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How To Find Your Wedding Solemate

How To Find Your Wedding Solemate

How’s your wedding shoe shopping going? Still looking? Them I have some top tips for you.

Buy Early

Create a Pinterest board of wedding shoe styles that you love so that you have that at the back of your mind as you try on wedding dresses.

If you’re planning on shopping online, it’s always a good idea to buy early as sizes can run out really fast. If the sizes run out, the lead time can be long, especially if it’s handmade. So it’s always a good idea to get the shoe early rather than later.

If you get it before your wedding dress fitting, you’ll be able to wear it to ensure that it matches your dress and the hem is right. This will help you save alteration costs later down the road.

Consider Your Venue

Are you having an outdoor wedding? Garden? Ballroom? Church? Barn? Think about where you’re having your wedding when you’re choosing your wedding shoe.

Garden wedding brides might want to consider wearing a comfortable wedding flat which works better for the garden terrain. If you love a good heel, a low heel would suit the uneven surface. Or expand your mind and wear a wedding bootie, a mix between a heel and a flat that provides extra support.

Wherever you decide to have your wedding, always ensure that your shoe choice works well with the location.

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Comfort

Think about your everyday style. Are you someone who loves the confidence of a 4-inch stiletto? Then keep to your style and wear a stiletto for your wedding. Just ensure that the heel you choose has extra padding so that you’re comfortable all day. On your feet for most of it!

If you are a woman that loves converse or sandals, then stick to a lower shoe height for your wedding. I don’t recommend testing a new height on your wedding day as all eyes will be on you. If heels are important, consider a low-heel option so you still get the experience of a heel without the ambitious height.

Also, choose shoes that have natural materials such as genuine leather to allow for stretching and breathability. Just remember to stay true to who you are.

Be You

You’ve probably put in a ton of effort to find the perfect dress, which means that you might want to find a wedding shoe that complements your dress and style.

Look at the elements of your wedding dress. Is your dress adorned with classic lace or elegant rhinestone embroidery? Does it have little blue detail embroidery? Look for similar elements in your wedding shoe to complement your dress, so that it matches your style and taste. You wouldn’t want a total mix match.

Ensure They Make You Feel Special

Choose a wedding shoe that makes you feel amazing! Even though your dress is floor-length, you still want to be able to give your guests an occasional peak that’ll make them gasp and shower you with compliments!

You want to feel like a princess on your special day, so consider one that isn’t boring. Perhaps a sparkly blue Cinderella glass slipper or a gold and champagne number. Bottom line: Choose a wedding shoe that will stand out and one that will look amazing both in pictures and in real life.

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Wear Them In!

Try, try and try them again! Wear them around the house (preferably on a clean, indoor, and carpeted surface in case you need to return if needed) to test the comfort of the shoe.

Try wearing them for an hour or two as you prep for meals to get them worn in so that they fit comfortably on your wedding day. If you really want to go all out, try dancing in them to really wear them in.

It’s also fun to wear them before your wedding in the house so you can truly imagine how you’ll look on your big day!

Re-Wearability vs One-Time Special Sentimental Wear

Are you looking for a wedding shoe that is sentimental or one that can be re-worn?

If you’re looking for something sentimental, then look for one that is special enough to be passed down as an heirloom.

If you’re looking for practicality, then focus your search on shoes that you can re-wear after your wedding day. Instead of an ivory number, look for a nude heel, or go bold with a black beauty. Also, consider wedding sandals or even flats. Not only are they comfortable but the style is usually one where you can re-wear many, many times! This way, you’ll be able to relive your wedding day every time you put them on. Also, who doesn’t love a bargain?

Something Blue?

Stumped on what to choose for your something blue? Make it your shoes! A powder blue shoe is a great option to keep up with tradition and make your shoe buying process easier! Or go all out with a bold sapphire blue!

You’re Not Limited To One Pair

Finally, remember that it’s totally normal to have a pair for the ceremony and another for the reception. If brides are allowed to change wedding dresses, then the same thing applies to wedding shoes!

If you want to wear a heel during the ceremony, then consider a wedding flat for the dancing which is more comfortable. Also, your wedding day is all about you! So you have every valid excuse and reason to splurge on new shoes.

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So there you have it! Enjoy the fun of the wedding shoe hunting process.

Wedding Invites – What to Include in the Information Insert

Things to include in your Information Insert.

The guest list is sorted and you’re ready to start inviting – HURRAH! In addition to the wedding stationery, which traditionally holds the invitation itself and the RSVP card, it’s a good idea to include an information card for your guests.

