’t care at all about what they’re saying. “The stonewaller is right to try to calm things down but the way he’s doing it is very destructive,” Donald Cole, Clinical Director of The Gottman Institute, advises. What to do instead? Ask for a break. Tell your partner that you’re feeling emotionally overwhelmed and go for a walk or otherwise put your brain on ice until you’ve cooled your boots. Then, return to the discussion — sooner rather than later — and continue the discourse.

Communicate Respectfully

Good communication is the backbone of any relationship, yes. No, you don’t have to act like that special breed of weirdo couples who never ever argue or get on one another’s nerves. Rather, couples need to argue and attack the issues at hand without getting defensive, digging up the past and throwing it in the other’s face, dismissing a partner’s experience, or any other such bad habit. Does this take work? Totes. But it’s worth it.

Always Be Flexible

Life throws a lot of haymakers our way. And it’s important for partners to understand and anticipate that, well, they can’t anticipate anything and must therefore react with flexibility. “Unexpected events, expenses, and situations come up in relationships,” says Zinn. “If we are too rigid, we resist facing the unexpected. A couple’s ability to ‘go with the flow’ – especially when it’s dramatically different from what they expected – gives them the opportunity to learn new skills and, more importantly, get to know each other in ways they might never have known before.”

Curiosity Saves Couples

There’s no way around it: Growth as a couple or an individual requires curiosity. Being curious together can result in tremendous learning experiences that strengthen your relationship. “In difficult or challenging situations, you can both learn from what makes those situations hard for you,” says Zinn. “And you’ll grow in the process. In this way, you will both have pride for yourselves and each other in the ways you got to the other side.” She adds, “Keep in mind, too, that your partner will likely change over time, so a shared sense of curiosity — being open to the ways in which he or she changes — can allow you to identify the ways you’ve changed as well.

Be Willing to Grow and Learn

Spoiler alert: Everyone screws up, says dumb things, gets stuff wrong. It’s all about how people react that defines a relationship. “If we are willing to learn from our mistakes as they relate to our partner’s needs and desires, we will thrive – personally, and in the relationship,” says Zinn. “The willingness to admit mistakes, and apologise sincerely, is an important key in creating a deeper bond with our partner.” So, swallow that pride and squeeze out an “I’m sorry” the next time you make a mistake.

Stop Invalidating

Emotional invalidation is a frequent — and sinister — force in relationships. It occurs when someone discounts their partner’s feelings, implying that, for them to be saying or doing something, they must be either crazy, stupid, or some combination of the two. It can happen in a quick, almost casual manner (“That’s ridiculous”), or it can even be done passive-aggressively, telling a partner how they should react before you even speak (“Don’t freak out, but I have to tell you something…”). In the worst-case scenarios, the invalidation can devolve into situations that can be humiliating and degrading (“Don’t listen to him, he doesn’t know what he’s talking about”). Needless to say, doled out over time, invalidation can be incredibly destructive to a relationship. Marriages thrive on mutual trust, respect, and security, and if a partner doesn’t feel as though his or her feelings are being treated with respect, then the relationship will eventually corrode.

Use a Special Code

A good rule to consider: think about a secret signal or code to share with your partner. Yes, this will make you feel like spies which is always cool. But it also helps if one person needs to ask for a time-out during an argument or needs to leave a party where they feel uncomfortable. When the word or phrase is said, it means “No questions, we have to stop — or leave.” The couple can figure out later if the time-out was warranted, or if one party was overreacting. But the agreement can give couples space to gain perspective. In the end, it’s about trust and being considerate.

Play Catch, not Tennis

Many of us get defensive (Me? Defensive? How very dare you!). It’s a learned behaviour — and one that can be very difficult to fight. But it’s incredibly toxic and leads to a lot of resentment and communication issues in a marriage. According to Anthony Chambers, Ph.D., the way to think about defensiveness is you’re not being receptive to your partner’s feedback.“It’s a combination of defending yourself and poking holes in the other person’s perspective so that when you’re trying to communicate, you’re constantly in this defensive pattern,” he says. So how can a couple reshape their thinking? “If you find yourself playing tennis, I always tell couples that’s the wrong game,” says Chambers. “You really want to be playing a catch because it’s a much slower game. You’re taking the ball and you’re trying to throw it so that your partner can easily receive it. They catch it. They look at the ball in their hands and toss it back to their partner. It’s a much more intentional form of communication in this game.”

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Be Open About Your Finances

Talking about money is one of the most intimate conversations a couple can have. Whether you keep separate bank accounts or are a share-everything type of couple, talks about finances need to happen early and often. Because if you’re not talking openly about money, you’re not building a shared future. And, per financial advisor Jacquette Timmons, “Otherwise I think you leave the window open for a lot of distrust to seep in, and that’s never good for any relationship, whether it’s triggered by finances or anything else.”

Create Boundaries

How do parents keep their marriage strong when kids are in the picture? By setting boundaries. “This means keeping kids out of the bedroom most of the time, having regular dates (even if you don’t leave the house), going on adults-only outings, and deciding to limit extra-curricular activities,” Leslie Doares, a couples counsellor, suggests. “Too many parents buy into the idea that children have to be involved in every activity open to them or they show interest in. This can be costly in terms of time and money. It’s okay to say ‘no’ to some things. It’s okay for your children to be disappointed sometimes. It prepares them for the real world.”

