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Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

Wedding Etiquette: Who (Traditionally) Pays For What?

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You’re engaged to your best friend, your partner in crime, your ride or die. Now it’s time to start planning the big party! The first thing on your mind will likely be: “How much is all of this going to cost?” and “How are we going to pay for it??”. But don’t panic. Apps like BrideBook have super helpful budget planners which estimate the costs of your wedding and breaks them down, so you have a good idea of what each part will cost.

Some families may offer to help the newlyweds-to-be celebrate the most magical day in their lives, and for that, I’ve put together the lowdown on (traditionally) who pays for what. This way you can look at your budget, see how much each part costs, and let your families know how much they can help with! At the end of the day, it’s whatever works for you and your family, but this is a good place to start!

Who pays for the engagement party?

This expense is traditionally covered by the bride’s family, as they will often host the engagement party at their house, as a way to welcome and bring together the two families (usually for the first time!). However, whichever family is feeling the most generous can host or offer to throw the party.

Who pays for the wedding rings?

The wedding rings are a split cost between the bride and groom’s families. The groom’s family will pay for the bride’s ring and vice versa.

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Who pays for the wedding flowers?

The bouquet should be a gift from the groom to the bride, as she is his date. The bride’s side of the family will traditionally pay for the flower decorations

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Who pays for the bridesmaid dresses and usher suits?

The bride’s side of the family traditionally pays for the bride’s and bridesmaid’s dresses. Although more and more, bridesmaids are paying for their own dress. It really depends on your budget, the type of dresses you want them to wear and whether or not it’s within their price range! This is something which you should definitely discuss early on with your bride squad, to avoid any confusion later.

As for the best man and usher suits? Unless they are matching and require special suits, the ushers should pay for them themselves. If the suits need to be tailor-made, it’s an expense that the groom’s side should kindly cover. 

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Who pays for guest’s accommodation?

Traditionally each side of the family will pay for their own guest’s accommodation. However, this will really depend on what the families are comfortable with. Nowadays, most guests will pay for their own accommodation – just make sure you mention this on your invites.

Who pays for the honeymoon?

Traditionally, it is the groom who pays for the honeymoon. However, most couples today are splitting the cost, and many are asking for donations towards their honeymoon, instead of wedding gifts! This is a new tradition, that stems from the fact that people are getting married later and already living together when they tie the knot. This means they probably don’t need a new toaster or a 24-piece dinnerware set!

A cheat sheet of what each family traditionally pays for…

Bride and Bride’s family:

 

• Wedding dress and the accessories that come with it

• Bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories (although nowadays more and more bridesmaids pay for their own attire)

• Bride’s accompanying outfits (going away and honeymoon)

• Hair and make-up, along with other beauty treatments

• Transportation for the bridal party to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the ceremony to the reception venue

• Photography and/or videography

• Flowers

• Venue hire and decorations

• Wedding cake

• Catering

• Favours

• Drinks

• Entertainment

• Wedding stationery

• Groom’s wedding ring

• Engagement party

• Wedding insurance

• Overnight accommodation for close family

• Presents for the groom’s family

 

Groom and Groom’s family:

 

• Groom’s outfit

• Best man’s and usher’s outfits (like bridesmaids, however, these now tend to be bought by the groomsmen themselves)

• Groom’s going-away outfit

• Transportation for the groom and best man to the ceremony

• Transportation for the bride and groom from the reception

• Buttonholes for all the groomsmen

• Civil or religious ceremony fees

• Church fees, plus extras like church music and bell ringing

• Registration office and other venue fees

• Passports and visas for the honeymoon

• Travel and accommodation for the honeymoon

• Spending money for the honeymoon

• Travel insurance for the honeymoon

• Bride’s engagement and wedding rings

• Presents for the bridesmaids, ushers and best man

• Presents for the bride’s parents

• Press announcement for the wedding

• Wedding night hotel
So, that’s how it’s been broken down historically, but the winds of time are changing and there’s nothing to say that this is how yours will or should be broken down. Couples are getting married later in life now than they used to, so financial situations are likely to be somewhat different.

Gift ideas for your Wedding Party

Gift Ideas for your Wedding Party

Your parents, their parents, the bridesmaids and the best man and ushers, they all (hopefully) help you have the most amazing day ever. So you want to say thank you either when you’re getting ready, during the speeches or at some other time. There are traditional gifts like flowers for the mums but for those of you that want to gift something different…read on, I have collected some ideas 🙂

Gifts

Mums

For as long as you have been dreaming about your wedding day there’s a good chance your mum has been too. If her help has been invaluable why not treat her to one of these gifts as a thank you? Same goes for your future mum-in-law or any other maternal figure that has been a big part of your day.

  • Overnight bag – If your mum played an integral part in helping you plan your wedding, encourage her to take a much-needed postnuptial holiday with a roomy canvas bag, perfect for a quick weekend getaway.
  • A cosy dressing gown – Is there a more perfect way to say, “Thanks for all you do—now go relax!”? I think not.
  • A custom illustration –  Custom gifts are the way to go for brides seeking something that says a heartfelt “thank you.” Memorialise your special bond with a personalised illustration of your likenesses. (check out The Ricketty Desk for a truly bespoke experience)
  • Engraved beauty compact – Pair this sweet little handbag accessory with her favourite lipstick or nail polish for a thoughtful beauty gift she’ll use for years to come.
  • Personalised hankie – On your wedding day, waterworks are practically guaranteed—especially from your mother. Give her a pretty crocheted hankie and, for maximum sentimentality, have the gift customised with embroidered names, dates or a monogram.
  • Spa experience – Relieve your mum from her mother of the bride/groom duties by giving her the gift of relaxation.