What is this information card for? Well, if you’re having a location wedding or most of your guests don’t know the area where your nuptials are taking place, then it’s pretty handy to have one, and it avoids last-minute queries on the day itself (no bride or groom wants their phone ringing off the hook by lost relatives!)

There is no set etiquette for what details you should write on the information sheet, so here are some useful pointers you might think about including (these can be placed in your invitation envelope or mentioned on your wedding website).

Directions

Include directions to your ceremony and/or reception venue, as well as maps of the local area, for all those who are not familiar with the location.

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Nearby Transport

It is considerate to include the nearest transport links, like a nearby railway station or the closest airport.

Also, if your guests are treating your wedding as a little getaway, provide them with tourist information and a list of local attractions!

Taxi Companies

Another good idea is to provide your guests with contact numbers for the local taxi firms, or with nearby car park details. This way, they will be able to enjoy your reception without worrying about how to get home or designating a driver.

Accommodation

This is the perfect place to jot down all the sleeping options. Try reserving some rooms in local hotels, bed and breakfasts, or friend’s houses, so they don’t get booked out by strangers, and get your guests to mention your name. It’s a good idea to provide a variety of options here across all price ranges.

Tip: You can also ask your wedding venue where your guests can find accommodation near the wedding!

Dress Code

An information sheet will also often feature the required dress code, especially if it is in an unfamiliar climate (sun hats against the heat and mittens for the cold!) or if you need “lawn-friendly” shoes!

Kids

Are you excluding children from your wedding? Or do you have special arrangements made for them already? Put this on the information sheet. Try to be as polite as possible when excluding children from the festivities.

Gifts!

Most couples have qualms about where to mention their gift list, as traditionalists still say that it is rude for the engaged couple to mention presents. I think it’s completely acceptable to put gift list details on the information sheet (otherwise all the guests will just ask!) If this is still too obvious for you, a number of stores provide helpful cards with your gift list details on them, that you can slip into your invitation envelope.

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Bring Cash

An information sheet is also a good place to let your guests know whether you’re having a cash bar or which cards the bar will accept. Then they will know what to expect and be prepared.

The Day After

If you are planning any activities for the day after, like a catch-up brunch, or golfing. The information sheet is the perfect place to put all the details.

Carriages?

If you have a set a “Carriages” time (the time everyone needs to leave the venue). You should let your guests know on the information card so that they can make arrangements for getting home in advance.

Hashtags

Having a social media savvy wedding? Get guests posting early by providing the wedding hashtag on the info sheet. Or having an unplugged wedding? Let guests know you don’t want to share pictures on social media here.

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Environmentally Friendly

If you are an environmentally friendly couple, why not send out a simple business card with the URL of your wedding website, on which all of the above information can be found! Supplement this with your phone number and that of the Best Man or the Maid of Honour, so that your guests can ask any additional questions!

Final Tip

You don’t have to splurge out on expensive quality paper for the information sheet. You can just print them at home on nice paper and save some pennies!

Top Tips for choosing you Wedding Day Jewellery

Top Tips for choosing your Wedding Day Jewellery

After weeks of scouring wedding dress shops and hours of fitting room dramas, I know that ‘the dress’ is important. But choosing your wedding jewellery is just as crucial to give you the perfect look as you walk down the aisle. So before you start your search, have a look at these tips for picking your accessories.

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Compliment Your Dress

First off, the colour of your jewellery needs to stay in theme with your dress/outfit. If you’ve gone for an ivory or champagne shade of gown, gold metal will really set off this style and make you glow. If you’ve chosen a bright white gown, platinum or silver jewellery will enhance your look – or try rose gold metal to compliment a dress with soft pink or blush tones.

Find a Skin Match

The same goes for jewellery working with your skin colour. If you are dark-skinned or have an olive complexion, try and find a lighter hue of jewellery that will stand out, perhaps a silver metal. On the other hand, a pale colouring can be complemented by tones of warm golds – but remember to adjust this if you’re planning on getting a tan for your big day!

Think about the Future

Though your wedding dress may not get another chance to shine, your bridal jewellery should be something you can return to again and again.

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Less Is More

Don’t go crazy with massive statement pieces that will detract from the look of the dress. When you walk down the aisle, you still want the dress to be remembered – not the massive bling hanging around your neck! If in doubt, go for something really simple and stick to only a few accessories – your dress will do the talking anyway!

Hair Accessories

Remember what you’re putting in your hair before you choose what jewellery you’re going to wear on your big day. Think about whether you’re going to sport the veil look, a glitzy tiara, or just using a simple accessory to finish off your hairstyle. When jewellery shopping, take your hair items with you so you can match metals if need be.