Prioritise Sex

Woohoo, now we are getting to the juicy stuff! Melody Li, an Austin-based therapist, often works with couples whose love lives have “simply disappeared” after they had kids. This is unfortunate. Fortunately, the solution is a pretty simple one: make time for sex. When you’re busy, this means putting it on a schedule and sticking to it. “Much like other self-care activities (e.g. going to the gym) if you don’t block time out in your schedule, it’s not going to happen. Couples tell me that when they schedule sex, they actually get a bit excited as they anticipate their alone time. They find themselves fantasising about their partner and planning fun ways to pleasure each other. So in reality, it’s not as un-sexy as it sounds,” says Li. Is it me or is it getting hot in here?

Go on Date Nights

Speaking of regular sex appointments, here’s one way to kill two birds with one stone: regular date nights. “Going to the movies with your kids can be fun, but make sure to do a parents-only date night at least once a month,” says dating coach Andrea Amour. “It’s so important to have evenings where you don’t worry about nappy-changes, spilled popcorn, or public tantrums. Go have unencumbered fun.” Yes, costs factor in. But you can have a night on the couch or a neighbourhood walk that is planned and intentionally date-ish. It’s the intention to spend undisturbed fun time together that matters.

Get on the Same Page

Being on the same page about everything from how and what involvement in-laws will have, how many activities the kids should participate in is so, so, so, so important in a marriage. When parents touch base regularly and are on the same page, stress is reduced and they can spend time functioning graciously and flexibly.“In my experience, the most important thing parents should do to maintain a happy marriage while raising children is to schedule regular time to discuss issues, practicing effective communication techniques,” says parenting coach Elisabeth Stitt. “Of course parents need to work out logistics of who’s going to pick up whom when, but they also need time to discuss the bigger issues that can tear a couple apart like ‘What constitutes a discipline problem and how should discipline problems be dealt with?’ or ‘What is the right balance between warmth and connection and maintaining high expectations?’”

Learn How to Move On From Arguments

Disagreement is unavoidable in any marriage — as are spats, snipes, and all-out fights. One of the defining aspects of a strong, happy marriage, however, is the ability to get past a fight. “It doesn’t matter if you argue, because all couples do, it’s about coming back to the table afterwards and talking about what happened and owning your part,” says marriage and family therapist Melissa Davis Thompson. “It’s important so issues don’t get stored away. It allows a couple to share deeply how they feel without being angry or frustrated during an argument.”

Laugh it Up

Staying in good humour requires, well, a bit of humour. “The best thing parents can do to maintain a happy marriage is laughing together every day,” says marriage and family therapist Katie Ziskind. “I’ve worked with couples and families in all socioeconomic backgrounds, races, cultures, genders, and personalities. If parents can laugh together, even when they may want to cry of frustration, they can get through anything.”

 

Always Be Validating

Validation is one of the most important things couples can do for each other. Having your partner hear what you’re saying, appreciate you, and understand you speaks to a basic need for connection. It’s okay to disagree, as long as you can respect where each other is coming from. “Healthy couples know that feelings aren’t right or wrong or true or false,” says Thomas Gagliano, a social worker, speaker, and author of The Problem Was Me. “This is a very important message to give to your children as well. It helps resolve conflict instead of doing a destructive dance feeling that we don’t matter to each other.”

 

Stop Obsessing Over Who Wins

The compulsive need to be right can be incredibly destructive in a relationship, with spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle describing it almost as a form of violence. The need creates fear and resentment between couples and will eventually wear the relationship down over time. When couples respect each other, they can accept not being right in favour of maintaining a healthy balance. “Successful couples know how to choose their battles knowing that closeness means more than being right at times,” Gagliano says.

Stay in Tune With Self-Care

“Successful couples know that they need to take actions of self-care,” says Gagliano. “This affirms that it’s important to work on the relationship you have with yourself.” In other words: It’s not enough to take care of your spouse. You also have to look after yourself. That means exercising regularly, eating well, getting enough sleep. Even making regular doctor and dentist appointments is important. By investing in yourself and your own well-being, it shows your partner that you want to be at your best for them.

Pay Attention to the Little Things

Small gestures carry a lot of weight, and for couples who have mutual respect, those small gestures are second nature. A simple love note, a slightly longer hug or kiss goodbye can make your partner feel validated and appreciated. “One short and sweet text or email per day can make your lover’s heart pitter-patter — without causing his or her head to spin from electronic overload,” says family psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish

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Give One Another Space

It’s important to be supportive and engaged with your spouse. But you also can’t hover over them and try and solve all their problems for them. Couples who have mutual respect believe in each other’s strengths and have enough faith in each other to know when to step back and let them handle something on their own. “They realise they can’t fix their partner’s problems more than their partner wants to,” says Gagliano. “They know when they need to let go of control and let their partner figure things out for themselves.”