Spa break

  • Special locket or charm – Tuck in a little note or vintage photos of loved ones for a sentimental gift she’ll treasure forever.
  • Meaningful Figurine – Like the Willow Tree carved ones are the epitome of sweet sentiment.
  • Monthly subscription box – Gin tasting, wine of the month, chocolate tasting…the choices are endless.( check out Bottle in a Box for a wide range of alcoholic gifts)
  • Glass or crystal vase – up the ante by giving her flowers already arranged in a beautiful vase, that will last long after the flowers do.
  • House Plant – or for the green-fingered mums a house plant or garden plant would be a thoughtful gift.
  • Perfume set – her favourite perfume or the one you’ve chosen for your wedding day.

 

Dads

Whether he is walking you down the aisle or providing much needed moral support, here some gift ideas for the main man in your life.

  • Overnight bag – Perhaps he and mum can go away for a wee break?
  • Personalised handkerchief – give it to him during prep and he can carry it with him all day.
  • A decanter – wine or spirits his thing? Help him to show them off in style.
  • Wallet – personalise by having his initials monogrammed onto it.
  • Monogrammed glasses – for his whisky or other tipples.
  • Personalised cufflinks – there are loads of great styles to choose from
  • Personalised golf ball set – if your dad is a golfer this could be perfect.

 

Bridesmaids

Your bridesmaids have been there for you every step of the way throughout your wedding planning journey. From celebrating your engagement to planning the best hen party ever, you can’t imagine a better group of gals to have by your side for your walk down the aisle. Whether you met them in school, university, or at work—you’ve undoubtedly shared some amazing memories together, and your wedding is no exception!

  • Personalised clutch bags – It’s a gift they’ll use for years to come—and they’ll always think of you.
  • Anything monogrammed – from coasters to make up bags – who doesn’t like something with their initial(s) on it?
  • Jewellery – from tie the knot stud earrings to necklaces to wear with their bridesmaid dresses you can’t go wrong with a bit of bling.
  • Pashmina – If your wedding is outdoors or taking place in the evening, a super-soft pashmina is the perfect gift way to say thank you to your bridesmaids.
  • Personalised candles – Available in a variety of delicious scents such as lavender peppermint and lemongrass verbena, these modern, budget-friendly candles are the perfect custom gift for your girls. Search on Etsy.

Candles

  • A personalised mobile phone case – Personalised phone cases offer a modern pop of colour to your bridesmaid’s clutch. They’re the perfect accessory for those impromptu mirror selfies on the big day.
  • Engraved beauty compact – see mum’s list above.

 

Best Man and Ushers

These guys will be there to help the groom during every step of his wedding planning process.

From trying on wedding suits and organising an awesome stag do to giving a hilarious best man speech, there are a whole load of best man and usher duties which might go unnoticed by the other guests.

  • Personalised tankard -The glass or metal can be personalised with the groomsman’s role, your wedding date and location. You could also go for pint glasses or rocks glasses.
  • Personalised collar stiffeners. They can be engraved with your choice of a message in a selection of fonts, making them truly unique to the recipient. What a lovely idea!
  • Wedding socks – a practical gift that can be personalised.
  • Beers of the world gift set – What best man wouldn’t be over the moon with a hamper full of beer? This set contains six speciality craft beers which have each been paired with a savoury treat. Once your groomsmen’s wedding day hangovers have subsided, they’ll love tucking into this thank you treat!

Beer

  • Personalised leather keyring – sites like Not on the High Street have lots of lovely options.
  • Personalised cufflinks – See dad’s list above
  • Other monogrammed gifts – from hip flasks to belts there is something to suit your guys.
  • Beard care kits – no self-respecting hipster would be upset at this gift!

 

I hope that these ideas give you some inspiration.

Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Questions to Ask a Videographer Before Hiring Them for Your Wedding

Apparently, one of past brides biggest regrets is not hiring a videographer so they can relive their wedding day over and over again. If you think this might be you…read on to make sure you get one that is right for you.

Start by researching wedding videographers in your area and reading reviews to find potential suppliers that match your wedding vision and budget. When you’re ready to reach out and possibly negotiate a contract with a videographer, there are several questions to ask them that you should keep top of mind.

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Here are the top 10 questions to ask a videographer before your wedding day.

 

1. What is your videography style?

There are many styles of videography. Whether it is documentary or cinematic, it is important to discuss the type of video style you want and make sure they offer it.

2. How do you choose the music for the film?

Discussing music is a great idea because it plays such an important part of your wedding film. You will be able to let your videographer know the types of genres you like and you can provide a list of songs for them to choose from.

3. Have you worked with my photographer before?

Your photographer and videographer will be working side by side, so you should make sure they know how to work as a team while capturing your big day. If they haven’t, make sure they are amenable to meeting them beforehand.

4. When will I receive my wedding video?

Editing can take a while, especially during wedding season. Therefore, it is always a good idea to ask when you will receive your final video so you will know when to expect it.

5. How long have you been filming weddings?

This will give you a better understanding of how long your videographer has been in the industry. You should also ask to see their previous work whether they are new to the industry or old. Checking out previous work will also help make sure you don’t fall foul to wedding scammers as a legitimate videographer will be happy to share their work.