Dare to be Colourful

There’s no need to keep everything a shade of ivory, silver or gold. “Adding a pop of colour with jewellery is a subtle way to liven up a classic neutral colour palette. Matching your gemstone to details in the wedding, such as a shade in the bridesmaid bouquets or the table pieces, is a sophisticated way of tying your theme together. Or make some of your jewellery your something blue.

Mix Old, Borrowed and New

Not everything has to match. Of course, you don’t want to clash eras and colours, but a beautiful heirloom piece, borrowed or gifted from a relative, could look wonderful alongside a contemporary classic. And if you have a favourite pair of pearl earrings that always make you feel your best, by all means, wear them. Even better if they complement the beading in your gown; consider choosing a modern tiara which also has pearl beading detail to really make the most of them and create a cohesive overall look.

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Be Comfortable

On your wedding day, you still need to do ‘you’. So if you don’t normally wear extravagant necklaces and heavy earrings, why do it on the best day of your life? You need to feel confident and comfortable in what you’re wearing, so let it emulate your personality and be yourself!

Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

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You’re engaged to your best friend, your partner in crime, your ride or die. Now it’s time to start planning the big party! The first thing on your mind will likely be: “How much is all of this going to cost?” and “How are we going to pay for it??”. But don’t panic. Apps like BrideBook have super helpful budget planners which estimate the costs of your wedding and breaks them down, so you have a good idea of what each part will cost.

Some families may offer to help the newlyweds-to-be celebrate the most magical day in their lives, and for that, I’ve put together the lowdown on (traditionally) who pays for what. This way you can look at your budget, see how much each part costs, and let your families know how much they can help with! At the end of the day, it’s whatever works for you and your family, but this is a good place to start!

Who pays for the engagement party?

This expense is traditionally covered by the bride’s family, as they will often host the engagement party at their house, as a way to welcome and bring together the two families (usually for the first time!). However, whichever family is feeling the most generous can host or offer to throw the party.

Who pays for the wedding rings?

The wedding rings are a split cost between the bride and groom’s families. The groom’s family will pay for the bride’s ring and vice versa.

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Who pays for the wedding flowers?

The bouquet should be a gift from the groom to the bride, as she is his date. The bride’s side of the family will traditionally pay for the flower decorations

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Who pays for the bridesmaid dresses and usher suits?

The bride’s side of the family traditionally pays for the bride’s and bridesmaid’s dresses. Although more and more, bridesmaids are paying for their own dress. It really depends on your budget, the type of dresses you want them to wear and whether or not it’s within their price range! This is something which you should definitely discuss early on with your bride squad, to avoid any confusion later.

As for the best man and usher suits? Unless they are matching and require special suits, the ushers should pay for them themselves. If the suits need to be tailor-made, it’s an expense that the groom’s side should kindly cover. 

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Who pays for guest’s accommodation?

Traditionally each side of the family will pay for their own guest’s accommodation. However, this will really depend on what the families are comfortable with. Nowadays, most guests will pay for their own accommodation – just make sure you mention this on your invites.

Who pays for the honeymoon?

Traditionally, it is the groom who pays for the honeymoon. However, most couples today are splitting the cost, and many are asking for donations towards their honeymoon, instead of wedding gifts! This is a new tradition, that stems from the fact that people are getting married later and already living together when they tie the knot. This means they probably don’t need a new toaster or a 24-piece dinnerware set!

A cheat sheet of what each family traditionally pays for…

Bride and Bride’s family:

 

• Wedding dress and the accessories that come with it

• Bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories (although nowadays more and more bridesmaids pay for their own attire)

• Bride’s accompanying outfits (going away and honeymoon)

• Hair and make-up, along with other beauty treatments

• Transportation for the bridal party to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the ceremony to the reception venue

• Photography and/or videography

• Flowers

• Venue hire and decorations

• Wedding cake

• Catering

• Favours

• Drinks

• Entertainment

• Wedding stationery

• Groom’s wedding ring

• Engagement party

• Wedding insurance

• Overnight accommodation for close family

• Presents for the groom’s family

 

Groom and Groom’s family:

 

• Groom’s outfit

• Best man’s and usher’s outfits (like bridesmaids, however, these now tend to be bought by the groomsmen themselves)

• Groom’s going-away outfit

• Transportation for the groom and best man to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the reception

• Buttonholes for all the groomsmen

• Civil or religious ceremony fees

• Church fees, plus extras like church music and bell ringing

• Registration office and other venue fees

• Passports and visas for the honeymoon

• Travel and accommodation for the honeymoon

• Spending money for the honeymoon

• Travel insurance for the honeymoon

• Bride’s engagement and wedding rings

• Presents for the bridesmaids, ushers and best man

• Presents for the bride’s parents

• Press announcement for the wedding

• Wedding night hotel
So, that’s how it’s been broken down historically, but the winds of time are changing and there’s nothing to say that this is how yours will or should be broken down. Couples are getting married later in life now than they used to, so financial situations are likely to be somewhat different.