Oofftt, congratulations if you’ve stayed with me until the end. What do you think? I recognise some of the things that Mr JB and I do already (secret codes anyone!!) but also some things we could put into practice to make sure we last another 22 years…

Crieff Hydro – Gillian & Craig’s Wedding

Crieff Hydro – Gillian & Craig’s Wedding

How the Cookie Crumbled

As so many beautiful love stories start, Gillian was out on the town with friends from work and met Craig who was out with his pals. After a brief encounter, they exchanged numbers. Then they messaged back and forth for a good few weeks before finally meeting up for a date.
This was in December 2016. Four years and two kids later Craig proposed on Christmas Eve 2020. As Gillian is a massive Millies Cookie fan, Craig had ‘let’s get married” iced on a giant cookie with an engagement ring sitting in it!

You’re Hired

I used to work with Gillian’s sister in the bank (small world). So when Gillian announced her engagement Pauline recommended me and I was booked 🙂 Now all I had to do was live up to the hype of someone else’s endorsement.

Chillax

At their pre-wedding consultation, Gillian and Craig were so relaxed. They explained that along with their immediate families they go and stay at Crieff Hydro once a year for a long weekend and this year was going to be no different. Except on the Saturday, they were going to get married!

They wanted natural unposed pictures from the day. Now when couples say this to me I like to dig a little deeper. It’s very rare that couples want pure ‘fly-on’the-wall’ photojournalistic images but that they want a little direction and a lot of fun to make the pictures natural. My wedding couple was in the latter category. I was excited – my favourite kind of wedding!

Wedding Day

When I arrived at the gorgeous lodges the family was staying at everybody was still getting ready so I whipped out my camera and started capturing some details.

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Their son didn’t only look super smart in his kilt but he was also dad’s best man and the official ring bearer. He was taking his job very seriously.

He was also being super sweet with his little sister who was the flower girl.

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By the time I arrived Gillian’s hair had already been tousled into loose waves and hair accessories firmly in place by Shona at Bridal Stylist Scotland. Once the boys had finally all been ushered away to the hotel and Gillian had her wedding dress on all that was left was for Nadine the makeup artist to put some finishing touches to Gillian’s makeup.

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The Girls

I was absolutely in love with Gillian’s bouquet by Victoria Bloom the colours and flowers were simply stunning. As were the arrangements in the wedding ceremony room and the cake. Not to mention the guy’s buttonholes and gal’s corsages.

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The Guys

Meanwhile, Craig and the guys were enjoying a beverage in the bar before showtime.

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Let’s get Married

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The room they chose to have their ceremony in was flooded with natural light thanks to a huge ceiling window. You can see the beautiful floral arrangements I mentioned and other decorations supplied by Razzmatazz Occasions.

Gillian and Craig were in such a rush to be husband and wife! They chose the shortest possible ceremony and soon…they were Mr & Mrs.

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I love how the officiant is trying to make a run for it out of my picture!

Unposed Posing

When you have a family of posed photograph haters but still need to get a group shot to mark the occasion what do you do?

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You tell them all to look at their favourite family member! I was pleased to see the new Mr and Mrs looking at each other. Little Meghan, I think she was most in love with her shoes!

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I adore this image. I told Craig to whisper ‘dirty things’ in Gillian’s ear. It seemed to do the trick.

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By the time I had them walking towards me, I think they were secretly starting to enjoy themselves. Mission accomplished!

One Tequila, Two Tequila, Three Tequila, Floor

Gillian and Craig decided to liven their wedding guests up at around 3 pm with some tequila shots. Hardcore this pair!

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Cake Time

After a wonderful afternoon chilling with their nearest and dearest and the bride’s dad trying one or two of the top-shelf whisky bottles (well it’s not every day a daughter gets married is it?). It was time to cut the cake and enjoy a meal.

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How beautiful is this Cakes by Lucy cake? I do love fresh flowers on a wedding cake.

Also how cool are these personalised placenames/coasters that Craig burned the name in of each guest himself?

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Plus each adult guest had a miniature of their favourite tipple. There were so many thoughtful touches like this the whole day.

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Congratulations Mr & Mrs Marchant and thank you for inviting me to be part of your intimate and beautiful day.

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Orocco Pier – Emma & Barry’s Wedding

Orocco Pier – Emma & Barry’s Wedding

Second Chance

Who gives a damn about your first love?

Give a big round of applause for your second love.

Because they taught you love still exists,

after you thought it never could again.

Plenty Of Fish In The Sea

Emma and Barry met in 2014 on the dating app ‘Plenty of Fish’ and after messaging and phoning each other for a while they started to meet up and fell for each other hook, line, and sinker (sorry, not sorry about the pun!).

Pi$$ Off!

Both Emma and Barry have kids from their past relationships and whilst on a family holiday together in Portugal in 2019 Barry decided to pop the question. He waited until the last night having hidden the ring inside a sock in the hotel room safe. The kids were all in on the surprise and they made out they wanted some family photos in the hotel grounds before they went for dinner. Barry asked the question and Emma told him to “Pi$$ Off” because she thought he was joking!

Once she realised he was serious she did say yes! 😀

Beautiful Day For a Wedding

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I was a bit nervous the night before the wedding as I checked and re-checked my camera gear, charged my batteries, and re-read my notes. Thanks to Covid this was my first wedding since February 2020 and I was worried I wouldn’t do them justice. “What if I’m rusty?”, I asked Mr JB. He assured me that once I got into it I would be fine. And he was right!