6. What equipment will you use?

There are always new methods as well as technology, so it is a good idea to make sure your videographer is up-to-date with the most reliable equipment. If they are using drones, for example, do they have a licence to fly them?

7. Have you shot at my venue before?

This is a great question to see if the videographer is familiar with your venue. If they have shot there before, they will know the ins and outs of the area. If they have not shot at your venue before, then you may want to ask if they will visit before the day of your wedding.

8. What is your editing process?

Editing can be done in many ways and some types of editing can change the quality of your video film. Asking how your videographer edits their videos will let you know what kind of videos they produce.

9. What packages do you offer?

Videographers usually offer a variety of different packages and deals. You should discuss what package you want such as, having both a trailer video and your wedding highlight film. Or even see if they will do a same-day edit too!

10. Do you have a second shooter?

Having a second shooter is like having another set of eyes at your wedding. This ensures that nothing will be missed during the getting ready process, ceremony, reception, and all the good stuff in between.

That’s a wrap! I hope you found that useful.

 

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How to downsize your wedding guest list

How to downsize your wedding guest list

Covid-19 has thrown up all kinds of questions you never thought you’d have to answer about your Wedding Day, from how to store your dress to how to mark your original wedding date from home. But for many of you downsizing or adjusting your wedding plans means looking at your guest list in a new way. So today, I’m sharing tips for how to make your guest list smaller, where to start with downsizing, and who should still make the cut.

 

How Many People Can We Invite To Our Wedding Post-COVID-19?

Alas, this isn’t a question I can answer just yet. What we have been told, however, is that the process of ‘getting back to normal’ will be a slow one. So we can assume, that given that mass gatherings were one of the first things to be curtailed, it will be some time before they are re-introduced. The Scottish Government has produced a route map that is being updated regularly.

We may see small weddings return sooner and permission for larger gatherings scaled up slowly, so depending on when your wedding is, it’s worth making lists for several different scenarios, eg: An immediate family guest list, a 50 person guest list and a 100 person guest list.

So the question to start with, is, “Who can we not get married without?”. These are the friends and family who, if you were getting married in the morning, you’d need to have there. Once you start with those people, every additional guest will feel like a bonus!

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Wedding at Culzean Castle with just 4 day guests

Who Should You Cut From Your Guest List?

The C and D List

Anyone who was late to be added to your guest list in the first place, will likely to be the first to go. We’re talking the C and D list, people who you’d love to have on the dance floor, but are not vitally important to your experience of the day.

  • These will be different for every couple but may include guests like work colleagues, friends of your parents, extended cousins, friends’ children, or old school pals, particularly any ‘obligatory’ invites.
  • Plus ones that you have never met or new relationship plus ones.

Vulnerable and Elderly Guests

I know the idea of cutting your granny from your guest list seems extremely harsh. But in the coming months, even as restrictions lift, we’re all going to have to play a role in safeguarding the most vulnerable in our society.

  • If you have vulnerable guests among your non-negotiables (like parents or siblings), it might be worth keeping some element of your wedding to immediate family members so you can accommodate and protect them.
  • Any elderly and vulnerable guests you can no longer invite will understand the situation. They may even be relieved that they aren’t expected to attend.
  • If it’s someone you’re close to (like a grandparent or close relative) think about visiting them in your wedding day attire, or sending them a bouquet of flowers to they know they are missed on the day.

Guests Travelling from Overseas

Again, I’m not suggesting you have to uninvite your best friend who lives in Australia. After all, most guests who planned on travelling for your big day are likely to be close pals or relatives. But if we’re realistic, it will be some time before international travel resumes with any regularity and may still require quarantine on either side. Letting your international guests know that you don’t expect them to attend your wedding will likely relieve the pressure on them, and certainly, lighten your guest list.

How To ‘Uninvite’ Guests To Your Wedding

If postponing your wedding isn’t an option. Try not to be disheartened, you can always have a big celebration down the line. Keep perspective that you’re getting to marry your other half, and the most important people will be there.

Don’t worry about offending guests by ‘uninviting’ them to your wedding. Everyone knows and understands the situation, so being clear and upfront is a good rule of thumb.

  • There is no hard and fast etiquette for this unprecedented time, but sending a personalised message rather than a blanket email is always the most polite thing to do.
  • That could be in the form of a phone call, a text, an email or a card in the post.
  • If you had yet to send invitations or save the dates, you don’t need to do any formal uninviting, though there may be some would-be guests you want to reach out to individuals to explain your change of plans.
  • To soften the blow, you can always come up with ways to virtually include your friends and family from afar let them know that you look forward to celebrating with them in another way once it’s safe to do so. I’m all about throwing a big first-anniversary bash.
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Intimate wedding at Loch Morlich in Aviemore

Top Tips to Save Money on your Wedding Day

Ways to save money on your Wedding

Chances are, there’s something you’re dreaming about for your wedding day that might be just a wee bit over-the-top: a statement flower wall that rivals Kim and Kanye’s crazy wall of blooms; not one, not two, but three stunning wedding gowns, à la Chrissy Teigen or Serena Williams; or, maybe just a diamond tiara worthy of a princess (I see you, Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle). But here’s the thing: All that style is really, really expensive.

Here are some top tips and ideas to help the two of you save money! So you can afford the things that are really important to you for your big day.

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Consider other days of the week

A Friday wedding will save you thousands on your wedding venue. Even better: A Sunday wedding. Often food and beverage minimums are lower, which is great for smaller parties.