Gift ideas for your Wedding Party

Gift Ideas for your Wedding Party

Your parents, their parents, the bridesmaids and the best man and ushers, they all (hopefully) help you have the most amazing day ever. So you want to say thank you either when you’re getting ready, during the speeches or at some other time. There are traditional gifts like flowers for the mums but for those of you that want to gift something different…read on, I have collected some ideas 🙂

Gifts

Mums

For as long as you have been dreaming about your wedding day there’s a good chance your mum has been too. If her help has been invaluable why not treat her to one of these gifts as a thank you? Same goes for your future mum-in-law or any other maternal figure that has been a big part of your day.

  • Overnight bag – If your mum played an integral part in helping you plan your wedding, encourage her to take a much-needed postnuptial holiday with a roomy canvas bag, perfect for a quick weekend getaway.
  • A cosy dressing gown – Is there a more perfect way to say, “Thanks for all you do—now go relax!”? I think not.
  • A custom illustration –  Custom gifts are the way to go for brides seeking something that says a heartfelt “thank you.” Memorialise your special bond with a personalised illustration of your likenesses. (check out The Ricketty Desk for a truly bespoke experience)
  • Engraved beauty compact – Pair this sweet little handbag accessory with her favourite lipstick or nail polish for a thoughtful beauty gift she’ll use for years to come.
  • Personalised hankie – On your wedding day, waterworks are practically guaranteed—especially from your mother. Give her a pretty crocheted hankie and, for maximum sentimentality, have the gift customised with embroidered names, dates or a monogram.
  • Spa experience – Relieve your mum from her mother of the bride/groom duties by giving her the gift of relaxation.

Spa break

  • Special locket or charm – Tuck in a little note or vintage photos of loved ones for a sentimental gift she’ll treasure forever.
  • Meaningful Figurine – Like the Willow Tree carved ones are the epitome of sweet sentiment.
  • Monthly subscription box – Gin tasting, wine of the month, chocolate tasting…the choices are endless.( check out Bottle in a Box for a wide range of alcoholic gifts)
  • Glass or crystal vase – up the ante by giving her flowers already arranged in a beautiful vase, that will last long after the flowers do.
  • House Plant – or for the green-fingered mums a house plant or garden plant would be a thoughtful gift.
  • Perfume set – her favourite perfume or the one you’ve chosen for your wedding day.

 

Dads

Whether he is walking you down the aisle or providing much needed moral support, here some gift ideas for the main man in your life.

  • Overnight bag – Perhaps he and mum can go away for a wee break?
  • Personalised handkerchief – give it to him during prep and he can carry it with him all day.
  • A decanter – wine or spirits his thing? Help him to show them off in style.
  • Wallet – personalise by having his initials monogrammed onto it.
  • Monogrammed glasses – for his whisky or other tipples.
  • Personalised cufflinks – there are loads of great styles to choose from
  • Personalised golf ball set – if your dad is a golfer this could be perfect.

 

Bridesmaids

Your bridesmaids have been there for you every step of the way throughout your wedding planning journey. From celebrating your engagement to planning the best hen party ever, you can’t imagine a better group of gals to have by your side for your walk down the aisle. Whether you met them in school, university, or at work—you’ve undoubtedly shared some amazing memories together, and your wedding is no exception!

  • Personalised clutch bags – It’s a gift they’ll use for years to come—and they’ll always think of you.
  • Anything monogrammed – from coasters to make up bags – who doesn’t like something with their initial(s) on it?
  • Jewellery – from tie the knot stud earrings to necklaces to wear with their bridesmaid dresses you can’t go wrong with a bit of bling.
  • Pashmina – If your wedding is outdoors or taking place in the evening, a super-soft pashmina is the perfect gift way to say thank you to your bridesmaids.
  • Personalised candles – Available in a variety of delicious scents such as lavender peppermint and lemongrass verbena, these modern, budget-friendly candles are the perfect custom gift for your girls. Search on Etsy.

Candles

  • A personalised mobile phone case – Personalised phone cases offer a modern pop of colour to your bridesmaid’s clutch. They’re the perfect accessory for those impromptu mirror selfies on the big day.
  • Engraved beauty compact – see mum’s list above.