The couple had chosen Orocco Pier in picturesque South Queensferry to get married and Emma and her bridal party had stayed there the night before. As I parked up the sun was shining over the Forth Bridges and it felt like summertime.

Bridal Party

I always bring lighting gear when I am capturing bridal prep in case the hotel room is dark. However, I needn’t have puffed and panted my way up the stairs to their room with tripods and collapsible softboxes as when I stepped inside the huge windows in the room were letting in tons of light. Still, better to be safe than sorry!

Becca the make-up artist had been there from the crack of dawn along with the hairstylist and Emma, her best friend, and her two daughters looked amazing. Becca also had some top tips for carrying the bouquets that I will steal and use from now on but that I can’t repeat here!!!

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There were so many lovely personalised touches at this wedding that were a joy to capture. Like these shoes.

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That Emma’s friend (who also did the flowers and tablescapes) had customised for her.

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Even Emma’s manicure had a tiny ‘I do’ on her ring finger.

Family Affair

Whilst Emma had both her daughters in her bride squad, Barry’s son was his best man and had the all-important job of handing over the rings.

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I really loved how Emma and Barry made sure their kids all played key roles in the wedding.

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Pre-match drinks!

Tying the Knot

Before the ceremony the Humanist got Barry and me to practice the Hand Fasting. Poor Barry! I’ve never seen anyone more relieved to see his actual wife-to-be walk down the aisle!

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In the lovely family-orientated service, Barry and Emma’s mums handed over the tartans for the fasting.

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Barry’s son nailed the best man duties.

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And Emma’s eldest daughter read a blessing at the end of the service with moral support from her sister.

Beach, Please

Orocco Pier has steps that lead from the terrace to the beachfront so the bride and groom and their guests all braved the sand to get some group photos.

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I feel all the ladies in their heels were especially game and didn’t complain at all!

The Benefits of a Smaller Wedding

Whilst due to the C-19 regulations, Barry & Emma could only have 30 odd guests it did come with some pluses (for me).

Normally with a big wedding, the group shots and all their permutations can take up a large chunk of the time I have for formal photos before the wedding meal. The wedding coordinator told me how long I had once the group photos were over and looked worried I wouldn’t have the new Mr & Mrs back in time. I, on the other hand, was giddy at the amount of time I had for a change!

Photo Bombers

The first stop was the little pier right beside the venue. Whilst I was in the moment directing Emma and Barry I knew there were other people walking about but it wasn’t until I started editing the images that I realised we had our own photo bomber!

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I shall be expecting one at every wedding I shoot now!

South Queensferry was absolutely heaving. The nice weather had bought the world and his dog out in search of ice creams and sea breezes but that wasn’t going to stop me. I had Emma and Barry all along South Queensferry at spots I had planned out on my pre-shoot recce earlier in the week. My couple was brilliant and fully game for what I had planned. The best kind of wedding couple 🙂

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You’d never know it from the way my two fabulous models are posing for me, but the benches behind us were absolutely swarming with tourists and day-trippers. I did make one old lady’s day by getting her to hold the bouquet during this shot.

Back in Time for Cake

Much to the coordinator’s surprise, I had Emma and Barry back well within her timeframe! Allowing them to do some socially distanced mingling with their guests before the cake cutting and meal.

As there were no evening guests due to restrictions, Barry & Emma cut the cake just before the meal.

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It was a stunning three-tier creation from Creative Slices Cakery that carried the navy and gold colour scheme of the wedding.

Yes Sir I Can Boogie (sort of)

A small but welcome change in the regulations has meant that while full dancing and mingling is not yet allowed at weddings, the couple can at least have a first dance.

Emma and Barry danced to Space by Biffy Clyro, watched by their closest family and friends and it was perfect.

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Fire the Cannons

Emma and Barry had organised lots of table games to keep their guests entertained into the evening but someone was a wee bit disappointed. Barry’s dad had purchased some pretty heavy-duty confetti cannons but hadn’t been able to use them doing the first dance.

Well, we couldn’t have that! The early evening light was beautiful so before the games commenced I suggested we took Emma and Barry out onto the terrace and fire the cannons at them.

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Barry’s Dad was happy and we got some stunning images. A win-win I’d say 🙂

It was a perfect day and I was still smiling that night as confetti fell out of my bra whilst I got undressed!

Congratulations Mr & Mrs Boyack x

 

 

Wedding Favour Suggestions

Do Yourself A Favour

I’ve written about Wedding Favours in the past, but ideas change and I wanted to update you with some of the latest simple ideas I have found across the web.

As you read through, you’ll discover that most of these gifts are just that—simple. You’ll be happy to learn that majority of memorable wedding favours are often both easy to create and easy on the wallet. You can thank me later 🙂

Chocolate Bars

A personalised illustrated label makes a chocolate bar infinitely more sophisticated. Dark or milk is up to you, but the bars are sure to be a hit for guests with a sweet tooth (so, everyone!).

These are available on Etsy
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Olive Oil

Bottles of olive oil are the perfect favour for a Greek destination wedding—or a fun way to celebrate your Greek heritage.

