Who Gets To Be In The Wedding Gang?
Planning a wedding is a pretty daunting task for any couple, which is why traditionally the wedding party has a number of jobs to help with the process and to ensure smooth wedding planning at all times…I’ve focussed previously on the Bride Tribe and the Groom Squad roles and responsibilities. But how do you pick who carries out those roles for you? This month I have some top tips for picking the best guys and gals.
Top Tips for Choosing Your Wedding Party
1. Choose Responsible Friends
The best wedding party members will always be the people who are responsible and good at providing emotional support (because let’s be honest, there’s bound to be a few emotional breakdowns). You need someone who you can rely on to carry out their role properly at the same time as having fun, so if your BFF isn’t super dependable, you might want to consider having two of the same role.
2. Don’t Choose Someone Just Because They Asked You
Wedding planning isn’t the time to be returning favours just because you feel you have to. Choose the people who are closest to you at this point in time, not the people who chose you. If anyone wants to speak to you about why they weren’t chosen, be kind and tell them you had a difficult decision and there are lots of special people who you sadly couldn’t pick.
3. Think Twice Before You Ask
Once you’ve chosen your wedding party, you can’t go back. Take time deciding who’s going to make the cut, be sure you’ve made the right choice, and then think of a lovely way to propose the role to them. Wedding planning is not a race!
4. Set Honest and Realistic Expectations
Although you need to choose dependable friends and family to make up your wedding party, don’t expect the world from them. If you want your party to play a hands-on role in wedding planning, it might be best to choose those who live closer to you. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment!
5. Consider the Size of Your Wedding
Of course, you can have as many bridesmaids and ushers as you’d like, but just remember that more isn’t always merrier. If you’re having a small and intimate wedding, consider stripping your wedding party back so that everything is in proportion.
6. Remember There Aren’t Any Rules!
Nowadays, you have free rein as to what you do with your wedding party. You might want a favourite Uncle to give you away. You don’t have to fill all the roles, but similarly, you could have two best men, two maids of honour or even a best woman! The choice is all yours – so have fun with it!