 

Best Man and Ushers

These guys will be there to help the groom during every step of his wedding planning process.

From trying on wedding suits and organising an awesome stag do to giving a hilarious best man speech, there are a whole load of best man and usher duties which might go unnoticed by the other guests.

  • Personalised tankard -The glass or metal can be personalised with the groomsman’s role, your wedding date and location. You could also go for pint glasses or rocks glasses.
  • Personalised collar stiffeners. They can be engraved with your choice of a message in a selection of fonts, making them truly unique to the recipient. What a lovely idea!
  • Wedding socks – a practical gift that can be personalised.
  • Beers of the world gift set – What best man wouldn’t be over the moon with a hamper full of beer? This set contains six speciality craft beers which have each been paired with a savoury treat. Once your groomsmen’s wedding day hangovers have subsided, they’ll love tucking into this thank you treat!

Beer

  • Personalised leather keyring – sites like Not on the High Street have lots of lovely options.
  • Personalised cufflinks – See dad’s list above
  • Other monogrammed gifts – from hip flasks to belts there is something to suit your guys.
  • Beard care kits – no self-respecting hipster would be upset at this gift!

 

I hope that these ideas give you some inspiration.

Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Apparently, one of past brides biggest regrets is not hiring a videographer so they can relive their wedding day over and over again. If you think this might be you…read on to make sure you get one that is right for you.

Start by researching wedding videographers in your area and reading reviews to find potential suppliers that match your wedding vision and budget. When you’re ready to reach out and possibly negotiate a contract with a videographer, there are several questions to ask them that you should keep top of mind.

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Here are the top 10 questions to ask a videographer before your wedding day.

 

1. What is your videography style?

There are many styles of videography. Whether it is documentary or cinematic, it is important to discuss the type of video style you want and make sure they offer it.

2. How do you choose the music for the film?

Discussing music is a great idea because it plays such an important part of your wedding film. You will be able to let your videographer know the types of genres you like and you can provide a list of songs for them to choose from.

3. Have you worked with my photographer before?

Your photographer and videographer will be working side by side, so you should make sure they know how to work as a team while capturing your big day. If they haven’t, make sure they are amenable to meeting them beforehand.

4. When will I receive my wedding video?

Editing can take a while, especially during wedding season. Therefore, it is always a good idea to ask when you will receive your final video so you will know when to expect it.

5. How long have you been filming weddings?

This will give you a better understanding of how long your videographer has been in the industry. You should also ask to see their previous work whether they are new to the industry or old. Checking out previous work will also help make sure you don’t fall foul to wedding scammers as a legitimate videographer will be happy to share their work.

6. What equipment will you use?

There are always new methods as well as technology, so it is a good idea to make sure your videographer is up-to-date with the most reliable equipment. If they are using drones, for example, do they have a licence to fly them?

7. Have you shot at my venue before?

This is a great question to see if the videographer is familiar with your venue. If they have shot there before, they will know the ins and outs of the area. If they have not shot at your venue before, then you may want to ask if they will visit before the day of your wedding.

8. What is your editing process?

Editing can be done in many ways and some types of editing can change the quality of your video film. Asking how your videographer edits their videos will let you know what kind of videos they produce.

9. What packages do you offer?

Videographers usually offer a variety of different packages and deals. You should discuss what package you want such as, having both a trailer video and your wedding highlight film. Or even see if they will do a same-day edit too!

10. Do you have a second shooter?

Having a second shooter is like having another set of eyes at your wedding. This ensures that nothing will be missed during the getting ready process, ceremony, reception, and all the good stuff in between.

That’s a wrap! I hope you found that useful.

 

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How to downsize your wedding guest list

How to downsize your wedding guest list

Covid-19 has thrown up all kinds of questions you never thought you’d have to answer about your Wedding Day, from how to store your dress to how to mark your original wedding date from home. But for many of you downsizing or adjusting your wedding plans means looking at your guest list in a new way. So today, I’m sharing tips for how to make your guest list smaller, where to start with downsizing, and who should still make the cut.

 

How Many People Can We Invite To Our Wedding Post-COVID-19?

Alas, this isn’t a question I can answer just yet. What we have been told, however, is that the process of ‘getting back to normal’ will be a slow one. So we can assume, that given that mass gatherings were one of the first things to be curtailed, it will be some time before they are re-introduced. The Scottish Government has produced a route map that is being updated regularly.

We may see small weddings return sooner and permission for larger gatherings scaled up slowly, so depending on when your wedding is, it’s worth making lists for several different scenarios, eg: An immediate family guest list, a 50 person guest list and a 100 person guest list.