Homemade Limoncello

Mini bottles of homemade limoncello, a popular dessert drink, make the perfect post-wedding treat. There are loads of easy recipes online

Seeds

Bags of seeds are generally seen as a symbol of growth and harmony, which makes them a meaningful wedding favour. You can use any flowers you like, but it’ll be especially touching to gift a type of bloom that was used throughout your day.

Temporary Tattoos

Do you know what makes a great photobooth snapshot? A group of your best friends, all sporting tattoos of you and your love’s faces.

Found on Etsy
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Paper Fans

Colourful, handmade fans keep guests cool during summertime ceremonies and also serve as the perfect photo booth prop. You could also print with the day’s running order and kill two birds with one fan!

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Little vases

Looking for a quick way to repurpose your wedding flowers? Towards the end of the evening, ask a designated person to break down centrepieces and bouquets and place them into glass bottles. It’s a great way to ensure that guests bring home an actual piece of the big day—and guarantees that those pricy blooms won’t go to waste.

For the kids

Keep it simple on the kid’s table. A pack of crayons, a clipboard of fresh paper, and pair of cute shades are all you need to keep little one’s content throughout the event.

Mini hot sauce bottles

If you and your spouse-to-be are known to carry hot sauce on you wherever you go, the spicy condiment might be the way to go when it’s time to choose favours.

Jelly Beans

Here’s a bright idea: Fill a mini lightbulb shaped jar with your favourite jelly beans. Tie them with name tags if you’d like them to double as place cards.

Rosemary Oil

Corked bottles of rosemary-infused oil make an unexpected favour. On the tag, be sure to include its multiple uses. Or mix it up with homemade garlic oil or chilli oil. Perfect for foodie couples.

Key Chains

Opt for millennial pink key chains, emblazoned with an equally millennial slogan, for your girls and navy or jet versions for the guys.

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CDs

Put together a playlist of your wedding’s best tunes and burn them onto CDs so guests can keep dancing long after they leave the dance floor.

Toffee Apples

Planning an Autumn wedding? Why not give everyone a toffee apple, add a personalised name tag and it doubles up as a stylish place card.

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How To Find Your Wedding Solemate

How To Find Your Wedding Solemate

How’s your wedding shoe shopping going? Still looking? Them I have some top tips for you.

Buy Early

Create a Pinterest board of wedding shoe styles that you love so that you have that at the back of your mind as you try on wedding dresses.

If you’re planning on shopping online, it’s always a good idea to buy early as sizes can run out really fast. If the sizes run out, the lead time can be long, especially if it’s handmade. So it’s always a good idea to get the shoe early rather than later.

If you get it before your wedding dress fitting, you’ll be able to wear it to ensure that it matches your dress and the hem is right. This will help you save alteration costs later down the road.

Consider Your Venue

Are you having an outdoor wedding? Garden? Ballroom? Church? Barn? Think about where you’re having your wedding when you’re choosing your wedding shoe.

Garden wedding brides might want to consider wearing a comfortable wedding flat which works better for the garden terrain. If you love a good heel, a low heel would suit the uneven surface. Or expand your mind and wear a wedding bootie, a mix between a heel and a flat that provides extra support.

Wherever you decide to have your wedding, always ensure that your shoe choice works well with the location.

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Comfort

Think about your everyday style. Are you someone who loves the confidence of a 4-inch stiletto? Then keep to your style and wear a stiletto for your wedding. Just ensure that the heel you choose has extra padding so that you’re comfortable all day. On your feet for most of it!

If you are a woman that loves converse or sandals, then stick to a lower shoe height for your wedding. I don’t recommend testing a new height on your wedding day as all eyes will be on you. If heels are important, consider a low-heel option so you still get the experience of a heel without the ambitious height.

Also, choose shoes that have natural materials such as genuine leather to allow for stretching and breathability. Just remember to stay true to who you are.

Be You

You’ve probably put in a ton of effort to find the perfect dress, which means that you might want to find a wedding shoe that complements your dress and style.

Look at the elements of your wedding dress. Is your dress adorned with classic lace or elegant rhinestone embroidery? Does it have little blue detail embroidery? Look for similar elements in your wedding shoe to complement your dress, so that it matches your style and taste. You wouldn’t want a total mix match.

Ensure They Make You Feel Special

Choose a wedding shoe that makes you feel amazing! Even though your dress is floor-length, you still want to be able to give your guests an occasional peak that’ll make them gasp and shower you with compliments!

You want to feel like a princess on your special day, so consider one that isn’t boring. Perhaps a sparkly blue Cinderella glass slipper or a gold and champagne number. Bottom line: Choose a wedding shoe that will stand out and one that will look amazing both in pictures and in real life.

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Wear Them In!

Try, try and try them again! Wear them around the house (preferably on a clean, indoor, and carpeted surface in case you need to return if needed) to test the comfort of the shoe.

Try wearing them for an hour or two as you prep for meals to get them worn in so that they fit comfortably on your wedding day. If you really want to go all out, try dancing in them to really wear them in.

It’s also fun to wear them before your wedding in the house so you can truly imagine how you’ll look on your big day!

Re-Wearability vs One-Time Special Sentimental Wear

Are you looking for a wedding shoe that is sentimental or one that can be re-worn?

If you’re looking for something sentimental, then look for one that is special enough to be passed down as an heirloom.