Stationery Savings

Love the look of letterpress for your wedding invitation suite, but not the price? Splurge on it for the main invitation but choose less-expensive flat printing for insert cards.

If you like the look and feel of thicker paper stock, use two-ply for your invitations and make the rest of the insert cards one-ply only.

Skip the envelope liner. Using a colourful or otherwise untraditional outer envelope in lieu of an interior envelope liner means you could pay less per invitation—plus it’s a fun surprise when it shows up in your wedding guests’ mailboxes.

When it comes to your wedding invitation inserts, you can save a lot by having a single insert directing guests to your wedding website instead of multiple cards for your details & logistics, like transportation and details about the hotel room block you’ve set up for your guests.

One more way to save on your printing costs? Print just one ceremony program per couple, instead of one per guest.

Flowers for less

Florists can get discounts by ordering just three to five types of flowers in bulk. Create a chic, uniform centrepiece by grouping together monochromatic blooms in individual vases—for example, one of white hydrangeas, another of white tulips and another of white calla lilies.

Don’t underestimate the beauty of greenery in your bridal bouquet. It’s inexpensive and adds a lot of size and texture to arrangements.

You need only two or three large blooms with a little bit of filler to create bridesmaids’ bouquets that are minimalist cool—and cheaper apiece.

Skip the buttonholes, which can set you back £££. Encourage your partner and the gents in the bridal party to sport pocket squares instead.

Photography bills

Consider booking your photographer for six to eight hours instead of a full day, which is typically 10 to 12 hours. They’ll still capture all the important moments, but you’ll pay less. Many photographers (like myself 😉 ) offer half-day or smaller packages that offer savings.

To save on your wedding photography, you can always choose a less-expensive package that doesn’t include hard-copy prints and albums. Those can always be bought and/or printed later.

Instead of renting a photo booth for hundreds of pounds, create a Polaroid station with a few cameras, props and tons of film. It’s just as fun!

Transport costs

If you can plan your wedding day so that your ceremony and reception are at the same venue—or at two locations that are within walking distance of each other—you can save cash by eliminating the need for guest and wedding party transportation.

Cake cash

If you don’t really want a custom tiered cake with all the bells and whistles, choose a smaller display size and supplement with a statement-making dessert bar, or serve tray cake, which is much cheaper per slice. Some bakers will decorate ‘faux’ cakes for you and can serve cheaper tray cake after you’ve done the obligatory cutting!

Want the look of expensive sugar flowers, gold leaf or hand-painted accents? Ask your baker to decorate just the edges of the tiers to reduce the cost.

Or choose a simple buttercream or fondant cake, which is less per serving, and provide your own decorations. Fresh flowers, a personalized topper, colourful fruit… the possibilities are endless!

Money for munchies

Order late-night snacks or evening buffet for only 70 per cent of your headcount. Some guests may leave early, and others won’t want to eat.

Last but not least

Consider wedding insurance. Despite even the best-laid plans, sometimes events beyond your control can cause things to go wrong on your big day.

Illness, weather and business liquidations are all factors that could scupper your wedding day, so having the right affordable insurance policy could save you hundreds or even thousands of pounds if something unexpected did happen.

Wedding insurance policies are relatively inexpensive and can be tailored to fit your wedding plans so they are worth considering if you are spending a significant amount.

How to Virtually include Guests at your Wedding

Virtually including Wedding Guests

 

Life as we knew it has come to a screaming halt, with Covid-19 and government-enforced lockdown.  There are hopeful signs that we have reached the peak and that lockdown measures will soon start to be relaxed. But this will be phased and large gatherings will be the last to be allowed. The “new normal” still won’t be quite normal, and we have no idea how long this could last.

While of course, we would love for all of our nearest and dearest to be in attendance, it is unlikely that overseas guests are going to be able to travel for a while. You may also still want old and vulnerable guests to be self-isolating.

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Technology is going to be your best friend during these days of social distancing, and especially when it comes to planning a virtual wedding attendance. Below I’ll outline the steps you’ll need to take to plan a wedding on the internet, plus share the resources that will help you execute everything as simply as possible. Let’s dive in!

Step 1: Choose Your Platform

ZOOMING IN

Video conference software Zoom offers free and paid subscriptions. For free you can ‘meet’ for up to 40 minutes. For £11.99 per month, you can “meet” for up to 24 hours. That’s more than enough time for a ceremony and reception! With Zoom, attendees can set up Speaker View (probably ideal for your guests to view your ceremony) or Gallery View (you, as the couple, could have this displayed so you can see all of your guests’ reactions).

You can designate one guest to take screenshots of your attendees’ reactions throughout the ceremony to include in your wedding album. Your designated readings can still be made by your virtual guests of honour.

With Zoom, you can continue the party into the reception, allowing the virtual wedding party and parents to give speeches, having your first dance and even doing the cake cutting.

GOING LIVE! WITH FACEBOOK

Another free option is to utilise Facebook Live for your ceremony. Invite your guests to a private group, and create a private event for them to RSVP to. At the designated time, your guests can hop on to watch you say your “I do”s! Facebook can act as a virtual guest book, too, with guests posting their well-wishes in the days and weeks leading up to the ceremony. They can introduce themselves and “mingle” prior to the ceremony and continue with the sentiments well after. The video will live on in the group as long as the group continues to exist.

Not everyone is going to have Facebook, and you won’t be able to have the same “face to face” interaction as you may with video conferencing software, but the same basic ideas apply.