So the question to start with, is, “Who can we not get married without?”. These are the friends and family who, if you were getting married in the morning, you’d need to have there. Once you start with those people, every additional guest will feel like a bonus!

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Wedding at Culzean Castle with just 4 day guests

Who Should You Cut From Your Guest List?

The C and D List

Anyone who was late to be added to your guest list in the first place, will likely to be the first to go. We’re talking the C and D list, people who you’d love to have on the dance floor, but are not vitally important to your experience of the day.

  • These will be different for every couple but may include guests like work colleagues, friends of your parents, extended cousins, friends’ children, or old school pals, particularly any ‘obligatory’ invites.
  • Plus ones that you have never met or new relationship plus ones.

Vulnerable and Elderly Guests

I know the idea of cutting your granny from your guest list seems extremely harsh. But in the coming months, even as restrictions lift, we’re all going to have to play a role in safeguarding the most vulnerable in our society.

  • If you have vulnerable guests among your non-negotiables (like parents or siblings), it might be worth keeping some element of your wedding to immediate family members so you can accommodate and protect them.
  • Any elderly and vulnerable guests you can no longer invite will understand the situation. They may even be relieved that they aren’t expected to attend.
  • If it’s someone you’re close to (like a grandparent or close relative) think about visiting them in your wedding day attire, or sending them a bouquet of flowers to they know they are missed on the day.

Guests Travelling from Overseas

Again, I’m not suggesting you have to uninvite your best friend who lives in Australia. After all, most guests who planned on travelling for your big day are likely to be close pals or relatives. But if we’re realistic, it will be some time before international travel resumes with any regularity and may still require quarantine on either side. Letting your international guests know that you don’t expect them to attend your wedding will likely relieve the pressure on them, and certainly, lighten your guest list.

How To ‘Uninvite’ Guests To Your Wedding

If postponing your wedding isn’t an option. Try not to be disheartened, you can always have a big celebration down the line. Keep perspective that you’re getting to marry your other half, and the most important people will be there.

Don’t worry about offending guests by ‘uninviting’ them to your wedding. Everyone knows and understands the situation, so being clear and upfront is a good rule of thumb.

  • There is no hard and fast etiquette for this unprecedented time, but sending a personalised message rather than a blanket email is always the most polite thing to do.
  • That could be in the form of a phone call, a text, an email or a card in the post.
  • If you had yet to send invitations or save the dates, you don’t need to do any formal uninviting, though there may be some would-be guests you want to reach out to individuals to explain your change of plans.
  • To soften the blow, you can always come up with ways to virtually include your friends and family from afar let them know that you look forward to celebrating with them in another way once it’s safe to do so. I’m all about throwing a big first-anniversary bash.
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Intimate wedding at Loch Morlich in Aviemore

Top Tips to Save Money on your Wedding Day

Ways to save money on your Wedding

Chances are, there’s something you’re dreaming about for your wedding day that might be just a wee bit over-the-top: a statement flower wall that rivals Kim and Kanye’s crazy wall of blooms; not one, not two, but three stunning wedding gowns, à la Chrissy Teigen or Serena Williams; or, maybe just a diamond tiara worthy of a princess (I see you, Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle). But here’s the thing: All that style is really, really expensive.

Here are some top tips and ideas to help the two of you save money! So you can afford the things that are really important to you for your big day.

Top wedding money saving tips by JB Moments Photography

Consider other days of the week

A Friday wedding will save you thousands on your wedding venue. Even better: A Sunday wedding. Often food and beverage minimums are lower, which is great for smaller parties.

Stationery Savings

Love the look of letterpress for your wedding invitation suite, but not the price? Splurge on it for the main invitation but choose less-expensive flat printing for insert cards.

If you like the look and feel of thicker paper stock, use two-ply for your invitations and make the rest of the insert cards one-ply only.

Skip the envelope liner. Using a colourful or otherwise untraditional outer envelope in lieu of an interior envelope liner means you could pay less per invitation—plus it’s a fun surprise when it shows up in your wedding guests’ mailboxes.

When it comes to your wedding invitation inserts, you can save a lot by having a single insert directing guests to your wedding website instead of multiple cards for your details & logistics, like transportation and details about the hotel room block you’ve set up for your guests.

One more way to save on your printing costs? Print just one ceremony program per couple, instead of one per guest.

Flowers for less

Florists can get discounts by ordering just three to five types of flowers in bulk. Create a chic, uniform centrepiece by grouping together monochromatic blooms in individual vases—for example, one of white hydrangeas, another of white tulips and another of white calla lilies.