If you’re looking for practicality, then focus your search on shoes that you can re-wear after your wedding day. Instead of an ivory number, look for a nude heel, or go bold with a black beauty. Also, consider wedding sandals or even flats. Not only are they comfortable but the style is usually one where you can re-wear many, many times! This way, you’ll be able to relive your wedding day every time you put them on. Also, who doesn’t love a bargain?

Something Blue?

Stumped on what to choose for your something blue? Make it your shoes! A powder blue shoe is a great option to keep up with tradition and make your shoe buying process easier! Or go all out with a bold sapphire blue!

You’re Not Limited To One Pair

Finally, remember that it’s totally normal to have a pair for the ceremony and another for the reception. If brides are allowed to change wedding dresses, then the same thing applies to wedding shoes!

If you want to wear a heel during the ceremony, then consider a wedding flat for the dancing which is more comfortable. Also, your wedding day is all about you! So you have every valid excuse and reason to splurge on new shoes.

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So there you have it! Enjoy the fun of the wedding shoe hunting process.

Wedding Invites – What to Include in the Information Insert

Things to include in your Information Insert.

The guest list is sorted and you’re ready to start inviting – HURRAH! In addition to the wedding stationery, which traditionally holds the invitation itself and the RSVP card, it’s a good idea to include an information card for your guests.

What is this information card for? Well, if you’re having a location wedding or most of your guests don’t know the area where your nuptials are taking place, then it’s pretty handy to have one, and it avoids last-minute queries on the day itself (no bride or groom wants their phone ringing off the hook by lost relatives!)

There is no set etiquette for what details you should write on the information sheet, so here are some useful pointers you might think about including (these can be placed in your invitation envelope or mentioned on your wedding website).

Directions

Include directions to your ceremony and/or reception venue, as well as maps of the local area, for all those who are not familiar with the location.

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Nearby Transport

It is considerate to include the nearest transport links, like a nearby railway station or the closest airport.

Also, if your guests are treating your wedding as a little getaway, provide them with tourist information and a list of local attractions!

Taxi Companies

Another good idea is to provide your guests with contact numbers for the local taxi firms, or with nearby car park details. This way, they will be able to enjoy your reception without worrying about how to get home or designating a driver.

Accommodation

This is the perfect place to jot down all the sleeping options. Try reserving some rooms in local hotels, bed and breakfasts, or friend’s houses, so they don’t get booked out by strangers, and get your guests to mention your name. It’s a good idea to provide a variety of options here across all price ranges.

Tip: You can also ask your wedding venue where your guests can find accommodation near the wedding!

Dress Code

An information sheet will also often feature the required dress code, especially if it is in an unfamiliar climate (sun hats against the heat and mittens for the cold!) or if you need “lawn-friendly” shoes!

Kids

Are you excluding children from your wedding? Or do you have special arrangements made for them already? Put this on the information sheet. Try to be as polite as possible when excluding children from the festivities.

Gifts!

Most couples have qualms about where to mention their gift list, as traditionalists still say that it is rude for the engaged couple to mention presents. I think it’s completely acceptable to put gift list details on the information sheet (otherwise all the guests will just ask!) If this is still too obvious for you, a number of stores provide helpful cards with your gift list details on them, that you can slip into your invitation envelope.

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Bring Cash

An information sheet is also a good place to let your guests know whether you’re having a cash bar or which cards the bar will accept. Then they will know what to expect and be prepared.

The Day After

If you are planning any activities for the day after, like a catch-up brunch, or golfing. The information sheet is the perfect place to put all the details.

Carriages?

If you have a set a “Carriages” time (the time everyone needs to leave the venue). You should let your guests know on the information card so that they can make arrangements for getting home in advance.

Hashtags

Having a social media savvy wedding? Get guests posting early by providing the wedding hashtag on the info sheet. Or having an unplugged wedding? Let guests know you don’t want to share pictures on social media here.

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Environmentally Friendly

If you are an environmentally friendly couple, why not send out a simple business card with the URL of your wedding website, on which all of the above information can be found! Supplement this with your phone number and that of the Best Man or the Maid of Honour, so that your guests can ask any additional questions!

Final Tip

You don’t have to splurge out on expensive quality paper for the information sheet. You can just print them at home on nice paper and save some pennies!

How to pick the right veil for your wedding dress.

Picking the right veil for your wedding dress.

Where does the tradition of wearing a wedding veil come from?

Although the veil’s history varies based on who you ask, most experts agree that you can trace its roots back to Rome, where a bride used to walk down the aisle with a veil over her face in order to disguise herself from any evil spirits who wanted to thwart her happiness.

Still today a veil means different things to different faiths. Despite their current popularity, the experts note that veils did go out style for some time, and only became a fashionable accessory again after Queen Victoria’s wedding.

So which veil goes best with which dress?

First and foremost, amid all of the choices you have available, finding a veil that compliments your dress should be top priority! Don’t just choose a veil because you like it. You want your dress to be the star of the show so it is important to find a veil that enhances that gown rather than competes with it.

Think about the shape of your dress.

When choosing your veil length you will want to figure out what shape or silhouette your dress is. Certain lengths go better with certain shapes. And certain lengths should be avoided for particular shapes.