SKYPE

To include absent guests through Skype, you will need to ask someone who will be sitting in the front row to hold a laptop, iPad, or another device that has Skype on it. Make sure the ceremony location has wifi, and that you know the password. Test out the connection beforehand. Then, stream the ceremony live so that those connected through Skype can watch in real-time.

GOOGLE HANGOUTS

Google Hangouts is another option for live-streaming your ceremony to those who can not be physically present. As an alternative to streaming the ceremony, you could also set up a Google Hangout during the reception, so that the call can be a two-way conversation. Instead of having absent guests silently watching, as though they’re seeing a live video, they can actually talk and connect with other wedding guests, as well as the bride and groom.

Step 2: Organize the Necessary Tech Gear

Tech is super key in planning your virtual wedding guests. At a minimum, you need a laptop, tablet or phone with a camera. If using a phone or tablet, you may also want to get a tripod to mount the mobile device to for steady, even viewing. Take your tech for a test run on whichever platform you intend to use so you can ensure quality will be up to the job.

Step 3: Coordinate with Any Suppliers

Make sure the venue is aware of your plans so they can help with set up. Also, make sure your photographer/videographer is in the loop so they don’t stand directly in front of the feed!

Step 4: Inform Your Guests

Include the meeting link to your scheduled Zoom or to your Facebook group, as well as the date and time. Now, because this is a little outside the box, you may also want to include instructions for your guests on how to turn on their video and ask them to remain muted during the ceremony.

Step 5: Get Prepared

You’ll definitely want to do a test run or two before the big day, to ensure your backdrop is even, you have the right angle for recording and all of the tech is running smoothly.

Can’t go live on the day?

If the location of your ceremony doesn’t have wifi and won’t support a hot spot, you could also ask a guest or a professional to film the ceremony, and upload it to Youtubeor Vimeo shortly after, once wifi is available!  This is a last resort option because you want your guests to enjoy themselves, not be worrying about uploading videos!

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Dalmeny Kirk – Mary & John’s Wedding

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Rain on your wedding day is good luck because it signifies that your marriage will last. As you know, a knot that becomes wet is extremely hard to untie – therefore, when you ‘tie the knot’ on a rainy day, your marriage is supposedly just as hard to unravel!

Storm Dennis

So rain on your wedding day is good luck, what about Storm Dennis? Yup the day that Mary and John tied the knot we were treated to a months worth of rain in one day and gale force winds! Not that Mary and John need any luck. They got together over 30 years ago and had always talked about marriage but just hadn’t gotten around to it. Then at Christmas, they surprised their families by announcing they had been secretly organising a February wedding for 6 months!

 Solid foundations

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

The wedding ceremony was held at Dalmeny Kirk Scotlands oldest Norman Kirk. I nipped outside to grab a quick image before the bride arrived. Not my best composition but speed was of the essence to get back inside from the weather.

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

On my way back inside I also spotted some snowdrops to capture, then I really had to get back inside!

Family affair

Mary and John’s wedding was an intimate affair involving their nearest and dearest.

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

John’s brother Frank was his best man.

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

One of Mary’s sons drove her to church and the other gave her away. Doesn’t she look beautiful? I love how she used John’s tartan for her shawl and she made her bouquet and that of her bridesmaid herself. Oh and her bridesmaid, John’s daughter. 🙂

A most romantic setting

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

With Storm Dennis rattling all the doors and lashing down outside, the kirk really was a beautiful setting for John and Mary to exchange their vows and rings. The warm stone softly illuminated by candlelight added to the atmosphere.

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

Outside for group photos?

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

Hahahahahaha I don’t think so. We took all the group photos and bride and groom portraits inside. I always have an inside Plan B as being a wedding photographer in Scotland means that good weather is never guaranteed. Nobody wanted to go outside in that Storm!

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

I always carry wedding umbrellas as well, as sometimes bride and groom portraits in the rain, can look stunning. But not in gale-force winds. I did cajole Mary and John to the entrance of the kirk so we could document the weather on their wedding day.

Wedding at Dalmeny Kirk by JB Moments Photography

I got a broken umbrella for my troubles!

On the shore

Mary and John held their wedding reception at The Boathouse in South Queensferry. Originally I had planned to get some images on the shore with the iconic bridges in the background but when I got to the venue I got this.

Wedding at The Boat House by JB Moments Photography

What you don’t get from this image is a sense of the howling wind and horizontal rain! Everyone was far better off inside the cosy restaurant, where they could still enjoy the beautiful views.

Wedding at The Boat House by JB Moments Photography

Mary and John were a super chilled, laid back couple who just wanted to enjoy the celebration with their family and close friends. And regardless of Storm Dennis, they did just that!

Congratulations Mr and Mrs Strachan.

 

Tips for choosing your Wedding Colour Scheme

Wedding Colour Schemes

Picking your wedding colours is sometimes easier said than done, but it’s an important step in your planning process. In addition to being an extension of your personal styles as a couple, a carefully chosen colour palette can make all the difference when creating a cohesive wedding look. It’s a good idea to start thinking about your wedding colours shortly after you’ve set a date and chosen a venue, but how should you begin? By considering your basic wedding details, such as season, location, and theme, you can start to narrow down the colours that will play into the look you want. Once you’ve decided on your colours, all of the other details will fall into place, from flowers and stationery to wedding party attire, table linens, and more.