Don’t underestimate the beauty of greenery in your bridal bouquet. It’s inexpensive and adds a lot of size and texture to arrangements.

You need only two or three large blooms with a little bit of filler to create bridesmaids’ bouquets that are minimalist cool—and cheaper apiece.

Skip the buttonholes, which can set you back £££. Encourage your partner and the gents in the bridal party to sport pocket squares instead.

Photography bills

Consider booking your photographer for six to eight hours instead of a full day, which is typically 10 to 12 hours. They’ll still capture all the important moments, but you’ll pay less. Many photographers (like myself 😉 ) offer half-day or smaller packages that offer savings.

To save on your wedding photography, you can always choose a less-expensive package that doesn’t include hard-copy prints and albums. Those can always be bought and/or printed later.

Instead of renting a photo booth for hundreds of pounds, create a Polaroid station with a few cameras, props and tons of film. It’s just as fun!

Transport costs

If you can plan your wedding day so that your ceremony and reception are at the same venue—or at two locations that are within walking distance of each other—you can save cash by eliminating the need for guest and wedding party transportation.

Cake cash

If you don’t really want a custom tiered cake with all the bells and whistles, choose a smaller display size and supplement with a statement-making dessert bar, or serve tray cake, which is much cheaper per slice. Some bakers will decorate ‘faux’ cakes for you and can serve cheaper tray cake after you’ve done the obligatory cutting!

Want the look of expensive sugar flowers, gold leaf or hand-painted accents? Ask your baker to decorate just the edges of the tiers to reduce the cost.

Or choose a simple buttercream or fondant cake, which is less per serving, and provide your own decorations. Fresh flowers, a personalized topper, colourful fruit… the possibilities are endless!

Money for munchies

Order late-night snacks or evening buffet for only 70 per cent of your headcount. Some guests may leave early, and others won’t want to eat.

Last but not least

Consider wedding insurance. Despite even the best-laid plans, sometimes events beyond your control can cause things to go wrong on your big day.

Illness, weather and business liquidations are all factors that could scupper your wedding day, so having the right affordable insurance policy could save you hundreds or even thousands of pounds if something unexpected did happen.

Wedding insurance policies are relatively inexpensive and can be tailored to fit your wedding plans so they are worth considering if you are spending a significant amount.

How to Virtually include Guests at your Wedding

Virtually including Wedding Guests

 

Life as we knew it has come to a screaming halt, with Covid-19 and government-enforced lockdown.  There are hopeful signs that we have reached the peak and that lockdown measures will soon start to be relaxed. But this will be phased and large gatherings will be the last to be allowed. The “new normal” still won’t be quite normal, and we have no idea how long this could last.

While of course, we would love for all of our nearest and dearest to be in attendance, it is unlikely that overseas guests are going to be able to travel for a while. You may also still want old and vulnerable guests to be self-isolating.

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Technology is going to be your best friend during these days of social distancing, and especially when it comes to planning a virtual wedding attendance. Below I’ll outline the steps you’ll need to take to plan a wedding on the internet, plus share the resources that will help you execute everything as simply as possible. Let’s dive in!

Step 1: Choose Your Platform

ZOOMING IN

Video conference software Zoom offers free and paid subscriptions. For free you can ‘meet’ for up to 40 minutes. For £11.99 per month, you can “meet” for up to 24 hours. That’s more than enough time for a ceremony and reception! With Zoom, attendees can set up Speaker View (probably ideal for your guests to view your ceremony) or Gallery View (you, as the couple, could have this displayed so you can see all of your guests’ reactions).

You can designate one guest to take screenshots of your attendees’ reactions throughout the ceremony to include in your wedding album. Your designated readings can still be made by your virtual guests of honour.

With Zoom, you can continue the party into the reception, allowing the virtual wedding party and parents to give speeches, having your first dance and even doing the cake cutting.

GOING LIVE! WITH FACEBOOK

Another free option is to utilise Facebook Live for your ceremony. Invite your guests to a private group, and create a private event for them to RSVP to. At the designated time, your guests can hop on to watch you say your “I do”s! Facebook can act as a virtual guest book, too, with guests posting their well-wishes in the days and weeks leading up to the ceremony. They can introduce themselves and “mingle” prior to the ceremony and continue with the sentiments well after. The video will live on in the group as long as the group continues to exist.

Not everyone is going to have Facebook, and you won’t be able to have the same “face to face” interaction as you may with video conferencing software, but the same basic ideas apply.