After you have decided which shape best resembles your dress you can decide on your length. The basic rule of thumb for long dresses is that you want the veil to flow with the dress. This helps move the eye gracefully down the dress rather than creating an abrupt interruption. The most flattering and universal length is the fingertip length veil because it flows into the skirt or ends at a natural curve point on the body.

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This veil was the bride’s mums. Her something old.

Here are a few suggestions for your dress style that are commonly the most flattering:

Ballgown:

Almost any length works with this dress but avoid a ballet or waltz length. The ballet length will look fine from the front but from the back, it will end at an unnatural point and cut off the flow of your dress.

A-line or Modified A-line:

Basically the same length suggestions for the ball gown work for the A-line as well.

Trumpet or Mermaid:

The best lengths for these are either a fingertip length or a longer veil that has a train such as a chapel length or a cathedral length. Birdcage veils also look beautiful with these styles. Avoid the elbow length. It’s too short and creates more disruptions in an already curvy style.

Column/Sheath:

The best lengths for this style are fingertip, ballet/waltz, or a floor-length. And elbow-length will work as well. Just make sure its not too short. It should end at least at the waist. If you would like a train I would choose a length that barely drags on the floor. Avoid anything longer as it is just too much veil for this simple shape.

Tea Length:

The best lengths are shoulder length or birdcage veils. You could also go with an elbow-length veil if you want something a little longer.

Short Dress/Cocktail Length:

The birdcage veils work best with short styles but some brides pull off longer lengths. If you go longer just make sure the veil will feel balanced with the dress shape.

Train or no train?

Now that you have narrowed down your options it’s time to ask yourself if you want a long veil with a train/no train or a shorter veil.

Longer veils are beautiful, dramatic, and more formal but will typically need to be removed after the ceremony. However, you can leave the veil on it will just be more maintenance during the reception.

Shorter veils are a little less formal feeling and low maintenance.

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Bling or no bling?

If your dress is busy and features lots of pretty details, find a simple veil with a clean raw edge. If your dress is simple, choose a veil with intricate details such as a lace embellishment or floral accents to add dimension to your gown.

Your hairstyle

If you choose to wear a veil, your veil may need a supportive base such as a bridal bun, messy updo, or half up/half down hairstyle. The longer or heavier your veil, the more supportive your bun or hairstyle will need to be.

The great thing about bridal hairstyles is your wedding veil can be made to frame your bridal hairstyle from behind. Instead of a metal bridal comb, your veil can be customised with cotton loops instead of a comb which means that your hairstylist can pin the veil to the natural curve of your bun.

Your hairstyle will affect how your veil sits and where the end of the veil will fall. If you’re planning on a big bridal bun, the veil may need to sit above the bun. As a result, your veil may appear slightly shorter.

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What if I don’t want to wear a veil?

Then don’t! There is no ‘rule’ that says you have to. You could choose to wear nothing in place of a veil or you could pick one of these show-stopping alternatives:

Headpieces and Hair Accessories

A pretty headpiece or hair accessory gives your look a fuss-free flourish. Try a slim headband, a floral comb, or a sleek barrette for a touch of sparkle. Bridal chains, hair vines, or halos are pretty ways to spruce up your locks, too!

Tiaras

Feeling a little regal? Amp up the drama with a dazzling tiara. Whether you wear your hair up or down, it’s sure to captivate the crowd—cue the “oohs” and “aaahs.”

Flower Crowns

The more flowers the better! Add fresh blooms to your day for a romantic look! Try Baby’s Breath, roses, greenery, or an assortment of wildflowers that complement your day.

Capes

You don’t have to forgo the pleasure of a flowy finishing touch just because you’re not wearing a veil! Slip on a sheer chiffon or lace cape to complete your look.

Good Photo Op!

One things for certain, veils make for wonderful photo opportunities 😉

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Top Tips for choosing you Wedding Day Jewellery

Top Tips for choosing your Wedding Day Jewellery

After weeks of scouring wedding dress shops and hours of fitting room dramas, I know that ‘the dress’ is important. But choosing your wedding jewellery is just as crucial to give you the perfect look as you walk down the aisle. So before you start your search, have a look at these tips for picking your accessories.

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Compliment Your Dress

First off, the colour of your jewellery needs to stay in theme with your dress/outfit. If you’ve gone for an ivory or champagne shade of gown, gold metal will really set off this style and make you glow. If you’ve chosen a bright white gown, platinum or silver jewellery will enhance your look – or try rose gold metal to compliment a dress with soft pink or blush tones.

Find a Skin Match

The same goes for jewellery working with your skin colour. If you are dark-skinned or have an olive complexion, try and find a lighter hue of jewellery that will stand out, perhaps a silver metal. On the other hand, a pale colouring can be complemented by tones of warm golds – but remember to adjust this if you’re planning on getting a tan for your big day!

Think about the Future

Though your wedding dress may not get another chance to shine, your bridal jewellery should be something you can return to again and again.

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Less Is More

Don’t go crazy with massive statement pieces that will detract from the look of the dress. When you walk down the aisle, you still want the dress to be remembered – not the massive bling hanging around your neck! If in doubt, go for something really simple and stick to only a few accessories – your dress will do the talking anyway!