Choose a base colour

Your base colour will be the one that’s used most prominently throughout your wedding. The base colour can be anything from soft blush pink or peach to elegant navy blue, punchy yellow, or even dramatic jade green, depending on the overall vibe you want to create. Most importantly, it should be a colour you genuinely love! Once you have your base colour, the next step is to choose a handful of complementary “accent” colours — generally two or three of them. These accents will round out your wedding palette, adding dimension and variation to prevent the colours from being over-the-top matchy-matchy or kitschy. Your accents can be anything from bold, contrasting hues on the opposite side of the colour wheel, to neutral tones like grey, white, black, or beige. No base colour yet? Keep reading for more advice on how to pick your wedding colours from scratch.
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Think about your wedding season

While there’s nothing written in stone that says your wedding colours should match up with your wedding season, we can’t argue that some colours lend themselves naturally to certain times of the year. If you’re feeling stuck when choosing a colour palette, look to your wedding season for a bit of inspiration. Dark jewel tones, such as emerald green, plum purple, navy blue, and marsala red, for example, tend fit in better with cold weather surroundings, like changing foliage in the autumn or white snow in the winter. Bold and bright colours are generally more appropriate for a summer celebration, while pastel hues are traditionally associated with springtime weddings.

What about your Venue

Consider the colours of your chosen venue. Are there any particularly distinctive tones on any of the walls, carpets or furniture? If so, it’s worth working with that colour rather than against it, either incorporating it into your scheme or choosing complementary shades – there’s nothing worse than a room full of décor that clashes with the carpet!

If your venue offers more of a blank canvas – a barn, for example – then consider the amount of light and the size of the space available. Opt for light colours in a smaller venue to make it feel brighter. Darker colours can still be used, but be aware that they will create an intimate feel that might not suit every couple’s tastes.

Flowers

If your heart is set on a specific bloom and you really don’t want to swap, you might want to base your wedding colour scheme around the shades of your chosen flowers. So if blue hydrangeas or bold sunflowers are on your must-have list, make blue your accent colour throughout, paired with a complementary tone.

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Clothing

Likewise, if you’re desperate to choose a grey, gold, blush or pale blue gown or your partner only wants to wear hunter green, it’s probably worth adapting your colour palette to fit. Make sure your bridesmaids and groomsmen’s outfits work well with the scheme, too. After all, they all need to look good together for the photos!

Accessories

If you’re still struggling to pin down a wedding colour scheme, look to your accessories for inspiration. Have you chosen a statement handbag or pair of shoes? Gemstone jewellery? Take the colour of your accessory and let it influence the rest of your décor decisions, using it as your accent colour for a pretty palette.

Play up your palette with gradient

Can’t decide on a collection of colours that look good together? Keep it simple by sticking with one colour and opting for an ombré-inspired palette instead. You don’t need an assortment of different colours to create a gorgeous palette. For example, a wedding with three or four shades of blue (or whichever colour you like best!) can look just as beautiful as one with a rainbow of colours. This option is also excellent for creating a more modern, monochromatic look with your wedding decor.

 

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Airth Castle – Audrey and Johnny’s Wedding

Wedding Photography

I Love Ewe

My sheep puns are so baaaaaaa-d (sorry, not sorry!) but I couldn’t resist. You see when Audrey Lamb and her Clydesdale Horses met Johnny and his sheep at the Royal Highland Show it was a match made in farming community heaven. So much so that Johnny proposed at the Highland Show a few years later. Audrey said, ‘Baby don’t herd me’. No, she didn’t – I’m going to stop horsing around now. Okay, I really am finished now!

Last wedding of the year

On the 30th December 2019, literally with one day of the year left to spare this wonderful couple tied the knot in the beautiful opulence of Airth Castle. I was delighted to have been chosen to capture the day for them as it was a day full of love and laughter with all their friends and family around them.

What an old romantic

The night before the wedding Johnny presented Audrey with a gift to wear on the day. A stunning pair of diamond earrings.

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They were a lovely ‘something new’. Her something ‘old’ was her mum’s amazing veil.

An Irishman

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Johnny and his family are from Ireland and opted for waistcoats and tails as their wedding attire. His brother and his nephew were his best men whilst his other brother and friend were ushers. The one Scot did his bit and wore a kilt! Don’t they all look handsome?

The weather miraculously stayed dry when we needed it to. Whilst it threatened to rain most of the day it didn’t and stayed uncharacteristically mild for the time of year. Whilst I would have loved to take wedding images in the crisp white snow. the reality would have been more slushy and bad weather may have stopped guests from getting there.

 A lovely ceremony

The ceremony was held in the old castle in a gorgeous high ceilinged room in front of a stunning fireplace and ornate mirror.

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As  Audrey’s brother walked the beautiful bride down the aisle I think it all became very real and emotional for her.

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The minister soon helped to calm any nerves and had the couple (and the congregation) laughing and singing during the service.

Due to that big and beautiful mirror above the fireplace, I spent most of the service on my knees in order to make sure I wasn’t captured in the reflection! I did like the perspective it gave the images though.

Whilst the new Mr and Mrs Aiken signed the register with the bridal party Audrey’s cousin sang for the wedding guests. A very talented family (more on that later).

A full house

There were c. 100 guests during the day to celebrate the union between Audrey and Johnny. Sometimes this sort of group size brings me out in a cold sweat as the venue doesn’t always have a great space to capture the group photos in a pleasing way. For this wedding, I had no such issues. The steps outside the old castle are just perfect.