SKYPE

To include absent guests through Skype, you will need to ask someone who will be sitting in the front row to hold a laptop, iPad, or another device that has Skype on it. Make sure the ceremony location has wifi, and that you know the password. Test out the connection beforehand. Then, stream the ceremony live so that those connected through Skype can watch in real-time.

GOOGLE HANGOUTS

Google Hangouts is another option for live-streaming your ceremony to those who can not be physically present. As an alternative to streaming the ceremony, you could also set up a Google Hangout during the reception, so that the call can be a two-way conversation. Instead of having absent guests silently watching, as though they’re seeing a live video, they can actually talk and connect with other wedding guests, as well as the bride and groom.

Step 2: Organize the Necessary Tech Gear

Tech is super key in planning your virtual wedding guests. At a minimum, you need a laptop, tablet or phone with a camera. If using a phone or tablet, you may also want to get a tripod to mount the mobile device to for steady, even viewing. Take your tech for a test run on whichever platform you intend to use so you can ensure quality will be up to the job.

Step 3: Coordinate with Any Suppliers

Make sure the venue is aware of your plans so they can help with set up. Also, make sure your photographer/videographer is in the loop so they don’t stand directly in front of the feed!

Step 4: Inform Your Guests

Include the meeting link to your scheduled Zoom or to your Facebook group, as well as the date and time. Now, because this is a little outside the box, you may also want to include instructions for your guests on how to turn on their video and ask them to remain muted during the ceremony.

Step 5: Get Prepared

You’ll definitely want to do a test run or two before the big day, to ensure your backdrop is even, you have the right angle for recording and all of the tech is running smoothly.

Can’t go live on the day?

If the location of your ceremony doesn’t have wifi and won’t support a hot spot, you could also ask a guest or a professional to film the ceremony, and upload it to Youtubeor Vimeo shortly after, once wifi is available!  This is a last resort option because you want your guests to enjoy themselves, not be worrying about uploading videos!

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Dalmeny Kirk – Mary & John’s Wedding

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Rain on your wedding day is good luck because it signifies that your marriage will last. As you know, a knot that becomes wet is extremely hard to untie – therefore, when you ‘tie the knot’ on a rainy day, your marriage is supposedly just as hard to unravel!

Storm Dennis

So rain on your wedding day is good luck, what about Storm Dennis? Yup the day that Mary and John tied the knot we were treated to a months worth of rain in one day and gale force winds! Not that Mary and John need any luck. They got together over 30 years ago and had always talked about marriage but just hadn’t gotten around to it. Then at Christmas, they surprised their families by announcing they had been secretly organising a February wedding for 6 months!

 Solid foundations

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

The wedding ceremony was held at Dalmeny Kirk Scotlands oldest Norman Kirk. I nipped outside to grab a quick image before the bride arrived. Not my best composition but speed was of the essence to get back inside from the weather.

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On my way back inside I also spotted some snowdrops to capture, then I really had to get back inside!

Family affair

Mary and John’s wedding was an intimate affair involving their nearest and dearest.

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John’s brother Frank was his best man.

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One of Mary’s sons drove her to church and the other gave her away. Doesn’t she look beautiful? I love how she used John’s tartan for her shawl and she made her bouquet and that of her bridesmaid herself. Oh and her bridesmaid, John’s daughter. 🙂

A most romantic setting

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

With Storm Dennis rattling all the doors and lashing down outside, the kirk really was a beautiful setting for John and Mary to exchange their vows and rings. The warm stone softly illuminated by candlelight added to the atmosphere.

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

Outside for group photos?

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

Hahahahahaha I don’t think so. We took all the group photos and bride and groom portraits inside. I always have an inside Plan B as being a wedding photographer in Scotland means that good weather is never guaranteed. Nobody wanted to go outside in that Storm!

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I always carry wedding umbrellas as well, as sometimes bride and groom portraits in the rain, can look stunning. But not in gale-force winds. I did cajole Mary and John to the entrance of the kirk so we could document the weather on their wedding day.

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I got a broken umbrella for my troubles!

On the shore

Mary and John held their wedding reception at The Boathouse in South Queensferry. Originally I had planned to get some images on the shore with the iconic bridges in the background but when I got to the venue I got this.

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What you don’t get from this image is a sense of the howling wind and horizontal rain! Everyone was far better off inside the cosy restaurant, where they could still enjoy the beautiful views.

Wedding at The Boat House by JB Moments Photography

Mary and John were a super chilled, laid back couple who just wanted to enjoy the celebration with their family and close friends. And regardless of Storm Dennis, they did just that!

Congratulations Mr and Mrs Strachan.