Hair Accessories

Remember what you’re putting in your hair before you choose what jewellery you’re going to wear on your big day. Think about whether you’re going to sport the veil look, a glitzy tiara, or just using a simple accessory to finish off your hairstyle. When jewellery shopping, take your hair items with you so you can match metals if need be.

Dare to be Colourful

There’s no need to keep everything a shade of ivory, silver or gold. “Adding a pop of colour with jewellery is a subtle way to liven up a classic neutral colour palette. Matching your gemstone to details in the wedding, such as a shade in the bridesmaid bouquets or the table pieces, is a sophisticated way of tying your theme together. Or make some of your jewellery your something blue.

Mix Old, Borrowed and New

Not everything has to match. Of course, you don’t want to clash eras and colours, but a beautiful heirloom piece, borrowed or gifted from a relative, could look wonderful alongside a contemporary classic. And if you have a favourite pair of pearl earrings that always make you feel your best, by all means, wear them. Even better if they complement the beading in your gown; consider choosing a modern tiara which also has pearl beading detail to really make the most of them and create a cohesive overall look.

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Be Comfortable

On your wedding day, you still need to do ‘you’. So if you don’t normally wear extravagant necklaces and heavy earrings, why do it on the best day of your life? You need to feel confident and comfortable in what you’re wearing, so let it emulate your personality and be yourself!

Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

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You’re engaged to your best friend, your partner in crime, your ride or die. Now it’s time to start planning the big party! The first thing on your mind will likely be: “How much is all of this going to cost?” and “How are we going to pay for it??”. But don’t panic. Apps like BrideBook have super helpful budget planners which estimate the costs of your wedding and breaks them down, so you have a good idea of what each part will cost.

Some families may offer to help the newlyweds-to-be celebrate the most magical day in their lives, and for that, I’ve put together the lowdown on (traditionally) who pays for what. This way you can look at your budget, see how much each part costs, and let your families know how much they can help with! At the end of the day, it’s whatever works for you and your family, but this is a good place to start!

Who pays for the engagement party?

This expense is traditionally covered by the bride’s family, as they will often host the engagement party at their house, as a way to welcome and bring together the two families (usually for the first time!). However, whichever family is feeling the most generous can host or offer to throw the party.

Who pays for the wedding rings?

The wedding rings are a split cost between the bride and groom’s families. The groom’s family will pay for the bride’s ring and vice versa.

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Who pays for the wedding flowers?

The bouquet should be a gift from the groom to the bride, as she is his date. The bride’s side of the family will traditionally pay for the flower decorations

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Who pays for the bridesmaid dresses and usher suits?

The bride’s side of the family traditionally pays for the bride’s and bridesmaid’s dresses. Although more and more, bridesmaids are paying for their own dress. It really depends on your budget, the type of dresses you want them to wear and whether or not it’s within their price range! This is something which you should definitely discuss early on with your bride squad, to avoid any confusion later.

As for the best man and usher suits? Unless they are matching and require special suits, the ushers should pay for them themselves. If the suits need to be tailor-made, it’s an expense that the groom’s side should kindly cover. 

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Who pays for guest’s accommodation?

Traditionally each side of the family will pay for their own guest’s accommodation. However, this will really depend on what the families are comfortable with. Nowadays, most guests will pay for their own accommodation – just make sure you mention this on your invites.

Who pays for the honeymoon?

Traditionally, it is the groom who pays for the honeymoon. However, most couples today are splitting the cost, and many are asking for donations towards their honeymoon, instead of wedding gifts! This is a new tradition, that stems from the fact that people are getting married later and already living together when they tie the knot. This means they probably don’t need a new toaster or a 24-piece dinnerware set!

A cheat sheet of what each family traditionally pays for…

Bride and Bride’s family:

 

• Wedding dress and the accessories that come with it

• Bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories (although nowadays more and more bridesmaids pay for their own attire)

• Bride’s accompanying outfits (going away and honeymoon)

• Hair and make-up, along with other beauty treatments

• Transportation for the bridal party to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the ceremony to the reception venue

• Photography and/or videography

• Flowers

• Venue hire and decorations

• Wedding cake

• Catering

• Favours

• Drinks

• Entertainment

• Wedding stationery

• Groom’s wedding ring

• Engagement party

• Wedding insurance

• Overnight accommodation for close family

• Presents for the groom’s family

 

Groom and Groom’s family:

 

• Groom’s outfit

• Best man’s and usher’s outfits (like bridesmaids, however, these now tend to be bought by the groomsmen themselves)

• Groom’s going-away outfit

• Transportation for the groom and best man to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the reception

• Buttonholes for all the groomsmen

• Civil or religious ceremony fees

• Church fees, plus extras like church music and bell ringing

• Registration office and other venue fees

• Passports and visas for the honeymoon

• Travel and accommodation for the honeymoon

• Spending money for the honeymoon

• Travel insurance for the honeymoon

• Bride’s engagement and wedding rings

• Presents for the bridesmaids, ushers and best man

• Presents for the bride’s parents

• Press announcement for the wedding

• Wedding night hotel
So, that’s how it’s been broken down historically, but the winds of time are changing and there’s nothing to say that this is how yours will or should be broken down. Couples are getting married later in life now than they used to, so financial situations are likely to be somewhat different.