Wedding at Airth Castle by JB Moments Photography

Despite being mild for the time of year it was still too cold to keep everybody outside for long. When I had met Audrey at the venue for our pre-wedding consultation I had decided that one of the formal reception rooms would be perfect. Once I did a little rearranging of the furniture and lugged the wing-backed chairs over to the fireplace!

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I think the images have a slight royal wedding vibe! Love it 🙂

A new version of a classic

Also at the pre-wedding consultation, Audrey’s mum mentioned an image from her own wedding that she would love Audrey to recreate. She was stood at the top of the staircase and her beautiful veil was the star of the show. As Audrey was using her veil it would be nice to do it again.  We found a suitable staircase in the castle and I hope I’ve done it justice.

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Whilst we were wrangling the stairs we also made use of the top balcony for some bride and groom portraits.

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As I am mean I still got the bride and groom outside for some natural portraits and I just love the results.

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The speeches

Ohhh emmm geee the speeches! Full kudos has to go to Johhny’s brother for his best man speech. So much planning had gone into it. Shortly after he started his speech he claimed he couldn’t find his remaining notes. He dashed out of the room and a pre-made video started of him ‘allegedly’ running out of the venue into his car back to his house and various other places to the tune of the Benny Hill theme tune!!! I can’t share what he got up to in the video here (keeping it PG, folks) but everybody was in absolute stitches.

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The video ended with him running back into the room and then his son and daughter (who was also a bridesmaid) read out a poem they had written. Everyone was laughing so hard, including me – it was difficult to stop my camera shaking!

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It was also during the speeches that I learned that Audrey had come 2nd in the world sheep handling trials. Told you it was a talented family!

Let them eat cake and dance

With the evening guests arrived it was time to cut the stunning three-tier cake decorated with thistles.

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Then Audrey and Johnny’s first dance as husband and wife.

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This wedding was an absolute joy to capture. So much love, laughter and well wishes emanated from all their family and friends as well as the couple themselves. It was time for me to take my leave but the party looked set to run well into the small hours.

Congratulations Mr and Mrs Aiken.

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Wedding Stress Management: How To Reduce Stress While Planning Your Big Day

Wedding Stress

January Blues

Now that you’re back at work the excitement of your Christmas or New Year proposal can feel a distant memory and as you stare out the window at the dank, dismal weather all you can think of is ‘where do I start?’

Planning a wedding is incredibly exciting, but it can also be very stressful. On the surface, many brides and grooms try to hide the pressure and anxiety they’re feeling, and might even feel ashamed that they’re struggling to cope with stress during a period that should be the “happiest time of their life”.

But the truth is that every aspect of putting together an event as big as a wedding is a mammoth task in itself. It’s only natural that between worrying about your budget and how to make everyone happy, your mental health can fall down your list of priorities.

But if you begin dealing with your stress and finding tricks to help you manage, it is possible to enjoy the process of wedding planning and put the focus back on you, your relationship and your upcoming marriage.

Mental health charity Mind suggests the warning symptoms of stress that you should look out for and the best ways to reduce stress.

Stress Symptoms

An event as big as a wedding does require you to juggle lots of commitments and financial concerns so it’s natural to feel some stress, says Stephen Buckley, Head of Information at Mind.

“Being under pressure is a normal part of life and can be useful in small amounts. But if you become overwhelmed by stress, these feelings could start to be a problem.

“Stress in itself is not a mental health problem, but prolonged, unmanageable stress can lead to mental health problems like depression or anxiety,” he says.

The effects of stress can be emotional, mental and physical, and it won’t always be obvious that you’re suffering from stress so it’s important to know what to look out for.

“Unmanageable stress affects us all in different ways, but there are signs to look out for, such as feeling irritated, drinking or smoking excessively, finding it hard to sleep or struggling to concentrate.

“You may feel really upset and emotional, or feel like crying. You might also notice some physical signs, like headaches, upset stomach, or difficulty breathing. Severe stress can affect your blood pressure too,” Stephen says.

When the behaviour of a bride changes, she can often be dismissed as a “bridezilla”, but it could be time to step back and ask whether stress is becoming an issue for you. Behavioural changes include snapping at people; being tearful; constantly worrying, and you might find it harder to make decisions which can make you even more frustrated with yourself.

For a full list of symptoms, visit Mind’s website

How To Reduce Stress

Here are the best self-care tips to cope with stress and help protect your mental health during wedding planning (and if self-care sounds like a word you’d hate, I promise you won’t hate this sensible advice.

Spend Time With Your Support Network

Connecting with people is so important for our mental wellbeing. Don’t isolate yourself from friends or family in favour of your to-do list.

Brides, if you really can’t let go of the wedding preparations then get your bridesmaids around and do some décor crafting with them. It’ll tick one thing off your list and you get some good quality girl time too. Grooms, get your mates together for a kickabout, to play some video games or watch a match.

Family, however well-meaning, can be a big stressor during wedding planning. Get your parents or siblings over for a Sunday roast, ban the topic of weddings for a few hours and just catch-up. If they’re truly toxic to your health though, don’t feel bad about taking some time away for a while.

Go On A Digital Detox

If Pinterest has basically replaced your partner, take a social media detox. A number of studies have linked social media use with depression, anxiety, sleep problems and body image and body confidence issues. Whether it’s creating a wedding way beyond your budget on Pinterest or staring at the bodies of Victoria’s Secret models on Instagram, social media can be a great source of dissatisfaction and anxiety.

going on a digital detox

Try deleting the apps from your mobile so your access is limited to when you’re at your laptop. Alternatively made a rule where both of you put your phone to one side for a couple of hours to have dinner and watch an episode on Netflix. Your relationship will benefit as will your mental health.

Re-Discover Activities That Make You Happy

If every evening is spent with your Excel spreadsheets and your lunch break is spent calling suppliers, then you’re unlikely to be devoting as much time to the activities that used to make you happy and relaxed.

Whether it’s going for a walk, zoning out with an audiobook, painting, taking a bath, listening to music or even watching your favourite trashy TV show, make sure you get that ‘me time’ every day when you focus on no one else’s needs but your own

take a bath

Make A Done List

At the end of every day (or at least once a week), note down all the things you’ve completed that day and celebrate the small wins. To-do lists can send you into a panic and actually hinder your effectiveness, but an “I’ve done” list makes you feel proud and strengthens your motivation.

Evidence has shown the importance of writing it down too, not just keeping it inside your head. Read them and marvel at how amazing you are and all the things you’ve achieved (however small those tasks may seem). You got this!

Get Some Fresh Air

Stephen says that three big factors in managing your stress are “eating healthily, sleeping well and making time for exercise.”

Reaching for the nearest chocolate bar or glass of wine are often our go-to responses to stress, but emotional eating and drinking can make problems even worse. Focus instead on following a balanced diet and finding an exercise regime that works for you. This doesn’t have to be strenuous: the NHS recommends 150 minutes of moderate-intensity activity a week, and swimming, yoga or gentle walking are great places to start.

Evidence shows exercise can lower our risk of depression by 30%, improve sleep quality,  increase self-confidence and help us manage stress and anxiety. Grab one of your bridesmaids or groomsmen and sign up to a fitness class if having a buddy is more likely to get you moving. Just don’t beat yourself up if you miss a day!

If You’re On A Crash Diet, Stop!

We all want to look our best on our wedding day. But severely restricting your calorie intake will make you feel lethargic and irritable, give you headaches and bad breath, and could have some serious side effects on your mental health. According to the NHS, depriving your body of the nutrients it needs could lead to thinning hair and dull skin. Not ideal for your wedding photos!

On restricted calories, your body will go into starvation mode and your metabolic rate will plummet so you’ll actually find it harder to lose weight. The NHS suggests sensible weight loss is 1-2lbs a week, which equates to a healthy calorie deficit of 500-600 calories a day. For an average woman, that means eating 1,400-1,500 calories a day. Your body and mental health will thank you.

Establish A Sleep Routine

When you’re sleep-deprived, irritability and anger levels increase, while your ability to deal with stress decreases. It’s not always as easy as going to bed earlier. Often poor sleep leads to worrying, which leads to poor sleep, and so on in a vicious cycle.

establish a sleep routine

But it can be useful to establish a sleep routine: give yourself an hour before bed where you don’t look at any screens as the blue light can interfere with hormone production; establish a bedtime routine by going to bed and waking up at the same time every day; and find ways to help you relax such as taking a bath, meditating (YouTube has lots of sleep meditations you can follow) or trying some breathing exercises.

Learn To Say No

To that party or work meeting or volunteer project. Your time and energy are precious and it isn’t selfish to set boundaries, establish your needs and focus on the things that bring you joy. Don’t push people away, but don’t feel obliged to go to that dinner party.

learn to say no

To say no without the guilt, avoid feeling like you have to be “nice” and give a firm but polite no with a simple reason, like you’re already busy, not a list of excuses.

Write Down Your Worries

If you suffer from anxiety, then it can be really hard to stop worrying, but there are ways to help you control your anxiety.

Some people find that setting aside a specific time to focus on their worries can help, as can writing down what you’re worried about and keeping those thoughts in once place like a notebook.

Share Your Workload

The sheer number of things to do during wedding planning can be overwhelming but there are some practical ways to help. Firstly, break your list down into manageable tasks. Secondly, remember it doesn’t all have to fall on you and your partner’s shoulders!

Enlist trusted bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents and friends and delegate. In the final few weeks before the wedding, good tasks to allocate out include packing up items to take to the venue, confirming supplier arrangements (put someone very trusted in charge of this) and any wedding DIY tasks. On the day, have them meeting, greeting and directing suppliers, managing guests and keeping the day on schedule

share your workload

If you have the budget, consider bringing in a wedding planner. There’s a lot of misconceptions over cost and how involved they need to be, but most have a mixture of packages and their involvement is up to you.

Be Open

Planning a wedding should be a joint process so be open with your partner if you’re struggling. Your wedding isn’t about cute table settings; it’s about making a commitment to that person to share your futures together and your health is so much more important.

Stephen at Mind emphasises how crucial speaking to your partner, family or friends can be for reducing stress. “It’s very important to open up about how you feel to someone you trust. Bottling things up only increases the pressure on you,” he warns.

You might be worrying so much that you begin to worry whether it’s cold feet. If that happens take some time out to reconnect with your partner and remember why you’re marrying them. And reassure them that you freaking out isn’t about not wanting to marry, because that’s probably stressing them out too!

Be Kind To Yourself

Forgive yourself when you make a mistake or don’t finish your tasks for that day. Nobody’s perfect and extra pressure on yourself doesn’t help. Be realistic and remember that it’s OK to need a longer engagement and it’s OK to not have every quirky bit of DIY décor you’ve seen on Pinterest. You are not a terrible bride, don’t beat yourself up.

For more information and advice, contact Mind or your local GP.